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Nature as Partner, Not Resource: A Call for Ethical Treatment of Therapeutic Environments

This is so true , the ocean attracts for its sedative , antidepressant effects , and the forest attracts for the peace and challenges here on my mountain. Life expectancy for rural women is longer.

The disruption of these therapeutic environments has not deterred me from making my home here and even after being warned I’d be run off , I stayed .

The blow back to each and every individual who presented my challenges , is happening or has happening .

I surrendered all these grievances to Divine long ago, who allows me survival.. onward to thrive .

Patric Plesa’s ‘ethical ecology’ urges us to rethink therapeutic environments, bridging mental health with environmental ethics.
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Responsible Relationships-Patrick Weaver Ministries

Somebody else needs to hear this…When it comes to being habitually, repetitively and destructively hurt in a relationship, there’s not two but only one way to process it: as the injured person, not as the home psychologist of the perpetrator.

Hurt doesn’t hurt less because the perpetrator had a bad childhood or because the perpetrator claims to be unintentional. Hurt is the effect or impact of unacceptable behavior. Unacceptable behavior is not qualified by the perpetrators intentions or intentionality, unacceptable behavior is qualified by the victim’s pain.

If a person is being pained, harmed, abused, destroyed, cut down and defiled —— mentally, emotionally or physically, the perpetrator’s behavior has to have consequences. Without consequences for repeated, unacceptable and harmful behavior, a perpetrator is taught that their behavior should be accepted, equated with love and owed tolerance. With consequences, a perpetrator has to make a choice, seek help and successfully resolve the inner problems that provoke them to hurt people or be removed. Any other choice breeds contempt for change.

We don’t help someone to get better or do better by absolving them of the responsibilities of love and relationship. Relationship is optional, respect is required —— and their history, insecurity or emotional immaturity does not negate that fact…for a healthy relationship.

Relationship has boundaries, and boundaries aren’t subject to how someone was raised, insecurities or emotional immaturity. Some people will have to grow up, heal or mature before they can be in a healthy relationship. People do better when they know better and learn better…because they want better. The privileges of relationship come with the responsibilities of relationship…and without responsibilities, there is no relationship.

Carry On!

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This is wonderful and substantiates all my experience and research !!

“What if mental disorders like anxiety, depression or post-traumatic stress disorder aren’t mental disorders at all? In a compelling new paper, biological anthropologists call on the scientific community to rethink mental illness. With a thorough review of the evidence, they show good reasons to think of depression or PTSD as responses to adversity rather than chemical imbalances.”

The quote above was pulled directly from a 2020 Forbes article about Mental Health (which outlines an awesome academic article from the American Journal of Physical Anthropology).

Now, I’ve been saying that stuff for years, but it’s really nice to see this information becoming more widespread.

It breaks my heart to see how many people still let the label of a ‘disorder’ convince them that they’re stuck with their problem and doomed to suffer with it their whole lives, stuffing their pain away with medication and trying to ‘logic away’ their issues by hunting down all of their core trauma with a therapist.

I know… I know… Everybody is clinging onto this physiological explanation and thinks that the only way to deal with these problems is with medication and psychoanalysis.

But the students I work with go from spending all of their energy just trying to keep from breaking down on a daily basis, to shedding the shackles of their diagnosed ‘disorders’, and living a life of true self-expression and self-love, free from anxiety, guilt, shame, stress, over-thinking, and more…

Yes. It’s true that traditional talk therapy and medication MIGHT help us manage our symptoms and allow us to survive our day to day lives better, but they rarely manage to get us fully out of our cycles and into the full version of ourselves that we’re capable of being when we truly master our emotions and learn to release the unresolved trauma and fear that we carry around with us

Meanwhile, the people I’ve worked with have been learning and developing the emotional muscles and skills necessary to enjoy their lives more fully, while turning every moment of emotional distress into a moment of healing that actually makes them stronger, happier, and more free from all of the weight of their past trauma. And they do this WITHOUT needing to focus on that past pain and trauma directly.

Not just that, they are ridding themselves of toxic relationships and self-harming defense mechanisms that have been keeping them stuck in EVERY area of their lives!

Want to see how to do this? Register for my brand new masterclass below, and I’ll share with you the simple secrets that can get you to the other side of this healing journey in record time.

It’s 100% free. Just click the link, and let’s get going.

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(Art by Gary Larson – Far Side Comics)

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Be yourself

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,

and remember what peace

there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender

be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly

and clearly;

and listen to others,

even the dull and the ignorant;

they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,

they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself

with others,

you may become vain and bitter;

for always there will be greater

and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well

as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;

it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs;

for the world is full of trickery

But let this not blind you to what

virtue there is;

many persons strive for high ideals;

and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.

Especially, do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love;

for in the face of all aridity

and disenchantment

it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,

gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.

But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,

be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,

whatever you conceive Him to be,

and whatever your labors and aspirations,

in the noisy confusion of life

keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery,

and broken dreams,

it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful.

Strive to be happy. ~Max Ehrmann

(Book: Desiderata https://amzn.to/3KvRZjo)

(Art: Photograph by Albarrán Cabrera)

Wise Woman speaks to “ over loading “

Then I stopped wearing tight clothes, changed chairs, bought orthopedic belts, did yoga, pilates, went to chiropractors and doctors of all kinds, but the pain continued, weight, burden, discomfort that didn’t let me sleep and sometimes it even had a hard time breathing…

What about then? Wat did u do ?

A wise woman … told me it was because I over load for too long.

How did she know about this?

Just looking at my tense and compressed spine, just feeling with the touch of her old and swollen hands my naked skin she knew…

What about then? What did she tell you?

I said… So much pressures carried over the years, so much pain and resentment that you lost count, carrying the weight of your own world and that of others…

And then I exhaled every breath I had been holding for over two decades…

Did she tell you how to heal?

She held my hands in hers, in those old lady hands, made me lower my hands, release my shoulders, lifted my chin and leaned behind me.

Your lips shaved my ear and softly said to me:

“Not everything is your fault”
“Not everything is your responsibility”
“You can’t do it all”
“You can’t solve everything”
“You don’t have to accept everything”

And my eyes started to shed thick tears like broken crystals, there was a moment where I thought I would cry blood, from so much pain I was feeling.

Little by little my shoulders returned to their place, my neck became soft and lifted again, my back crept up like it hadn’t happened in years and I heard my bones emit a scary crunch…

The weight of the world had come off my shoulders, the weight of the past had finally come down to the floor and was going to be used as a stepping stone…

Has she told you anything else?

His wolf eyes looked at me expectantly and said:

There are pains that carry in the heart and there is no way to remove them easily, learn to let go of the past or you will end up drowning your future… and also understand that unforgiveness hurts more than the one who cannot forgive.
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Love and Light,
Healing World

The split has begun

My life is calm , if not peaceful, as the unraveling , revelations cast light , that is not seen nor acknowledged by one’s held dear in my heart .

Wobbly is definitely how it feels , and I definitely want and need more on my own time, as I pray and hold patience.

All is not as it should be and that’s coming , soon.

As I hold space , for others, in their own journey , their own destination , while I am in reality holding plan B , and a ” fuck it bucket” for those things I release, those things and people that have no interest in rising to their higher self, the self of higher power , of knowing yourself and your gifts .

For over 20 years , I have exampled the monster in the closet , disposal, hatred and vengeance , the lack of love and respect and a preference to lie , cheat and steal , in order to own power that’s distorted realities .

My miss is my mercy , and so happily , I seek my home , a fall of preparing , a winter of rest and writing , and peace in my heart .

I never wanted certain things to be hopeless, and I prefer to have faith that what’s meant for me will be : Thy Will Be Done .

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Festival of Lammas 7-31

‘’The festival of Lammas (Loaf Mass, the feast of bread) falls on the wheel of the year halfway between Litha, the Summer Solstice and Mabon, the Autumn Equinox. The calendared date for the festival is August 1st or 2nd. This is the first harvest festival of the year. At this festival we experience maturity, the joy of community, and we celebrate collaboration and union. It is a pause, a time to congratulate and express gratitude to our body, our family and friends, partners, community, and the earth. It reminds us of interdependence, giving and receiving, and the need to support and be harmonious.

We are able to slow down into flow as preparation for the winter months complete, the food is gathered in, and the element of water enters into our energy field. Our connection to Goddess and our interdependence on her body for our life is at its peak. Goddess has conceived, gestated, and birthed life. Now she will

regenerate. It is time for her and us to journey inward again. Motherhood and nurturance are celebrated fully at this festival as the Crone, the dark, calls us more insistently. The spring and summer are exhausted. We have completed the outer action. At Lammas we pause, say thank you and release, let go. Like the earth, we are ready to rest, integrate and renew.’’

– Kay Louise Aldred, ‘Mentorship with Goddess: Growing Sacred Womanhood’ – Girl God Books

Art by Holly Sierra

Being alone ( on your own)

Midwives of the Soul

The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.

~Osho, The Power of Love. [ https://amzn.to/44xHS5F ]

art | Selma Mera, Twitter.