Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

Narcissist: unable to love- Charlie McCready

Narcissistic alienating parents are characterised by a self-centred, manipulative, and exploitative nature. They prioritise their own needs, desires, and self-image above the well-being of others, including their children. Here are some key points:

Lack of empathy: Narcissistic individuals often struggle with empathy, which is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. They have difficulty recognising and validating the emotional experiences of their children or anyone else in their lives. Their focus is primarily on themselves and their own needs.

Manipulative and controlling behaviour: Narcissistic parents tend to manipulate and control those around them to maintain a sense of power and superiority. They may use tactics such as gaslighting, guilt-tripping, emotional manipulation, and coercive control to assert dominance and maintain control over their children.

Exploitation of relationships: They view relationships as opportunities for personal gain rather than genuine connections based on mutual care and support. They may exploit their partner’s and their children’s love and loyalty to serve their own agenda, using them as extensions of themselves rather than recognising their autonomy and individual needs. This also goes for other family members and work associates, in fact, anyone in their lives.

Lack of genuine love and care: Narcissistic individuals struggle to experience and express genuine love and care for others. Their primary focus is obtaining admiration, attention, and validation. As a result, their relationships, including those with their children, lack the depth, emotional connection, and authentic care that healthy relationships require.

Superficial charm and manipulation: They often appear charming, charismatic, and even loving in the early stages of a relationship. However, their behaviour tends to be manipulative, self-serving, and inconsistent over time. Their actions are primarily driven by a need for control, admiration, and validation rather than genuine care and concern.

They lose interest when someone no longer ‘serves’ them. When someone calls out their behaviour, they’ll go on the attack to protect their interests/lies. It’s important to recognise that not all alienating parents are narcissistic, and not all narcissistic parents engage in parental alienation. But when these two dynamics intersect, the results can harm and damage the child’s well-being and the parent-child relationship.

#charliemccready

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#narcissisticabuseawareness

#narcissisticparent

#traumabonding

Wait for the man 💯🙌

Excellent post …

Not waiting , just doing the best I can at this time 🙌🌹

This is your reminder that the love you want exists, and it doesn’t come with begging.

There’s a kind of love that doesn’t leave you questioning if you’re too much.

It doesn’t leave you doing everything alone. It doesn’t make you beg for help, or affection, or to be noticed. It meets you where you are, and stays.

So, wait for him.

Wait for the man who doesn’t let you carry the weight of everything on your own.

Wait for the man who sees when you’re tired without you even having to say it out loud.

Wait for the man that will carry you to bed when you fall asleep on the couch.

Wait for the man who will stay up with you and your scary thoughts, while the rest of the world is sleeping.

Wait for the man who will always kiss you at 6 am when he’s leaving for work.

Wait for the man who makes you crack a smile, even when you’re so annoyed with him.

Wait for the man who sees your mental health going back down, and pushes you to do things for yourself.

Wait for the man who wants to know your love language, and will put the effort into learning about it.

Wait for the man who is secure in himself, so he always pushes you to be yourself.

Wait for the man who doesn’t have an issue saying “I’m sorry, I should have handled that better..”

Wait for the man who cuddles you, and it makes you so feel safe, that you never want to let go.

Wait for the man that you would be proud of, if you’re daughter was with him.

Wait for the man who doesn’t like scary movies, but will stay up watching them with you because he knows you love them.

Wait for the man who has to fall asleep touching you, even if it’s just his feet.

Wait for the man who goes out with his friends, but calls to check in just to say he misses you.

Wait for the man who is so tired from working all day, but comes home with energy, and can instantly switch in to dad/husband mode.

Wait for the man who will sit on the same side of the booth as you at a restaurant, just to be closer to you.

Wait for the man who always does what he says he’s going to do.

Wait for the man who will drive the long road trips, because highways give you anxiety.

Wait for the man who doesn’t complete you.

Wait for the man that inspires you to complete yourself, with his support and guidance.

Wait for the man, who you think may not exist, because you are “asking for too much”.

When you wait for the right man, you will realize, you were never asking for too much.

When you wait for the right man, he will make all of the arguments and rough days, feel like just small bumps along the road.

When you wait for the right man, he will show you how warm, safe, and beautiful love really is.

Ctto

#fyp

Healthy Love

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but in a healthy relationship, your feelings should never be a debate. If something hurts you, it matters.

Your partner’s role isn’t to argue about whether you should feel a certain way or to dismiss your emotions. Their role is to listen, to understand, and to do better in the future.

Healthy love isn’t about being right all the time. It’s about being kind, compassionate, and learning how to care for each other in ways that make you both feel valued and respected.

If your partner is only interested in defending their actions or minimizing your experience, it can make you feel small, unheard, and alone, even when you’re together. That’s not how it should be.

In a real, loving relationship, your partner will “want” to know what bothers you because they’ll care about your happiness. They’ll listen because they respect you, and they’ll work to grow alongside you.

And yes, sometimes they’ll mess up, but the difference is—they’ll own it.

They’ll acknowledge when they’ve caused pain, and they’ll make the effort not to repeat it. Because in love, making each other feel safe and understood is far more important than being “right” or winning an argument.

Remember, love is not a battlefield. It’s a space where both people should feel seen and supported, not where one has to constantly defend their emotions. A good partner doesn’t gaslight you into believing your feelings are invalid; they stand beside you, ready to face the discomfort and work together to build something stronger.

If you’re in a relationship where your partner listens, values your emotions, and tries to avoid hurting you in the future, hold on to that. That’s what a healthy relationship looks like.

If not, maybe it’s time to reflect on whether you’re being honored in the way you deserve. You are worthy of love that doesn’t dismiss your heart.

You deserve someone who cherishes your feelings, not someone who makes you question their validity. Keep that in mind, because at the end of the day, love should always feel like a safe place to land.

Discombobulated

Have certainly been feeling this message. I hope it’s of help for others like me,

who resonate with this too.

~ Peter Uppman ❤️🙏🏻

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You may be feeling a slight discombobulation at this moment.

One whereby in one instance you feel joyous and in another , lethargic , listless, and cloistered in your protection of Self.

One whereby the tears may flow like rain, washing away the impurities of that which may no longer cling to your new vibrational energy. One which has taken eons of time (in your terminology) to expel itself from your Being.

It has taken many moments of reflection (through the choices made in life and the experiences brought upon you) , to begin to see yourself through the energy of Love. That which has always been within you yet hidden between the shadows and the cracks of the armour in which you have placed around yourself to be of protection.

The pain has been immense , has it not? The ineptitude of those who do not understand takes its toll upon you , causing of you to retreat to your cloistered environment , allowing too few to enter your kingdom of solitude.

Yet now the gates are opening

to allow of others to enter.

Those who come seeking Oneness within the heart of another who understands.

Those who come with their own battle wounds and have had enough of the world around them – the deceit, the deception, the pain, the indifference toward another.

YOU see the world for what it is.

Those who are struggling to find their SELF, scurrying through life as if their very existence was built on the shallowness of deception. That money was the be all and end all. That nothing has any purpose other than to survive and just be in the moment in which they are Being.

And so, for souls such as your Self, you see the world differently.

One which reflects from Your vision of purity and acceptance discovered from within. One in which allowed the light of Love to enter freely. There were no restrictions. Just a belief that love will find a way and make a difference for others.

And so, with your beacon shining so brightly, others will be guided to the safety of those who understand and dwell within their hearts.

No longer interested in the 3D reality created within those who are yet to see their purpose of being, other than to be the embodiment of that which reflects to you what not is of preference.

And so you cloister yourself away.

Waiting for the moment when reality catches up with Your vision from within. One which is based on love and compassion and understanding for All.

This is yet to come in your terminology of speaking yet in ours it has already occurred, it has already happened. You are waking up to this reality within each step of belief that love will make a difference for All. (This is all)

Archangel Jophiel