Tag: relationships

Reaching that point in life

I’ve reached this point in my life.

I’ve reached the point in my life where if I’m going to have any type of relationship with an individual who is not willing to be accountable for their hurtful behavior toward me then I’m going to accept this person for they are and leave them where they belong.

You’re not going to be passive-aggressive towards me, gaslight me, or treat me with disrespect in anyway and then try to pretend things are okay by doing something nice for me to try and cover up what you just did.

Your apology needs to be as loud as your disrespect was or you can go back to where you once resided before me.

And the people who support your hurtful behavior can tag along with you on your way out of this door.

You will never be allowed to treat me in any way, shape or form that doesn’t fit in the same category as common decency.

I’m never going to allow that in my life ever again.

~ Cody Bret

Maturity Check

“We fight, we fix, we love, we stay.” That’s called maturity. It’s the ability to navigate the ups and downs of relationships with grace, humility, and a willingness to grow together.

Fighting is inevitable, but it’s how we fight that matters. Maturity means learning to communicate effectively, to listen actively, and to resolve conflicts in a healthy and constructive way.

Fixing means taking responsibility for our actions, apologizing when we’re wrong, and making amends. It involves the willingness to compromise and find common ground.

Loving means choosing to prioritize the relationship, even when it’s hard. It means showing up with empathy, compassion, and kindness, even in disagreement.

Staying means committing to the journey through the good times and the bad. It means recognizing that relationships are a journey, not a destination, and being willing to put in the work to maintain and strengthen them.

Maturity is not about being perfect; it’s about being willing to learn, grow, and evolve together. It’s about understanding that relationships involve ups and downs, twists and turns, and being willing to navigate them with courage, resilience, and love.

So, let’s embrace the fight, fix, love, and stay. Let’s choose maturity and cultivate healthy, fulfilling relationships that bring joy and happiness to our lives.

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🎨 Marius van Dokkum

Accountability

“I love accountability. I love when you’re honest. I love when you can come to me and free your mind, heart, and spirit. I’m a sucker for heart to hearts. I love being bonded by emotional intelligenceβ€”no pride, no ego, no secrets. I love raw connections.”

The beauty of accountability resonates deeply within me. There’s a profound admiration for honesty, for the courage to bare one’s soul and share the depths of one’s being. Heart-to-heart conversations hold a special place in my heart, forging bonds grounded in emotional intelligence and authenticity.

In these moments, pride and ego dissolve, giving way to raw, genuine connections.

I cherish the liberation that comes from open communication, where vulnerabilities are embraced, and secrets find solace in the light of understanding.

These raw connections, devoid of masks or pretense, are the threads that weave the tapestry of profound human relationships.

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Thank you for teacher πŸ™Œ

I choose to remember you

Not by how you hurt me

But by how you taught me to heal

Not by how you left me

But by how you taught me to never abandon myself

Not by how you broke me

But by how you taught me to rebuild myself

Not by how you dimmed my light

But by how you helped me to shine

Not by how you kept me trapped in a place of comfort

But by how you empowered me to leave my comfort zone

Not by how you left me feeling weak

But by how you taught me what it means to be strong

Not by how you tried to control me

But by how you taught me to be free

Not by who you told me who I was

But by how you taught me to define myself

And above all

I choose to remember you

Not by how you were unable to love me

But by how you taught me

To love myself.

Words by: Tahlia Hunter

If you want your wife to β€¦.

π—œπ—™ 𝗬𝗒𝗨 π—ͺ𝗔𝗑𝗧 𝗔 π—ͺπ—œπ—™π—˜, π—§π—›π—˜π—‘ π—•π—˜ 𝗔 𝗛𝗨𝗦𝗕𝗔𝗑𝗗

1. If you want your wife to make love to you often, then take care of her heart. You cannot mistreat your wife and hurt her then expect great and frequent sex.

2. If you want your wife to respect you, then you have to do respectable and admirable things. You cannot dishonour her and shame her then expect her to excuse your gross misbehavior with a blanket respect. She can’t submit to torture.

3. If you want your wife to feel safe with you and open up to you, then you have to stop emotionally and physically abusing her. You cannot instil fear and wonder why she protects herself from you.

4. If you want your wife to enjoy intimacy with you, then you have to maintain oral and body hygiene. You cannot expect your wife to enjoy kissing you and playing with your penis yet you smell of sweat, you don’t shower, don’t brush your teeth and smell of cigarette, weed or alcohol.

5. If you want your wife to stop complaining, then you need to stop repeating the same wrongs. She complains because she has to call you out when you do wrong since she believes you can be better.

6. If you want your wife to be financially transparent with you and to stop making financial decisions behind your back, then you need to start showing financial responsibility. As long as you keep being reckless, she will save and invest without your knowledge to protect her future and that of the children.

7. If you want your wife to brag about you to people, then do things that make her proud. She cannot pretend that you are a great man yet you are not.

8. If you want your wife to stop nagging and being moody, then you need to make time to spend with her and make her feel special. A woman nags and becomes grumpy when she feels neglected. A loved up wife glows.

9. If you want your wife to stop fighting your friends, then you need to stop surrounding yourself with the wrong friends and allowing your friends to pull you away from your family. You wife is just protecting you.

10. If you want your wife to be proud to be your wife, then you have to do things that make her say “Yes” to you daily. Don’t expect her to be satisfied with the title of wife just because she wears your ring, has a marriage certificate or has your child/children.

11. If you want your wife to help you and support you, then you need to have a vision and share it with her. A woman can only be a helper to a man who knows where he is going and gives her room to build with him.

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Do not want to be fixed

People do not want to be fixed,
Brokenness often gets more clicks.
In a world where attention is gold,
Pain and struggles become stories told.

Brokenness becomes a badge to wear,
A way to garner sympathy and care.
Attention flows to the ones who cry,
While those who heal silently pass by.

But true healing lies in facing the pain,
In letting go of the need for gain.
It’s not about attention or fame,
But finding peace within, a sacred flame.

So let us offer support without judgment or scorn,
Encouraging growth, helping hearts be reborn.
For in lifting each other, we mend what’s torn,
And find true healing in love’s embrace, worn.

Reality Love

Have you ever just looked at someone and thought, “I really love you”. They’re just talking or humming or watching a movie or reading a book or laughing or something, and there’s something about them in that moment, there’s a light in their eyes, something that makes you think, “I just really love you.” It’s a weird sensation to think this, but it’s pretty awesome that we can feel this way about another being.

Grown up love

Once you grow up, you realize you don’t want to be crazy in love.

You want to be calm in love,

stable in love, patient in love,

understood in love, safe in love.

Your partner should give you peace of mind and reassurance, not constant little heart attacks and high anxiety.

~Emily von Strasser

art | Lucy Alme Bird