Tag: abuse narcissistic behavior

Projection

Quite the expert at escaping him self or responsibilities that he could , he projected his lowest self projections upon me and taught our children and grandchildren and in laws to see me as such .

I sense he enjoyed it , or that being powerless in his own home as a child and young men with women ruling .

I

www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/projection

Bella Luna – No walking it backwards ; Upgrades

I have received so much guidance on this that I know I must

release , more from my life , and accept that it could be forever .

Hardly supportive , positive or healing , much the opposite , and

noting words , with no action has been the response for 45 years

much to the harm done to my soul …it does rot the faith in

healing, growth and moving forward , consciously. . To the better

outcome for each individual. So I am Thankful

for all that got me here , I forgive and surrender to not walking

the path of spiritual enlightenment with everyone , but given the

light in regards to the past , of facts that I cannot and will not hold in

meaning anymore than they did . Revelation was and is and always

will be , that my role as wife and mother were my reality in a past that

exposed Hell on Earth , and ongoing effort to hold me there and or

eliminate , my truth , time after time ….I am surrendered to not

needing or desiring repeating or experiencing the words them in

the shadow… I recall the experience , was stuck for a long time ,

challenged on many levels , but I stayed focused , in between

In between challenges , that entertained the “ committee “

who ate “ too busy “ and “ not interested” to care , for over 20 years.

Over 24 years

Was it reality before that .? I thought so, I have even experienced

attempts by them to draw close , but then it’s gone, poof .

Forgiving them , frees me up, so creating more opportunities for

challenges , are put out there , and occasionally hit , UNTIL , I say

NO.

This is me saying NO..

Many years, fears, and tears brought me here, with the feeling all

my life , was I deserve better, indeed to be heard , to be seen , to

know I matter..

At the behest of Divine , and at the disturbance of “ blockers” ( who will

comprehend , justice , very soon ) to move forward , completion of

these challenging years , my dreams take root .

And I am ever ready, for the 110% peace ✌️peace, and rest that is

a major part of my personal dream…

I don’t hate them, perhaps all of this was Karmic, but understanding

all the drama and trauma that I encountered , grew my strength , self

love, self forgiveness , and discernment .

Absolutely, not walking it back…. Love our kiddos , wish the best for

the ex, and those who have tried to negatively influence my life

but as I watched , in anger sometimes, fear , or even “ what the

fuck” I witnessed the karmic lesson that was gonna find them

and how , and I didn’t want that… no revenge , just settling up

I had to accept the Free Will , and my efforts to assist them, would

not benefit my progress.

So , I release, surrender , let go… I proceed with the clearing of financial

, contracts etc ..business , but 2023 has brought me to this place

that has been seeded many years, so much loss and delay , but

so happy that Spiritually , I did not fail , and I’m assured I need not do

or say more , or hold anger , because justice is coming , not my choice

but no longer to be denied , due to Universal Law .

I let it Be …

I don’t participate

End Game 👍🔥🎁 which is not my thing … tricks and games are for

Kiddo

As was stated by our child, “All this to make you grow up “

Thank you 🙏🏼 child .. it’s an inside out job, and indeed entirely my job to do.

Blessings & Peace ,

Dona Luna 🐸☀️🌞

Kim Saeed – Love isn’t always enough

“Love can conquer all” sounds nice, but it’s not always true. Especially if you’re in an abusive relationship.

For too long, we’ve been told by counselors, church elders, and well-meaning friends and family that we should hold space for people who aren’t showing up healthily.

They say you just need to love their wounded parts, and gradually, they will heal.

This narrative is a large part of why we’re now seeing such an uprise in toxic/abusive relationships. We’ve essentially nurtured abusive tendencies instead of the other way around.

When you are dealing with an abuser, perseverance and doing the work will not motivate them to see the extraordinary efforts you are making. They won’t have The Divine Epiphany, where the clouds part and the angels touch down, instilling keen insight into an abuser’s brain as to the damage they’re causing or what a chance for true love they’re throwing away.

This might happen in the movies, but not in real life.

Tools, resources, and guidance: https://tap.bio/@kim.saeed

Always thinking of you,

Kim 🕊️

Conflict Communications – Child Psychological Abuse

I regret I spoke truths sons were not ready for.. I regret they carry the anger , hostility, and fears of their Dad that allow them to target me and relay how worthless I am .

I regret I did not have an awareness in 2003 , as I began to wake , eventually understanding the gravity of decisions made when I wasn’t awake, or alert to schemes to separate me from anything normal in so many ways including the rejection of me , so Dad would be happy ..

I regret , but am surrendered after over 2 decades that I remain the monster in their closets , they are happy and secure in the love and family dynamic of a Dad who had to WIN, at everything , disregarding the abuses of each child and myself .

They have families, they have children , and their own destiny which they have allowed me to know doesn’t include me .

Change not happening ., for the uncaring

Did you know that narcissists share the same brain abnormalities as psychopaths regarding their inability to feel remorse or compassion?

Narcissists are also a close second to psychopaths on The Dark Triad.

When we first started learning about narcissism, most of the material we encountered was clear about how dangerous narcissists are and how detrimental it is to be in relationships with them.

But now, much of the material about narcissism is leaning more towards the “self-aware” narcissist or the “vulnerable” narcissist, comparing narcissists to their targets, comparing their inner wounds, and claiming that there are ways to make things work with a narcissistic individual.

But, toxic relationships don’t suddenly become healthy. People aren’t coming forward with the success story of the decade because the narcissist they know has suddenly had The Divine Epiphany and is deeply remorseful about their wicked ways.

If narcissists are truly evolving and becoming ‘self-aware’, why aren’t we seeing any real-life examples of improved behaviors and relationships?

If psychopaths cannot be rehabilitated due to their brain abnormalities, it only makes sense that narcissists cannot be rehabilitated, either.

You can read all day about how narcissists are improving with therapy or some other modality, but the neuroscience cannot be denied.

Narcissists cannot learn or develop empathy. Just like psychopaths, all they can do is pretend.

Your friend on the journey. Xo

Kim

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Narcissist never co parent , it’s always counter parenting .

Narcissists don’t co-parent!

They don’t want to fall in line and do the right thing!

They don’t want to be held accountable, follow the rules and regulations, and don’t want to be harmonious!

They don’t want to play on a team!

The only thing a narcissist is interested in – is narcissistic supply.

This means, “I can affect other people significantly enough to know that I exist.” It’s the attention they crave more than anything else.

So, when you are attempting to co-parent with a narcissist, he or she is going to trigger you. They’re going to be uncooperative. They’re going to say one thing and do another. They will use the children as pawns, absolutely to trigger you to get a reaction, which means – I’m significant enough to affect you.

A narcissist wants to play games and use all of these tactics to punish you.

How dare you leave them? Or how dare you try and get on with your life? Or how dare you tell other people what they are or how they behave? How dare you?

The false self can’t deal with that.

So, punishing you by using the children as pawns is a very, very common tactic.

Lots of Love,

Mel 🦋