Tag: consciousness

Marriage is a conversation

Nietzsche once remarked that marriage is a conversation, a long dialogue. If a person is not ready to engage in such a prolonged dialogue, they are not ready for long-term close relationships. Many long-married couples have long since exhausted all topics of conversation because each spouse has stopped developing their individuality.

By focusing on individual growth, we each gain an interesting conversation partner. To halt one’s own development, even in the interest of another person, means admitting that your spouse will have to live with someone who feels anger and suffers from depression. Such marital relationships need to be radically reconsidered, or they will simply lose their meaning.

— James Hollis, The Middle Passage

Love : A call to rise 🙏🙌💯❤️

Love doesn’t always come packaged in the neat, predictable ways you might expect. It doesn’t come with a warning or an instruction manual. It arrives as a soft whisper when you’re barely listening or as a storm just when you thought you had shelter. Love finds you at your most unguarded, slipping into your life through the cracks of your everyday routine, often when you’re too busy or afraid to notice. It has a divine purpose, wrapped in the mystery of timing and circumstance. And when it finally enters your world, it’s never about perfect timing—it’s about perfect alignment.

The one who stands before you now, who has knocked at the door of your heart, will not be flawless. Like you, they will come with stories, scars, and complexities. They may arrive when your hands are full, your life tangled in responsibilities and dreams not yet realized. Love’s arrival might even feel like an inconvenience, as if the universe dared to test your limits by sending someone when you thought you couldn’t handle more. But your soul recognizes them. In that quiet place deep within, there’s a knowing that defies logic—a spark that dances just beneath the chaos, whispering that this, all of this, is meant to be.

Together, you will face the obstacles that life always throws in the path of the brave and the vulnerable. You will confront doubts and fears, both your own and each other’s. Sometimes, your mind will rebel, reasoning with sharp certainty that this cannot work or that it’s too hard or messy. But love, true love, is not for the faint-hearted. It is forged in the fires of persistence and faith. How you navigate these storms, choose to stay or run, forgive or hold on to anger—these choices will shape the foundation of your love story. And despite the odds and weariness of the journey, remember this: love is enough. It always has been, and it always will be. Its roots run deeper than the toughest soil and will find a way to bloom even through the hardest droughts.

Because love doesn’t make mistakes. It doesn’t arrive uninvited or by accident. If your soul has called someone into your life, it is because your heart and theirs were meant to meet, learn, grow, and mirror the divine unfolding of each other’s journey. Perhaps, in the grand dance of the cosmos, your connection is not simply about romance but about awakening—about challenging each other to evolve to become the fullest versions of yourselves. And if you dare to listen—to truly listen—to your heart’s quiet guidance, this could be the beginning of something that transcends the mundane, something that forever shifts the axis of your world.

In the end, love is not just a feeling; it is a call to rise, to see beyond the surface of what is, and to touch the sacred fabric of what could be. The voice says, even in the darkness, that you are not alone, that there is a reason you are here, right now, with this person. And though the path may twist and turn and the hurdles may seem insurmountable, love is the light that will lead you both home. To each other. To the truth of who you are. To the exquisite beauty of a soul-deep connection that, once found, cannot be forgotten.

Katie Kamara

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Unwanted things

I think there is something about people who were abused/neglected as kids that makes us embrace things that others consider monstrous. i dont think its a coincidence most of us like “creepy” animals like rats and crows. i dont think its a coincidence that we are the first to jump to the defense of “worthless” plants like dandelions. its why we get so attached to old toys and broken things. when you spend your whole life believing you’re not wanted, it turns you into a defender of the other unwanted things in the world. and you’re not just protecting them – you’re protecting the part of yourself that still believes you deserve to exist. just like they do. just like we all do.

Love yourself deeper than the pain of abuse ; you’re worth it

THIS IS FOR ANYONE WHO HAS SUFFERED FROM AN ABUSIVE AND NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP!

I know you went through all of it:

The pain.

The fights.

The screaming.

The gaslighting.

The guilt-tripping.

The threats.

The manipulations.

The emotional abuse.

The trauma.

The affairs.

Even worse, the physical abuse.

You called it love but the person who put you through this made you believe you’re being delusional. They made you think you’re the problem and that it’s your fault why the relationship failed.

You begged for them to stay.

You sent long texts and called a hundred times — but they never answered.

You had to throw away your dignity because you’d rather lose yourself than lose someone you love.

You cried for weeks and months, but there’s nothing else you could do to change what happened.

You went through hell but they just don’t care at all.

I hear you. I see you. I know how it felt because I’ve been there.

I want to remind you that this pain will not last forever. You didn’t do anything wrong for demanding to be treated right. They’re just not meant for you.

I swear that someday, you will heal, my love.

Please don’t blame yourself for loving deeper than the pain they gave you.

You are worth it and that will never change even after everything you’ve been through.

Please remember these words all too well.

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Platonic Love

Platonic love-

It is the purest form of love I have ever found.

Familial love is certainly the strongest,

But filled with obligations and duties,

And so often is stained by secret, year-old resentment.

Romantic love is what we are taught to long for

from an early age.

But it is sullied by sexual desire,

By cheating, lying, pain and jealousy.

Platonic love is my favorite of them all. To see a person, get to know them,

And choose to walk the path of life together.

Not because you have to,

Not because you desire each other, But because you truly admire them, To the core of their being.

I have never felt

more cared for, more seen, more loved,

than when I am with my dearest friends.

Relationship truths

The intentional deceits, continued indiscretions, many known by friends and family who remained silent and or just disappeared.

I’m at peace with not being connected to anyone who doesn’t authentically want to connect with me deeply . That’s a place for one , no thirds , no left overs , no more imbalanced relationships .

One day you will realize that the same person is not found twice in life. Not everyone is replaceable. Be careful who you hurt.

In this fast-paced, ever-evolving world, we often take relationships for granted. We live in a culture that promotes moving on quickly, finding something or someone new to fill the void. But there comes a moment, often when it’s too late, that you realize certain people are irreplaceable. The unique essence they bring to your life, the way they understand your soul, and the connection you share cannot be duplicated. No matter how many new faces you meet, the bond you had with that one special person—be it a friend, a partner, or even a mentor—was singular. And losing that connection leaves an imprint that no one else can fill. It’s only when they’re gone that the weight of their absence truly sinks in, and the harsh truth hits: the same person does not come twice in a lifetime.

We often hurt those closest to us without fully realizing the magnitude of the damage. In moments of frustration, anger, or pride, we say things, do things, or fail to do things that cut deeply into the hearts of those who care about us. And we assume that apologies, time, or distance will heal everything, that life will go on, and there will always be another chance to make things right. But what if there isn’t? What if the person you hurt is the one whose presence you’ll never be able to replace? The one whose laughter, whose love, whose companionship was meant to walk with you through life’s trials and joys? The truth is, not everyone is replaceable. Some souls touch ours in ways that forever change us, and to lose them is to lose a piece of ourselves.

Be careful who you hurt.

There’s a reason this warning feels so profound. Hurting someone isn’t just about breaking trust or causing momentary pain; it’s about altering the course of a relationship that may never recover. And while we often think we have time to mend what’s broken, the reality is that sometimes, we don’t. Time doesn’t always heal; sometimes, it only widens the gap between two hearts that once beat in sync. The wounds we inflict in moments of carelessness or neglect can run deeper than we imagine. Words said in haste or actions taken in selfishness have a way of echoing in the minds of those we hurt, long after the moment has passed.

Not everyone will give you another chance. Not everyone will be there waiting for you to come to your senses, to apologize, to grow. Some people, once they’ve been hurt, once they feel betrayed or unloved, will quietly walk away. And when you realize what you’ve lost, it will be too late. The space they occupied in your life will remain, but their presence, their light, their love, will be gone. You’ll search for them in others, but you’ll never find the same soul, the same connection, the same magic.

So, be mindful of your words. Be intentional with your actions. Recognize the people who truly matter in your life and treat them with the care they deserve. Love them fully while they’re still within your reach, because one day, you may realize just how rare they are—and by then, they might be gone. Life is fleeting, and relationships are fragile. Don’t let pride, ego, or carelessness ruin something beautiful.
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Strength

“There is a kind of secret strength.

It lives in you and no one, not even you, knows it’s there.

It lives inside you, waiting for the day it’s needed, waiting for the darkest hour of the darkest night. And then, when you are defeated, when your heart is so broken you don’t know if it can ever be put back together again, it whispers,

“Hello. You don’t know me. But I am here.”

— lain S. Thomas

[ Art • “Gorgon Medusa • Mirror of Memory” by Lilia Osipova ]