As time goes by

As time goes by,

You will loosen your grip on that rock,

The one you always thought was home,

And you will realise that home is not a place,

It’s a state of mind.

Let it go.

As time goes by,

You will learn to see yourself more clearly,

The girl who was always too much of one thing,

And too little of another, was actually

Everything she needed to be.

Let her out.

As time goes by,

You will let the simple things become the big,

And you will allow the big things to become the simple,

And that readjustment will be,

The day you really start to live,

Let it be.

As time goes by,

You will be forced to say goodbye many times,

And your soft little heart will shatter but,

It will still beat and that will bring you,

All the purpose you need.

Let it beat.

As time goes by,

You will stop choosing wealth over peace,

You will stop choosing money over time,

And you will see that the treasures you need,

Are in the smiles and the laughter.

Let them in.

As time goes by,

The moments you remember when your life flashes past,

Are never the awful memories my friend, it’s the joy,

The summer nights, the lazy days with loved ones,

The midnight chats and the morning hugs,

Let them happen.

Let them all happen.~

~Donna Ashworth

art: VisualDreams.art

Discernment

‘Perhaps you will fall in love with many people over the course of your life, but you cannot marry them all.

Some are personality infatuations.

Some represent real connections that could not be brought into being because the people were not ready or mature enough to participate effectively together.

In the moment, you will not know what is what.

So be careful about letting yourself become so infatuated with anyone.

Do not want and try to be in love.

That is blind and foolish.

There are many people who could excite the deeper passions of the heart with whom you could never function together.

You can be in love with someone whose values are so different from yours that you could not stand to be together beyond the initial romantic phase.

You will constantly be arguing, constantly in friction, constantly disagreeing, constantly maladapting to each other.

People fall in love and get married without any idea of what they are doing in their lives or where they are going.

They just assume if you are in love you should be married.

It is a great mistake.

You might feel spontaneous love for someone, but do not let yourself go overboard with that.

In relationship, you are choosing your primary influence.

You are assigning the person to be your chief influence, your chief advisor.

It is a practical arrangement, not just an emotional one.

Do not think if you work hard enough, if you love enough, you will make it all work.

This is foolishness.

You will have to work at relationship, certainly, to a degree.

You will have to adapt, certainly, to a degree.

You will have to relinquish some of your personal freedoms and recklessness to be in a real relationship, of course.

You will have to be attentive.

You will have to be honest.

You will have to be engaged.

But people take this to mean that they can make a relationship work with someone whom they want for themselves, and this is a cruel error.

To be swept along by impressions and infatuations, to allow yourself to be seduced by others, to be overtaken by beauty, wealth or charm is such a form of self-betrayal.

It is such a dangerous involvement.

It has such profoundly difficult and unfortunate consequences.

You have to be very careful here.

Who you associate with and how you associate with them has all the bearing for your life and for the kind of life you will have and the opportunities you will have.’

~ Marshall Summers

René Maltête,The Kiss, Garden of Luxembourg, Paris, 1950’s

Warning : Dating or marriage to a narcissist

“Be careful who you date and marry, because the greatest prison in the world is a home without peace.

The person you decide to share your life with will have a profound effect on your happiness, well-being, and overall trajectory. It’s crucial to understand the importance of choosing a partner who contributes to your peace rather than one who drains it.

This is especially true when dealing with narcissists, who are often referred to as toxic energy vampires, who are skilled at playing games and manipulating people.

Narcissists can be incredibly charming and convincing at the beginning of a relationship. They are experts in creating the illusion of a perfect partner, often called “love bombing”.

During this phase, you will be showered with tenderness, compliments, and attention, making you feel extremely special and appreciated. This intense flattery and focus can be intoxicating, leading you to believe you’ve found someone extraordinary.

However, this is a tactic to quickly win your trust and loyalty.

Once they have gained your affection, narcissists often begin to subtly change their behavior.

They can begin to devalue you through criticism, manipulation, and control, all while retaining a facade of charm and concern.

This gradual shift can be confusing and disorienting, leaving you to question your perceptions and feelings.

Narcissists are adept at gaslighting, a manipulative tactic designed to make you doubt your own reality and become increasingly dependent on their approval and validation.

In relationships with narcissists, the ups and downs can be extreme.

They can vary between the period of affection and approval and the period of coldness and criticism.

This cycle creates a rollercoaster of emotions, keeping you off balance and focused on reclaiming their approval. These dynamics are emotionally exhausting and can lead to a significant loss of self-esteem and self-worth over time.

A home with a narcissist is often full of tension and conflict.

Narcissists thrive in control and dominance, often disregarding your needs and feelings. Their inability to empathize with others can lead to a lack of genuine connection and mutual respect. Living in such an environment can seem like a constant battle, draining your energy and disrupting your peace and happiness.

Recognizing the signs of narcissistic behavior early on in a relationship is crucial to protect your well-being.

Look for red flags such as excessive self-centeredness, lack of empathy, need for constant admiration, and tendency to manipulate and control.

Trust your instincts and prioritize your peace and happiness. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is key when dealing with potential narcissists.

In short, be careful who you date and marry because the greatest prison in the world is a home without peace.

Narcissists, or poisonous energy vampires, are adept at playing games and manipulating people to secure their own needs and desires. By understanding their tactics and being cautious, you can protect yourself from entering a relationship that drains your energy and undermines your peace.

Your home should be a haven of love, respect, and peace, not a battleground for domination and control.

Choose wisely and choose your peace over everything else. ”

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Full Moon Aries 10/14/2024

“Just by being yourself,

That’s how you are of service to others,

whether you know it or not.

Just walking down the street being yourself, smiling, radiating happiness

and fulfillment.

How do you know that some other person walking down the street won’t just observe you and go, ‘That person makes me feel so much better. Today I was having a lousy day but now, seeing that person smile,

they’ve changed my day.’ And you never even meet that person.

“How do you know you’re not being of service just by being yourself?

Don’t think it has to look a certain way. Don’t think you even have to know about it. You are being your service when you are YOU because being YOU is your purpose in life. And when you are being YOU, you have no idea how many other people you’re affecting. You may never know.

“But you do know you are doing what you need to do to be YOU. That’s the only way you can be of service, just by being you.

If you’re someone else, how can you be of service to anyone? Because you’re not there for them to find. So trust the unfoldment of your path and know that every step along the way when You are Being Authentically YOU, You are Being of Service, whether you know it or not.”

~ Bashar, through Darryl Anka, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tRjn3WiJXc

I am worthy

Sometimes, you have to convince yourself of how worthy you are. Sometimes, you have to cheer yourself up, especially when no one is there for you. You have to be brave alone. You have to remind yourself that you are strong, worthy, and beautiful.

Sometimes, you have to constantly remind yourself about the things you deserve in order to grow as a person. Remind yourself that you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be treated well, and you deserve the things you’ve been wishing for.

Compliment yourself today. Be proud of your progress. Be proud of being a strong person. Sometimes, you just have to look in the mirror and be proud of the person you have become. You did well; always remember that. Sometimes, you just have to look in the mirror and say, “I am worthy.”

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🎨 Vladimir Volegov

Trust me

It makes no sense for you to say you love someone, and then you still say that you don’t trust them.

Trust isn’t only the foundation of love in relationships; it is the pillars, the walls, and the roof of the relationship. It is the entire structure on which love is built on.

Trust is the bedrock of every solid, meaningful relationship.

Love without trust is like building a house on quicksand; It would soon collapse.

Love without trust is like trying to drive a car without fuel; You won’t go anywhere with it.

Trust transforms love from a fleeting attraction into an unbreakable emotional bond. When trust is present, love flourishes.

Claiming to love someone and at the same time saying you don’t trust them is a misguided kind of love. If there’s no trust, you’ll second-guess their every action and their every word. That kind of toxic burden will eat away at your soul, and eventually the relationship will crumble.

Do you know what is scarier than jumping out of a plane without a parachute on? It is loving someone you can’t trust. Trust allows you to be vulnerable, to lower your shield, and that is where real love thrives. Without it, you’re only playing a high-stakes game of emotional roulette.

Look, love might light the fire, but trust keeps it burning. In a world where everyone is looking out for themselves, trust is the most valuable currency. If you can’t be sure that your partner has your back through thick and thin, what’s the point of being with them? Your love will always be under siege, constantly defending itself against the demons of doubt and suspicion.

To truly experience love, one must earn and give trust. This isn’t a one-sided transaction; both parties need to invest. Trust is that unspoken agreement, the silent promise that no matter what, you’re in this together. Strip it away, and love becomes a hollow shell.

So, is trust the foundation of love? Absolutely! Can love exist without trust?

Maybe for a bit, but it is a ticking time bomb that is destined to explode.

If you’re serious about loving that person, make trust your number-one priority with them.

Without trust, love is vulnerable and weak. Build that trust, and you both stand invincible.

And in this high-octane, cutthroat, crazy world that we live in now, invincibility is the ultimate power..

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