Category: Parential Alienation-Child Abuse

Craig Childress PsyD ParentChild Contact Problems

If a psychologist uses the terms – “parental alienation” – “resist-refuse dynamic” – “Parent-Child Contact Problems” – they are ignorant – they lack knowledge or information.

Google ignorant: lack of knowledge or information

The reason they have to use made-up pathology labels is because they are ignorant about real things – they are awful psychologists – ignorant like a rock.

It’s the trans-generational transmission of trauma. It’s child psychological abuse (DSM-5 V995.51). It’s attachment pathology, a problem in love-and-bonding. It’s spousal abuse using the child as the weapon (DSM-5 V995.82). It’s a cross-generational coalition and emotional cutoff (Minuchin, Bowen, Haley, Madanes; family systems). It’s a shared (induced) persecutory delusion (DSM-5 297.1). It’s a false (factitious) attachment pathology imposed on the child for secondary gain to the allied parent (FDIA: DSM-5 300.19).

There’s a lot of things it is – real things – diagnosable and treatable things.

Unless… you don’t know what those things are. If you lack knowledge and information about real things, you have to hide your ignorance behind things you simply make-up – like “parental alienation” – “resist-refuse dynamic” – “Parent-Child Conflict Problems.”

Here’s a tip… if a pathology exists ONLY in the family courts, it’s not a real pathology. Use the DSM-5 to identify (diagnose) pathology. Start there.

DSM-5 297.1 Delusional Disorder (shared); persecutory type.

DSM-5 300.19 Factitious Disorder Imposed on Another

DSM-5 V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse

DSM-5 V995.82 Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological

Start with applying the established knowledge of the DSM-5 diagnostic system to identify (diagnose) what the problem (pathology) is.

If you still need new forms of pathology to explain what the pathology is – then – and only then – propose your new “resist-refuse dynamic” as a new pathology unique in all of mental health.

After applying the DSM-5. Not before. Not instead of. After applying established knowledge. Start with the DSM-5.

We need standards – forensic custody evaluators are the worst psychologists imaginable – ignorant like a rock.

It’s a “tell” on professional ignorance. If the professional has to use made-up pathology labels… they lack knowledge or information… they are ignorant by definition of the English language.

If you, the patient, have to explain the pathology to the doctor, the doctor lacks knowledge or information… they are ignorant by definition of the English language.

How did you wind up with so many ignorant and incompetent doctors in the family courts? Just lucky?

Luck had nothing to do with it. They were allowed to experiment on you and your children with a new assessment approach they call a “forensic custody evaluation” – it was a complete failure.

Their experiment failed. They left the practice of healthcare to enter a quasi-judicial role. That was a wrong thing for doctors to do.

The gave themselves permission to make up an entirely new type of assessment – not a diagnostic assessment as is done in all the rest of healthcare – the forensic psychologists decided to do something… different.

Clinical psychologists identify (diagnose) what the problem is and then they fix the problem (treatment).

Forensic custody evaluators do something different. They DON’T identify (diagnose) what the problem is and they DON’T fix it (treatment).

That is different – NOT to identify the problem and NOT to fix the problem IS different than what other doctors do, that’s for sure. It’s also entirely worthless.

Clinical psychologists diagnose child abuse when it is present, and clinical psychologists protect the child.

Forensic custody evaluators do something different. They DON’T diagnose child abuse when it is present (they don’t diagnose anything) and they DON’T protect the child from child abuse.

That too, is different – and dangerous to children.

They experimented on you and your children with a new approach to assessment and service delivery… for you alone. Their experiment failed – miserably failed – completely failed.

As a result of their failed experiment, the lives of thousands and thousands of children and parents were irrevocably destroyed.

While the forensic custody evaluations made money – lots of money – from their failed experiment on you and your children.

Did they tell you it was an experimental approach? Did they tell you that you had an alternative, a clinical diagnostic assessment of the problem? Or did they ONLY offer you ONE choice, their experimental approach to assessment that they simply made-up?

The forensic custody evaluators withheld clinical diagnostic assessments from the courts and parents – giving courts and parents ONLY one choice – their experimental approach to assessment… that they simply made-up.

It failed.

Lives – children’s lives – were irrevocably destroyed as a result.

Why were they allowed to experiment on children and parents?

Why are they allowed to continue?

They are ignorant, incompetent, and unethical. They are the worst psychologists imaginable… and they are all you have. How did you get so lucky?

Why are you the only parents for any pathology who must educate your doctors about what the pathology is?

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologists, CA PSY 18857

Cosmic Reset /10-02-24

Prepare for a major shake-up as the Solar Eclipse brings the sudden, positive changes you’ve been waiting for. This is an energetic reset, a turning point, and the beginning of a brand-new reality. Over the next few weeks, you’ll feel a powerful shift as one chapter of your life closes and a fresh one begins. Any blockages holding you back are being cleared, making way for progress and growth. It’s time to step confidently into this new phase with excitement.

The things you used to tolerate will no longer be welcome in your life. Harmful dynamics, toxic relationships, and outdated habits are being left behind for good. From here on out, only pure intentions, positive energy, and genuine connections are moving forward with you. The eclipse is pushing you to set stronger boundaries, embrace self-worth, and clear space for the abundance and blessings headed your way.

This is your moment of breakthrough. Hard work you’ve put in, whether in your career, personal life, or relationships, is finally being rewarded. The Universe is aligning to bring you the success, opportunities, and prosperity you’ve been manifesting. Expect surprises—those out-of-the-blue opportunities or financial boosts that can completely change your situation. This is your time to shine.

As you step into this new chapter, it’s important to stay open to the unexpected. You might find yourself embarking on new adventures you never planned or meeting people who change your life in ways you never imagined. Whether it’s a job offer from a company you didn’t apply to, or a sudden romantic connection that feels like destiny, these experiences are here to propel you forward.

Financial surprises may also come your way. Discovering a forgotten account, receiving an unexpected refund, or even a mysterious windfall could shift your financial landscape. The Universe is opening up new avenues of abundance—just be ready to receive.

With this eclipse energy, communication plays a big role. You might get an unexpected message or hear from someone you haven’t spoken to in a while. These messages can bring long-awaited clarity or closure, lifting a weight off your shoulders and helping you move into this new phase with a sense of peace and direction.

In love, anything is possible. A new connection might spark out of nowhere, or an old flame could rekindle. If you’ve been carrying emotional baggage, this is the perfect time to release it and open yourself up to love that aligns with your true self.

Ultimately, this Solar Eclipse is creating the perfect environment for transformation. It’s a cosmic reset—a fresh start where only what serves your highest good will stay. Let go of the old, embrace the new, and trust that this is the beginning of something incredible. The best is yet to come.

– Alex Myles ❤️

Divorcing your In-laws – John Davis

“Divorcing Your In-Laws: The Unspoken Heartbreak”

by: John Davis

When people talk about divorce, the focus is often on the couple and, understandably, the children. But what about the extended family, especially the in-laws? For many of us, they become more than just in-laws, they become your family. In my case, they were the family I never had growing up and losing them has been one of the most painful aspects of my divorce.

Having spent most of my childhood in an orphanage, without parents to guide me, my in-laws quickly became the family I had longed for all my life. My biological father and I reconnected later in life (my mother had told me he was dead), but unfortunately, our time together was brief before he passed away. It was my ex-wife’s family who became my parents throughout my adult life. They embraced me, welcomed me into their traditions, and showed me love that I had missed out on for so many years. We spent every holiday together, creating memories that I cherish to this day.

No one talks about the pain of losing this connection when a marriage ends. It’s not just a marital relationship that dissolves, it’s an entire family dynamic that shifts, and that shift can be agonizing. My ex-mother-in-law is a kind-hearted, intelligent woman who shares my love for reading, while my ex-father-in-law is a car enthusiast, a talented race car driver, and one of the kindest souls I’ve ever known. These weren’t just in-laws, they were role models, mentors, and the parents I never had.

I remember the first holidays post-divorce when my kids, my ex-wife, and her parents gathered without me. I sat at home alone, the silence in my new house was almost unbearable, while I knew they were celebrating together… without me. They were gracious enough to extend an invitation, but I declined, knowing that it would feel wrong, like an outsider in a place that used to be my home. And truthfully, I wasn’t sure I could hold it together emotionally. The weight of my broken heart was still too heavy, and I didn’t want to put anyone in an uncomfortable situation.

Still, I consider myself incredibly fortunate. My in-laws continue to show me kindness and respect. My ex-mother-in-law calls me on my birthday and holidays, and I do the same. We update each other on my kids’ achievements, and I’m deeply grateful that they’ve remained such loving grandparents to all my children. Many aren’t as lucky to maintain such a bond, but even with that, there’s a profound sense of mourning for what was lost.

I believe that divorce, in many ways, creates more victims than just the couple. The in-laws, the extended family, friends, and even the family traditions all become casualties of the separation. It’s easy to overlook just how many hearts are involved, but the truth is, these breakups ripple out much further than we often realize.

If I could offer one piece of advice to anyone considering divorce, it’s to remember that the bonds you’re severing aren’t limited to the person you married. They encompass an entire network of relationships, people who loved you, accepted you, and shared life with you. For me, as someone who never had parents of my own, this loss was particularly devastating. I wish I had called them “Mom” and “Dad” as my ex-wife had encouraged me to do many times. They were that for me, and they will always hold that place in my heart.

So please friends, let us acknowledge that divorce is never as simple as two people parting ways. Sometimes, it means saying goodbye to the family you never thought you’d have to live without…

John

Craig Childress PsyD – Do over

I’m too anxious to get any work done, and I’m too anxious because of all the work I’m doing. So I can’t do the work I’m doing. That’s annoying.

I get excited as the information coalesces, too excited. I have to get up and do something and I start to wander around… thinking and wandering aimlessly to release the energy of anxiety excitement.

I don’t know which it is – it’s just restless from the ideas, I gotta get up but when I get up I’m not getting anything done.

So I’ll talk to you to release the energy at the same time I’m sitting… so maybe I can get back to work.

I know what I want to talk about this Sunday over Coffee – the Conflict of Interest. Oh, and the under-line that’s emerging from that. We are headed for a point of collision between a thought disorder and reality.

This should be interesting. The pathogen hides – and – it seeks allies. The trick is to expose the pathogen in the allies

Exposing the pathogen in the parent is easy – its exposing the pathogen’s allies that’s the tricky part. We’re there now.

I wanna talk about that. In fact, I want to release and have some fun. I don’t need to be “productive” all the time now, I can indulge myself now.

And I’m going to, I’m going to allow myself some throw-off Sunday Coffees just for me.

I’ve hired an intern from UW who’s getting course credit for helping me out – and money – a paid internship, she lucked out.

She’s produced a list of all my YouTube “titles” – with her next instructions to retrieve the transcripts from the ones I select. Then we’re going to reverse-engineer them into books and booklets of various sorts.

I should say more about secret decoder rings stuff – the red pill of understanding. I should start ‘writing’ an audio-visual book about The Pathogen’s Source Code.

Debate. That will be one of the lines I’ll be developing: The Role of Forensic & Clinical Psychology in the Family Courts. I’ll represent for Clinical Psychology… now all we need is someone to represent for Forensic Psychology.

Dr. Saini? He’s President of the AFCC. How about him?

Or Dr. Pickar, he’s on the Board of Directors for the AFCC and he’s on the Editorial Board for their journal, the Family Court Review, how about him?

Or how about either Dr. Simon or Dr. Stahl, either one, they literally wrote the book (two Editions) on how to conduct a forensic custody evaluation, how about one of them to represent for Forensic Psychology’s role in the family courts?

How about Dr. Deutsch or Dr. Sullivan, they’re both prominent long-time forensic custody evaluators?

That’s six options. You should be able to find ONE of those forensic psychologists who is willing to defend what they do – hosted by the AFCC.

You know I’m a member now, right? I wasn’t a member before for… well… reasons. I didn’t want to trigger things too early. I want to trigger them now.

They’ve wanted to avoid me… which suited me just fine. The lion is a stalking hunter. When you see the lion, the hunt is already over. Howdy, I’m Dr. Childress, pleased to meet you.

I’ve got some things to do first. I need to get back to work.

This Sunday I’m going to indulge myself in reflective insights, it’s the Mirror after all. We have reached the Conflict of Interest stage, that’s the final one before the fall.

Forensic custody evaluations are ending. That… is simply a fact. Clinical diagnostic assessments are coming. That too is a fact.

When the forensic custody evaluations go away – and they will – all, all, all, of the forensic custody evaluators go with them because that’s all they know how to do.

It’s an evolutionary thing of specialized niches – they can be productive until… something changes, then they completely collapse because they’re too specialized to their niche.

Demand for forensic custody evaluations will disappear – and – they will face increasing scrutiny which will expose that which is hidden. Oh my, what’s hidden is a nightmare of bad.

Are you ready for a nightmare of bad before Christmas? Okay, I can do that if you want. Or how about sometime in 2025? Debate: The Role of Forensic & Clinical Psychology in the Family Courts hosted by the AFCC.

I’ll represent for Clinical Psychology, and Saini, Pickar, Stahl, Simon, Deutsch, Sullivan, or someone else can represent for Forensic Psychology.

I think a Debate on that topic would be great, don’t you? So… let’s do that. Saini’s President of the AFCC and Pickar’s on the Board of Directors, if they want the AFCC to sponsor a Debate – it’s sponsored.

Look, if I’m wrong, they get to humiliate me with their superior knowledge and understanding – and – if I’m right, I get to humiliate then with their ignorance and failure. It should be fun.

A 90-minute online moderated Debate – they can go first – they can describe the Role of Forensic Psychology in the family courts for ten minutes, then I can do the same for the Role of Clinical Psychology in the family courts – that’s the opening 20 minutes.

Then the moderator goes through a set of predetermined topic areas giving each side ten minutes to present on that topic from their point of view:

Opening Statement – Forensic – Clinical

Determining Best Interests of the Child – Forensic – Clincal

Risk Assessments & Duty to Protect – Forensic – Clinical

Ethical Standards 2.01 & 2.04 – Forensic – Clinical

That’s 80 minutes, now each side gets a 5 minute Closing Statement and we have a 90-minute Debate: The Role of Forensic and Clinical Psychology in the Family Courts.

Then a 30-minute moderated Q&A with submitted questions from the audience presented by the moderator.

Online so everyone can see and know the issues involved. I think that’s a good idea, don’t you?

I do. Let’s do that. I’m in.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Oct 2 New Moon Libra

And the day will come, my love, when the sun will set on this time. When the storm will pass,

when you will find your feet back on solid ground, and you will finally be able to say, “It’s over.”

You’ll be tired and weary, battered and bruised, forever changed, but there will be something unmistakably beautiful about you. A certain softness, a gentleness, a raw beauty, a tender vulnerability, a quiet strength, a humble resilience. A kind of light that can only shine from a Soul that has been set on fire. A kind of Love that can only flow through a Heart that has been cracked wide open.

There will be no grand celebrations, no-one but you will ever truly understand what you have been through, but as you sit in the stillness, in awe of the journey you have been on, a deep peace will wash over you. An overwhelming gratitude will begin to swell within you. An unshakeable strength will rise in the realisation that,

no matter what happens, you can say,

“It is well with my soul.”

~ Emily Jane ❤️

Trauma Bonds – Charlie McCready

How can the child still suffer from trauma bonds and loyalties towards the abusive alienating parent even when the truth about their behaviour comes to light? How can the child come over to see me but not take off their coat as if they won’t settle in or stay long? How can we have plans for them to spend the first Christmas with me in a decade, but then, at the last minute, they cancel because they say nobody should be alone at Christmas and they need to be with their other parent forgetting or ignoring the fact I’ve spent many Christmases without them? Why don’t they tell me about important events in their life? Is it a habit to keep me at a ‘safe’ distance after all these years? Why do they mostly call when they want a favour? Why do they still believe I abandoned them? These have been some of my questions.

Reconciliation between an alienated child and a rejected parent can be a complex and challenging process, and it is not uncommon for the effects of parental alienation to persist even after the truth comes to light. The alienating parent employed various emotional manipulation tactics to create trauma bonds with the child and instil fear, guilt, or loyalty. Breaking these bonds can be difficult, as the child may have internalised these messages and developed a distorted perception of the rejected parent. The child may have experienced emotional abuse, coercion, or threats from the alienating parent, leading to deep-seated fear and trust issues. Rebuilding trust and feeling safe with the rejected parent can take time and require ongoing support. The child may struggle with conflicting emotions and beliefs. They may have been taught to see the rejected parent as the enemy or as someone unworthy of love, and reconciling this narrative with the new information can be psychologically challenging. The child may feel strongly loyal to the alienating parent, even if they were abusive or manipulative. This loyalty can stem from a fear of abandonment, a desire for approval, or a need to protect the alienating parent’s feelings.

Healing takes time. The child – or young adult – needs to process their emotions, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and rebuild their relationship with the rejected parent. What’s vital is that you do your healing first so you can welcome them with open arms, having let go of your anger and grief, and just give them love.

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October Energies

We approach the opening of this months energetic portal with a Sense of Established Faith and Trust in the Transformational Energies that are Guiding our Journey. This journey allows us to Release the old and embrace an expanded version of Heart-centered Consciousness.

What to Expect in October: Reconciliation of past karma and personal growth. Positive change and inner transformation. Advancements in love, career, and relationships. Significant improvements in every aspect of life.

Over the past few years the Ascending have embarked on a lengthy and often challenging ascension conscious path that took them through an awakening portal. This portal serves as a catalyst for purging eons of programs and past traumas from cellular memories in this current moment of linear time.

The physical body, emotional body, and etheric body are undergoing a process of crystallisation, enabling those ascending to embody more light and express a greater essence of soul. As layers of density rise to the surface, much of your previous reality in the 3D realm begins to dissolve and fade away, creating energetic space for new experiences and opportunities.

Third eye, throat and heart chakra enhancements and modifications are well under way . Some may feel higher vibrations in their base chakra . Symptoms in this planetary shift include pain in the eyes, legs, feet , ankles , shoulders, head and throat. Higher Sensations and sensitivities in all chakras . Erratic sleeping and eating patterns , Ascension communication , repeated influx of number codes , stronger and more obvious synchronicities .

On October 1st, 2024 The ascending welcome in downloads of higher frequency energies , new information that has been preparing to flow through the physical being as requested by the higher self aspects . The energy will manifest as white pearlescent light, vibrating at a rapid speed as it moves through the physical .

This gifts and downloads of light hold profound meanings. The primary aspects of these energy downloads are the awakening of embedded ancient abilities, the reconnection with innocence, creativity, and the awareness of beauty. These sacred qualities are the very essence of the Creator, the foundation of ascension, and the virtues inherent within the being.

Innocence represents the truth, purity, and simplicity of internal energy as we journey through the Universe of the Creator and experience life on Earth. When we connect with the vibration and presence of innocence within, we are reconnecting with the source of all that is , Creator source Energy and Unity .

In this place it is telepathic , transcending from words, limitations, ideas, and thoughts, recognising the self as the indescribable alchemist , This knowingness is what all Ascending beings seek, a knowing that resides deep within.

Ascending Souls literally need to lose their Programmed mind to regain all quantum and higher senses . Embracing the release of what no longer serves and having impeccable faith that what awaits is beyond the imagination. The Ascending are moving into a higher energetic space, liberating self from the limitations and illusions that once constrained . These limitations were necessary for Self’s evolution growth and awakening.

Within your crystalline starseed template, you are healing generational trauma and transmuting layers of density and false beliefs that have veered away from the truth of the Divine soul essence. Starseed / LightWorkers have dedicated themselves to clearing the collective pain body, allowing an opening for unity and oneness to resurface in the light of the present moment.

Starseeds are attentive to the thoughts that arise from deeply rooted patterns within The DNA , corporeal structures .Through compassionate presence with Self these patterns are being purged , transmuted , transcended and transformed into healed expansive and loving energy. The higher self consistently connects to through the heart space and inner core breath, this is stronger and more powerful in the moments of stillness.

As you move beyond the perceived limitations of your mind, you begin to tap into the vast possibilities that reside within your heart. With Love all things are possible. Starseeds remain patient and cantered, knowing a divine plan is working through you .

We Welcome the 1st Day of October , Currently there is a significant influx of Cosmic Energies affecting our planetary frequencies. The Equinox has transitioned us into the final quarter of the year, and we can anticipate experiencing its energies for the next few weeks.

This coming week, the energy levels will be particularly high as we move through the rebalancing Libra Season that is preparing all of the Ascending for the collective Scorpio energy of the death / rebirth cycles .

In Loving and Devoted Ascension Service

By Ascension Lightworkers. ©️

Why your body hurts

WHY DOES YOUR BODY HURT?

It’s not The Salt.

It’s not the Flours.

It’s not the Soda.

It’s not the Sugar.

It’s not the Food.

It’s not the gluten.

It’s not the Sweet Bread

It’s your EMOTIONS

It’s your DECISIONS

WHY DOES YOUR BODY HURT?.

It hurts because you haven’t yet learned to enjoy, because you accumulate old hatred and anger.

It hurts because you refuse to develop your bodily vitality and elasticity, because you punish it with addictions and emotional immaturity.

Your body hurts because you reject the present and allow the memories to define you.

It hurts because you don’t close stages and dress yourself as a victim in the drama you created.

It hurts because you love the wound you don’t want to heal.

Your body hurts because you’ve succumbed to apathy and let yourself win.

It hurts because you doubt you deserve a life without trauma and wings to fly.

It hurts because you’ve lent your voice to the family clan.

Your body hurts because you don’t live in peace.

Your body hurts because you don’t dare to value yourself more.

It hurts because you’re silent when you’re supposed to scream.

Because you blame love on your obsession for dominating.

Because you demand a respect you dare not generate.

Your body hurts because you confuse a relationship with a ring where you can vent.

It hurts because you dare not connect with your divinity. Because you’re afraid of freedom.

Your body hurts because you don’t allow yourself to remember that you were born to grow and transcend from the love you already are.

Your body hurts because you don’t invest in silence or make peace with your solitude and your darkness.

You are an ever-expanding being of love. Stop being too demanding, crippling, braking, and staggering.

WAKE UP YOUR MAGIC AND YOUR POWER.

Make the Love that you already are worth. Namaste 🙏

Víctor Alberto Domínguez