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Jealousy & the Alienating Parent – Charlie McCready

Jealousy sometimes stems from the alienating parent’s feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. They may perceive the ‘target’ parent as threatening their self-image and desire to control. The ‘target’ parent’s positive qualities, ability to bond with the children, and any attention they receive from the children may trigger feelings of inferiority. To compensate for these feelings, the alienating parent may resort to tactics like character assassination, false allegations, coercive control, limiting contact, triangulation, the silent treatment/isolation, withholding information, parentification, gaslighting, negative projection, inconsistent rules, undermining parental authority and psychological manipulation to damage or sever the ‘target’ parent’s relationship with the children.⁠

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These actions are actually defensive! Hard to believe, and they are of course, abusive. Essentially, the alienating parent – often with narcissistic traits/borderline and unwilling to address their issues – wishes to protect a fragile self-esteem. By vilifying the ‘target’ parent, they attempt to maintain a sense of superiority and control over the situation (and the children). This behaviour manifests their internal struggles and need to validate their self-worth, even at the expense of the children’s well-being.⁠

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Jealousy is the feeling of wanting something that someone else possesses, whether it’s a material possession, an attribute, a relationship (with your children in this case), or an achievement (especially being happy, being loving), and having a sense of dissatisfaction because they perceive themselves as lacking that particular thing. It’s worth remembering this when you feel down. They are jealous of you. A lot of their psychologically abusive behaviour often stems from this. ⁠

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Emotional Rape vs Narcissist

⚠️There’s a term for what narcissists and sociopaths do to their victims: Emotional Rape.

💀 It’s not just manipulation. It’s not just deception. It’s a systematic, deliberate violation of a person’s highest emotions—without their consent.

💔 The victim never stood a chance. They trusted the alluring false self that was presented to them. They believed in the love, the connection, the promises. They let the narcissist look into their soul—never imagining it would be used, twisted, and discarded.

⚠️ But here’s what makes it even more insidious:

• The bonding was fake.

• The love was a weapon.

• The trust was exploited.

• And when the narcissist was done? They walked away like nothing ever happened.

💡 So if you’re struggling to put words to what happened to you—understand this: It was real to you. And it was real abuse.

🔥 The power now belongs to YOU.

To heal. To reclaim yourself. To never let another predator exploit your light again.

Because when a narcissist walks away, they take NOTHING of value with them. You are still whole. You are still worthy. You are still YOU. 💪🏼

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