Tag: Elders

As time goes by

As time goes by,

You will loosen your grip on that rock,

The one you always thought was home,

And you will realize that home is not a place,

It’s a state of mind.

Let it go.

As time goes by,

You will learn to see yourself more clearly,

The girl who was always too much of one thing,

And too little of another, was actually

Everything she needed to be.

Let her out.

As time goes by,

You will let the simple things become the big,

And you will allow the big things to become the simple,

And that readjustment will be,

The day you really start to live,

Let it be.

As time goes by,

You will be forced to say goodbye many times,

And your soft little heart will shatter but,

It will still beat and that will bring you,

All the purpose you need.

Let it beat.

As time goes by,

You will stop choosing wealth over peace,

You will stop choosing money over time,

And you will see that the treasures you need,

Are in the smiles and the laughter.

Let them in.

As time goes by,

The moments you remember when your life flashes past,

Are never the awful memories my friend, it’s the joy,

The summer nights, the lazy days with loved ones,

The midnight chats and the morning hugs,

Let them happen.

Let them all happen.

✍🏻 Donna Ashworth

Aging & Family

I am 82 years old, 4 children, 11 grandchildren, 2 great-grandchildren and a 3 x 3 room in a nursing home where they left me stranded.

I no longer have my house or my beloved things, but I do have someone who fixes my room, makes my food and bed, takes my blood pressure and weighs me.

I no longer have the laughter of my grandchildren, seeing them grow, hug each other and fight; some come to see me every 15 days; others, every three or four months; others, never…

I no longer make croquettes, or deviled eggs, or minced meat curls, or knit, or crochet.

I still have a hobby of doing Sudoku that is somewhat entertaining.

I don’t know how long I will have left, but I must get used to this loneliness; I go to occupational therapy and help those who are worse off than me as much as I can, although I don’t want to get too close. They disappear frequently.

They say that life gets longer and longer.

So that?

When I’m alone, I can look at photos of my family and some souvenirs from home that I brought back.

And that’s all.

I hope that the next generations see that the family is formed to have a tomorrow (with the children) and give back to our parents the time they gave us when raising us.

“Taking care of someone who has already taken care of us is the greatest honor.”

Credits: Ofelia Rodriguez

82 year old , speaks truth , on family❤️

Writing found from a nursing home resident.

“I am 82 years old, I have 4 children, 11 grandchildren, 2 great-grandchildren and a room of 12 square meters.

I no longer have a home or expensive things, but I have someone who will clean my room, prepare food and change my bedding, measure my blood pressure and weigh me.

I no longer have the laughter of my grandchildren around me, I don’t see them growing, hugging and arguing. Some come to me every 15 days, some every three or four months, and some never.

I don’t bake cakes anymore, I don’t dig up the garden. I still have hobbies and I like to read, but my eyes quickly hurt.

I don’t know how much longer, but I have to get used to this loneliness. Here at this home, I lead group work and help those who are worse than me as much as I can.

Until recently, I read aloud to an immobile woman in the room next to me, we used to sing together, but she died the other day.

They say life is getting longer. Why? When I’m alone, I can look at photos of my family and memories I brought from home. And that’s all. I miss them.

I hope that the next generations will understand that families are born to have a future (with children) and that they do not forget about the family even in old age.”

PLEASE DON’T FORGET YOUR LOVED ONES.

Wisdom of Aging

I became aware of Dad’s many fails after his fall that rendered him outside in weather on ground for 3 nights /4 days . He survived heroically , but could not over come the side effects of D- rated medical care in the USA .

He had a few falls after the hospital and rehab due to the carelessness of his caretakers .

I hope that I can wind up my efforts with Child Psychological Abuse and work in the area of elders care and rights .