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Real Friends

REAL FRIENDS CAN’T BE LOST

“You cannot lose real friends.

You just can’t.

They won’t go, no matter how hard you push them away when you are not yourself.

They will wait

and wait

and wait,

until they see a tiny glimmer of your light breaking through

and back they will come with open arms.

Your real friends are still there.

And if they feel lost to you right now,

perhaps it’s because they are lost to themselves.

Just wait

and wait

and wait,

then knock on that door,

reach in, just in case they can’t reach out.

And do it again until they answer.

If you are feeling sad about the people you have ‘lost’ along the way my friend,

don’t.

They were never yours to keep.

The real ones don’t need to be earned, or appeased, or coaxed.

They are in it for the long haul and for all the right reasons.

And each of those friends is worth a dozen fair-weather,

so count your lucky stars if you have one.

Keep your circle small but let its light be mighty.

You can’t lose real friends, they just won’t go.”

Donna Ashworth – Real Friends Can’t Be Lost (The Right Words)

Artist: Tarn Ellis

Pairing by Whispers from the Heart

Fake Friends / Keep your circle small

KEEP YOUR CIRCLE SMALL

A Short Valuable Story

A young girl asked an elderly woman:

“Do I really need friends in life?”

The elderly woman responded:

“Yes. Life is truly very rough. There should be someone by your side with whom you can talk for hours without feeling that they would judge you; on whose shoulders you can cry, one who will give you emotional support. When no one will be there for you, they should be there. One who should help you share the good times and overcome the difficult ones.”

The young girl asked:

“Is it true that a fake friend is more dangerous than an enemy?”

The elderly woman responded:

“Yes. It’s because you know who your enemy is and you’re not going to let them get close to you. But a false friend is pretending while getting your trust. They find out your vulnerabilities, your secrets and your dreams. They know which button to press and how to stab you in the back.”

The young girl asked:

“How do I avoid being surrounded by fake friends?”

The elderly woman paused for a short moment, then asked,

“Between a small garden and a forest, which one has more snakes and scorpions?”

The young girl responded:

“The forest, sure!”

The elderly woman smiled, and then said:

“Good! When you keep your circle of friends small like a small garden, the less snakes and scorpions you have to worry about, even rats. The fewer people you hang out with, the fewer problems you have to deal with. When I was young, I had a very big group of friends. But as I grew old and wise with experience, my circle of friends became smaller. I realized that quality outweighs quantity when it comes to friendship. Don’t fool yourself by holding onto the illusion that everyone is your friend. You may have numerous acquaintances, but real friends will always be just a few people you love and trust. The best way to prevent yourself from falling into the fake friend trap is by being more mindful about the size of your circle.”

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Being my friend – Charlotte’s Web

“‘Why did you do all this for me?’ Wilbur asked. ‘I don’t deserve it. I’ve never done anything for you.’ ‘You have been my friend,’ replied Charlotte. ‘That in itself is a tremendous thing. I wove my webs for you because I liked you. After all, what’s a life, anyway? We’re born, we live a little while, we die… By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift up my life a trifle.

Heaven knows anyone’s life can stand a little of that.’”

~From Charlotte’s Web by Elwyn Brooks, “E.B.” White

Friendships , after , is Land of Disturbia Kim Seeade

What’s the most common reason narcissists want to be friends? They know you’re still longing for them.

The friends (with-benefits) dynamic gives narcissists free rein to sleep with other people. And many times, the narcissist will enjoy having multiple sex partners while you’re still pining over your relationship and hoping things might change.

Even worse, you may become their confidante for the “relationship troubles” they’re having with the new supply! Imagine having to hear the breakdown of how much they care about the new supply, how they’re thinking of popping the question, or even how the new supply isn’t meeting their physical desires!

Being friends with the narcissist simply means they will continue using you and playing with your mind, only without any expectations for reciprocation.

Tools and resources here: https://tap.bio/@kim.saeed

Your friend on the journey,

Kim

Can’t loose real friend

“You cannot lose real friends.

You just can’t.

They won’t go, no matter how hard you push them away when you are not yourself.

They will wait

and wait

and wait,

until they see a tiny glimmer of your light breaking through

and back they will come, with open arms.

Your real friends are still there.

And if they feel lost to you right now,

perhaps it’s because they are lost to themselves.

Just wait

and wait

and wait,

then knock on that door,

reach in, just in case they can’t reach out.

And do it again until they answer.

If you are feeling sad about the people you have ‘lost’ along the way my friend,

don’t.

They were never yours to keep.

Real friends don’t need to be earned, or appeased, or coaxed.

They are in it for the long haul and for all the right reasons.

And each of those friends is worth a dozen fair-weather,

so count your lucky stars if you have even one.

Keep your circle small but let its light be mighty.

You can’t lose real friends,

they just won’t go.”

~By Donna Ashworth

From ‘the right words’ ~🧡

Artist : Shelly Penko

Bow Out , Gracefully

My Mom once told me that she walked into a room where a couple of friends were discussing her, they didn’t know she was there. She shook her head, smiled and walked away. 🕊
My Mom also told me that she had a friend who talked bad about her, she never knew that Mom found out, Mom never mentioned it. She smiled and walked away from this friendship. 🕊
She told me she had family who chose to shift her out of their life because she stood up for herself for a change. And because she stopped crossing oceans for them when they would not even help her cross a bridge. She smiled, shook her head and walked away. 🕊
So I asked her how she could just walk away from people that betrayed her while pretending to be her friends or family? 🕊
She answered that every time she came to a crossroad like that, she had to decide who will be going forward on her journey with her. This showed her who she cannot take along with her. 🕊
So she explained to me that you should never get mad at a person who betrays you, even in the name of friendship or family. Just gracefully bow out and enjoy your journey with all the new people God puts in their place. 🕊