Discrimination within PAS , ChildAbuse

Discrimination

Ability to distinguish between stimuli or objects that are different from one another. 2. Ability to respond in different ways. http://psychologydictionary.org/learning/http://psychologydictionary.org/training/ 3. Treating people from different cultures differently.  Psychology Dictionary:

Parental alienation syndrome

Parental alienation syndrome (abbreviated as PAS) is a term coined by Richard A. Gardner in the early 1980s to refer to what he describes as a disorder in which a child, on an ongoing basis, belittles and insults one parent without justification, due to a combination of factors, including indoctrination by the other parent (almost exclusively as part of a child custody dispute) and the child’s own attempts to denigrate the target parent.

Jimmy Carter on Women and Discrimination
This discrimination, unjustifiably attributed to a Higher Authority, has provided a reason or excuse for the deprivation of women’s equal rights across the world for centuries.

At its most repugnant, the belief that women must be subjugated to the wishes of men excuses slavery, violence, forced prostitution, genital mutilation and national laws that omit rape as a crime. But it also costs many millions of girls and women control over their own bodies and lives, and continues to deny them fair access to education, health, employment and influence within their own communities.

The same discriminatory thinking lies behind the continuing gender gap in pay and why there are still so few women in office in the West. The root of this prejudice lies deep in our histories, but its impact is felt every day. It is not women and girls alone who suffer. It damages all of us.

Carter states how the subjugation of women was not always a part of Christianity.

“The carefully selected verses found in the Holy Scriptures to justify the superiority of men owe more to time and place – and the determination of male leaders to hold onto their influence – than eternal truths

I am also familiar with vivid descriptions in the same Scriptures in which women are revered as pre-eminent leaders. During the years of the early Christian church women served as deacons, priests, bishops, apostles, teachers and prophets. It wasn’t until the fourth century that dominant Christian leaders, all men, twisted and distorted Holy Scriptures to perpetuate their ascendant positions within the religious hierarchy.”

Many truths in the following :

The campaign of denigration is an example of the construction of family myths which are

used for the purpose of turning a child against a previously loved and loving parent.

The child is programmed to believe that her/his other parent is: worthless, selfish,

unloving, malevolent, undeserving, and dangerous, etc. The effective result is that the

children become convinced they will be happier, healthier, and better adjusted if their

targeted parent is eradicated from their lives.

Examples of the denigrating behavior are listed below and are not inclusive:

1) Sabotaging and interfering with visits or not permitting visits at all.

2) Depriving the targeted parent of important information about the child, including but

not limited to medical, educational, and social activities.

3) Not informing and excluding the targeted parent from the child’s activities, parent/

teacher conferences, birthdays, religious events, graduations, etc.

4) Programming the child against the targeted parent by belittling, criticizing, and

deprecating the targeted parent in the child’s presence.

5) Removing the targeted pictures of the targeted parent from the child’s awareness.

6) Interference with and not being supportive of contact between the targeted parent and

the child. This contact includes the telephone, text messaging, e-mailing, skype, or other

methods.

7) Making unilateral decisions in major areas regarding the child.

8) Verbally and physically abusing the targeted parent by the child and/or alienating

parent.

9) Defying the targeted parent’s supervision and authority.

10) Rejection of the targeted parent’s gifts, cards, vacations, and other offers of help

REFLEXIVE SUPPORT of the ALIENATING PARENT

The symptom called “reflexive support the alienating parent” is descriptive of the

process by which PAS children uncritically and dogmatically align with their alienating

parent, particularly when disagreements and hostilities arise between the parents. family

systems therapists labeled this coalition the “perverse triangle” whereby the child is

manipulated by one parent into forming a coalition to the disengagement of the other

parent. This interactional pattern acquired such a label because it is a dysfunctional

behavioral pattern: when a parent and child to collude (either consciously or

unconsciously) to deprecate and reject the other parent, the child often develops severe

emotional disturbances. The requirement of the coalition is a destructive demand for the

child to choose between parents: it creates a double bind in that the child must either

sever a relationship with the targeted parent or else incur the wrath and probable rejection

of the alienating parent for refusal to do so. In the face of parental disputes, PAS children

express unequivocal support for and allegiance to the feelings, opinions, and behaviors of

their alienating parent and absolute disregard for those of their alienated parent. They

assert that their alienating parent possesses a veracity above reproach in every dispute

while the alienated parent is always guilty of mendacity. Indeed, the enmeshment with

the alienator is so powerful, that these children will interpret their alienated parent’s

struggle to defend against the alienating parent’s humiliating behaviors and malicious

accusations to be an attack upon them.

PAS children, for example, uncritically align with the alienating parent even after that

parent’s allegations of domestic violence are dismissed, and even when having failed to

witness a single such incident. Whether it be issues such as child support, financial

disputes, infidelity accusations, fallacious child abuse allegations, or any matter arising in

the divorce proceedings, the PAS child will align with the alienating parent.

LACK OF AMBIVALENCE

PAS children can be predicted to recite a long list of deficits about their targeted parent

while minimizing or refuting any positive attribute or redeeming quality of that parent.

PAS children are curiously stricken with “amnesia” when it comes to acknowledging and

appreciating their targeted parent’s lifetime involvement with them. Targeted parents

receive no recognition for the time, energy, and emotional and financial support which

they had invested and continue to invest in their children. Instead, everything targeted

parents utter, accomplish, propose, and offer to their children is viewed with disdain and

negativity. The inventory of characteristics is just the reverse for the alienating parent,

who is idealized, appears to possess a halo, is perceived as capable of walking on water,

and reveals no character flaws whatsoever. PAS children have relinquished any interest

in engaging in an objective assessment of each of their parents. On the one hand, they

consider their targeted parent to be unadulterated evil. On the other hand, they

demonstrate an unshakable reverence for their alienating parent, even when an objective

observer would evaluate the alienator to possess insufferable, problematical, and even

reprehensible attributes. These children think only in terms of black and white when it

comes to their two parents.

WEAK, FRIVOLOUS, and ABSURD RATIONALIZATIONS for the DEPRECATION

This symptom no better reflects the distortion of family events or “the enshrining of

revisionist history” by the alienating parent and the PAS child about the targeted parent in

order to portray that parent in the worst possible light. PAS children remain armed with a

laundry list of vague injustices, deceptions, and disappointments which were allegedly

inflicted upon them by their targeted parent. These children exploit the opportunity to

reiterate their complaints ad nauseam when they respond with their inventory of

grievances to nearly every question asked of them about their relationship with their

targeted parent. When they are requested, however, to provide specific incidences or

explicit examples which support their accusations, they are unable to document credible,

significant, or factual examples. To the contrary, these children utter nothing more

explicit than vague comments such as “she/he lies;” “she/he is embarrassing,” “she/he is

annoying,” etc. Sometimes these children will say, “She/he is abusive,” but they will be

unable to cite specific incidences to support the claims. These children, nevertheless,

have the potential to create havoc for their targeted parent when they fabricate fantastic,

ludicrous, and exaggerated accusations to justify their deprecation, such as child abuse

allegations. What these children can specifically articulate is the nastiness of their

alienating parent as well as that parent’s corroboration of their misperceptions of the

targeted parent. The PAS thus catapults to life because of the repetitive exploitation of

deceit, untruths, and hyperbole.

If the children and alienating parent are vague about alleged injustices committed by the

targeted parent, they are very specific about allegations of child abuse and domestic

violence. But these allegations are either entirely manufactured for utterly distorted and

exaggerated.

THE INDEPENDENT-THINKER PHENOMENON

PAS children proclaim uninfluenced ownership of their “horrific” opinions of and

feelings for their targeted parent. Moreover, they accept sole responsibility for their

abusive, disrespectful and rejecting behaviors towards that parent, adamantly affirming

that their alienating parent does not encourage them in the slightest. Imagine, a child

accepting absolute culpability for their reprehensible deeds! And they will spontaneously

volunteer authorship of these ideas, frequently volunteering that their alienating parent

has not influenced their feelings and behaviors one iota.

CRUELTY towards the ALIENATED PARENT with no remorse or guilt

PAS children typically exhibit toward their targeted parent a cruelty so wounding that the

serpent’s bite pales in comparison. Pouring salt in their parent’s wounds, these children

reveal no remorse or guilt for having caused such pain.

SPREAD of ANIMOSITY to EXTENDED FAMILY of the ALIENATED PARENT

That is, the vilification and rejection of the targeted parent usually will extend to her/his

entire family of origin. These relatives, such as grandparents, who had had a previously

loving relationship with the child, will now be inexplicably rejected. The PAS child

utters no remorse regarding such rejection and expresses no feelings of loss for the

termination of these relationships. When these relatives attempt contact with the child,

their efforts go unanswered, and all requests for visits are refused.

The above excerpts are taken from the book, The Parental Alienation: A Family

Therapy and Collaborative Systems Approach to Amelioration, by Linda J. Gottlieb

Robots & Golems

In the 19th century inhumanity meant cruelty; in the 20th century it means schizoid self-alienation. The danger of the past was that men became slaves. The danger of the future is that men may become robots. True enough, robots do not rebel. But given man’s nature, robots cannot live and remain sane, they become “Golems”; they will destroy their world and themselves because they cannot stand any longer the boredom of a meaningless life.Fromm is here referencing a statement made by Adlai Stevenson at Columbia University in 1954, which he had quoted earlier in the work: “We are not in danger of becoming slaves any more, but of becoming robots.”
In the development of both capitalism and communism, as we visualize them in the next fifty or a hundred years, the processes that encourage human alienation will continue. Both systems are developing into managerial societies, their inhabitants well fed, well clad, having their wishes satisfied, and not having wishes that cannot be satisfied. Men are increasingly automatons, who make machines which act like men and produce men who act like machines; there reason deteriorates while their intelligence rises, thus creating the dangerous situation of equipping man with the greatest material power without the wisdom to use it.

In spite of increasing production and comfort, man loses more and more the sense of self, feels that his life is meaningless, even though such a feeling is largely unconscious. In the nineteenth century the problem was that God is dead; in the twentieth century the problem is that man is dead.

 

 

 

The War on Men thru Degradation of Women , jada Pickett-Smith

Jada Pinkett-Smith: “The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman”

– “How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an Jada Pinkett-Smith: “The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman

Jada Pinkett-Smith: “The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman” – “How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplet…e woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only. The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.

I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.

There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer.

He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.

He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him 4 four children.

When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.

Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.

May we all find our way.

~ Jada Pinkett-Smith, Sinuous Magazine (http://www.sinuousmag.com)

incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only. The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes. 

I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.

There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer.

He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.

He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him 4 four children.

When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.

Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.

May we all find our way.

~ Jada Pinkett-Smith, Sinuous Magazine (http://www.sinuousmag.com)

UN acknowledged Parental Alienation as Child Abuse 2015

PARENTAL ALIENATION ACKNOWLEDGED BY JUDGE

EG GE

Athens, GA

Jul 13, 2015 — Parents, Grandparents, Signatories,

On July 9th, 2015 Bill Laitner reported in The Detroit Free Press “Judge jails kids for refusing lunch with dad.” It refers to a six year long child custody case in Michigan, USA.

The news caused social media commotion about Judge Lisa Garcyca charge of contempt of court against three underage siblings for refusing contact with their alienated father. The uproar is about sending the three minors to Children’s Village, a juvenile retention center. Judge Garcyca’s ruling is a landmark decision in divorce and custody cases. On June 24th, 2015, the judge dealt with contempt of court committed by minors, equal parenting rights and parental alienation in a single hearing. The judge in a new ruling ordered the children to be sent to a summer camp instead.

The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) grant minors rights. Yet, CRC advocates such as the 18 members of the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child, social workers, appointed court specialists, schools and judicial systems among others, do not instill in minors the notions that with rights come ethics, obligations and responsibilities. Children are mislead to believe that being a minor is good enough reason to be exonerated from legal wrongdoings, unethical behavior, moral irresponsibility and incivility against their own parents and society.

From an emotional point of view, judge Garcyca’s sentence seems harsh. From a legal perspective, the children had their rights respected in accord with CRC article 12, the “Right to be Heard” in administrative and judicial situations. Their “Best Interest” was also taken into consideration as required in article 3 of the CRC. The judge offered the minors an opportunity to purge themselves from contempt of court, but the siblings blatantly refused judge Garcyca’s proposal.

Global jurisprudence is lagging behind parents and children’s dire realities. Parents and grandparents all over the world are screaming to have parental alienation criminalized. The lack of pertinent laws allows the judicial system, most times to disgracefully cooperate in the dehumanization and financial destruction of alienated mothers and fathers. As it stands today, except for Brazil and Mexico, there are not legal provisions to prevent, outlaw and penalize parental alienation. Judge Garcyca’s sentencing should be a rude awakening for antagonistic parents, children and the child industry. Hopefully, it will be the beginning of a new discourse in domestic and international family law in search of fair treatment of parents and children.

Laws to criminalize parental alienation are long overdue. Few conscientious judges have ruled to the best of their ability to stop alienation. For instance in May 2008, Canadian judge James Turnbull in an precedent ruling ordered professionally deprograming of a severely alienated child. A decision that appears to be merciful an perhaps more socially acceptable than judge Garcyca’s decision to send the children to a juvenile retention center. Much to the detriment of the parties involved, judge Turnbull decision was immediately criticized and blocked by judge Thea Herman of the Superior Court in Ontario, citing deprogramming as a controversial treatment order.

What’s next for judges and jurisprudence?
Simple, outlaw parental alienation and enforce it!

Simplistic thought, complicated solution. All child related judicial, education, health, immigration and criminal laws are impacted or rooted by the Convention on the Rights of the Child. The CRC claims of the best interest of the child has become synonymous with dishonestly. United nations and its organizations are oblivious to the social devastation caused by the interpretation and recommendations of the Committee on the Rights of the Child. The CRC treaty and the Committee derive their strength appealing to emotions through antagonist propaganda against biological parents. While Parents do not hold legal or human rights and their natural rights are callously dismissed, parental alienation, forcible removal and forcible adoption will continue to thrive and survive unpunished.

Worldwide aggravated parents must come together to eradicate parental alienation, forcible child removal and forcible adoption. A relative few conscientious judges in the world can not overturn ineffective, outdated, draconic Family Laws without the help of loud outcry from citizens. Neither will governments be willing to invoke article 52 of the CRC without the world community demanding withdrawal from the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child.

Thank you for signing and continue to share the petition,
ASK UNITED NATIONS TO RECOGNIZE PARENTAL ALIENATION AS VIOLENCE AND ABUSE AGAINST CHILDREN

Judge Lisa Garcyca sentencing news
http://www.freep.com/story/news/local/michigan/oakland/2015/07/09/divorce-custody-refuse-parenting-time-juvenile-home-charles-manson/29905867/

Judge James Turnbull sentencing news
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/judge-rules-father-brainwashed-son-into-hating-mother/article579308/

Judge Thea Herman blocks judge Turnbull order
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/judge-blocks-sending-teen-for-deprogramming-treatment/article20444170/

My Child

My Child, I Don’t Ever Want You to Forget How Much I Love You


Sometimes parents don’t make their


feelings clear; they assume that their


children know of the deep love they feel


for them. Yet when misunderstandings


occur, and things are left unsaid, it can


lead to needless doubts and insecurities.


I don’t ever want you to feel insecure,


and I want you to remember these words


I am telling you now, because they will


always be current and never changing…
 

You are the greatest thing that ever

happened to me. There is nothing I’d

rather see than your smile, and nothing

I’d rather hear than your laughter.

I am proud of the person you have

become. And no matter what happens in

your life, I have confidence in your ability

to make the right choices. I love you.

~ Barbara Cage

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