“As it turns out, the science supports a totally different and ultimately empowering message: Trying to predict how a child will turn out based on choices made by their parents is like trying to predict a hurricane from the flap of a butterflyâs wings.
Do you know about the proverbial butterfly that flaps its wings in China, perturbing the atmosphere just enough to shift wind currents that they end up fueling a hurricane in the Caribbean six weeks later?
If you are a parent, you are the butterfly flapping your wings. Your child is the hurricane, a breathtaking force of nature. You will shape the person your child becomes â just like the butterfly shapes the hurricane â in complex, seemingly unpredictable but powerful ways. The hurricane wouldnât exist without the butterfly.
You might ask, âWhat about all the successful parents who have successful children? Or the struggling parents who have struggling children?â
They seem to show the power of parenting, but children are shaped by many forces that they grow up with and that are often intertwined â forces like genes, peers and culture. This makes it hard to know which forces influence who children become.”
â¨Expected Death ~ When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don’t run out and call the nurse. Don’t pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment.
There’s a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there’s an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens.
We’re so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. “They’re dead!”
We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It’s not a problem to be solved. It’s very sad, but it’s not cause to panic.
If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what’s happening. If you’re at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea.
Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What’s happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic.
Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into “do” mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event.
Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You’ll never get that time back again if you don’t take it now.
After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it’s easy for body and soul to get separated.
Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven’t caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what’s happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you’ll be better prepared.
You won’t get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now.
Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it’s a gift to the people you’re with, and it’s a gift to the person who’s just died. They’re just a hair’s breath away. They’re just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they’re launched in a more beautiful way. It’s a service to both sides of the veil.
Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula , Death doula Beautiful art by Columbus Community Deathcare
“In any dark time, there is a tendency to veer toward fainting over how much is wrong or unmended in the world. Do not focus on that. There is a tendency, too, to fall into being weakened by dwelling on what is outside your reach, by what cannot yet be. Do not focus there. That is spending the wind without raising the sails.
We are needed, that is all we can know. And though we meet resistance, we more so will meet great souls who will hail us, love us and guide us, and we will know them when they appear. Didn’t you say you were a believer? Didn’t you say you pledged to listen to a voice greater? Didn’t you ask for grace? Don’t you remember that to be in grace means to submit to the voice greater?” â Clarissa Pinkola EstĂŠs
Measure life by the simple things of truth and beauty. We are all stars tending other stars. We are all, right now, each of us, the Mothers of creation.
âThe great thing about getting older is that you don’t lose all the other ages you’ve been.
I am still every age that I have been. Because I was once a child, I am always a child. Because I was once a searching adolescent, given to moods and ecstasies, these are still part of me, and always will be . . . This does not mean that I ought to be trapped or enclosed in any of these ages . . . the delayed adolescent, the childish adult, but that they are in me to be drawn on; to forget is a form of suicide . . .
Far too many people misunderstand what putting away childish things means, and think that forgetting what it is like to think and feel and touch and smell and taste and see and hear like a three-year-old or a thirteen-year-old or a twenty-three-year-old means being grownup. When I’m with these people I, like the kids, feel that if this is what it means to be a grown-up, then I don’t ever want to be one. Instead of which, if I can retain a child’s awareness and joy, and be fifty-one, then I will really learn what it means to be grownup.â
Joan of Arc represents the power that we all possess when weâre aligned with our calling. She is a legendary heroine in France for her role in the Hundred Yearsâ War. She was born in 1412 in Domremy, France. And at the age of thirteen, she had a vision that would change the course of her life.
She relates years later in transcripts from her trial after being captured by the English, that she would have preferred to stay in her hometown spinning wool. But, the power of her vision and her belief in the truth of it compelled her to follow the voice she heard within her. The vision was of the Archangel Michael accompanied by many angels. She said, âI saw them with my bodily eyes, as well as I am seeing you; and when they left, I wept.â The Archangel Michael told her that she was meant to drive out the English from France.
Dressed in menâs armor, Joan of Arc led several campaigns against the English and became a symbol of hope. The power of her conviction that she was acting on Godâs behalf shifted the tenor of the war in Franceâs favor. She was captured in May of 1430 and taken to Rouen, which was then under English rule. A heresy trial led by Bisho Cauchon charged her with the repeat offense of cross-dressing. She was condemned and sentenced to death in May of 1431. . When your soul selects her card:
During Joan of Arcâs heresy trial, her interrogators asked her if she was in a state of grace. She answered, âIf I am not, may God put me there; and if I am, may God so keep me.â Her unfaltering faith in the truth of her own visions made the impossible, possible. As a teenager, she led an army that changed the course of history for France. And because of the trials, we have sworn testimony detailing the courage of her convictions and her own testimony about her visions of the Archangel Michael who inspired the course of her actions. âAct, and God will act,â she said. The faith she had in her vision allowed her to take on a task that had never been done before by a young woman. Her every action chanted, âI am not afraid; I was born to do this.â
She is associated with the Fleur-de-lis known as the flower of light. It represents the trinity, and the profound truth that the trinity would not exist without Mary, and her brave response to the angel Gabrielâs call. Joan, like Mary, knows she is directly connected to the divine, from within her, and she allows that connection to guide her. Joan of Arcâs life is a testament to what is possible for us when we believe steadfastly in our own vision. She asks for us to move beyond our fear, to act on our truth, and to do this with the confidence of knowing that our every step is flanked with angels. â
-Excerpted from âThe Divine Feminine Oracleâ by Meggan Watterson; Art by Lisbeth Cheever-Gessaman (SheWhoIs)
Look who has a soft belly- curved with shadow power spiral swirling within soft sweet core tender and loving sensual center adore deep well swells sea foam salty shell- Venus Herself, the Goddess of Love Herself. Love your belly. Love your belly, and if you aren’t quite there yet, just trace spirals of tenderness upon your core, feel your belly respond to this loving touch, feel yourself soft and sweet. And for everything that is holy, as you indeed are, love yourself more. -Nuit Moore ⤠image:: my altar
Venus, the Goddess of Love, aligns with the sun over a period of 8 years to form a complete 5 pointed star (pentacle pattern) in the sky.
Each time Venus reaches one of the star points it marks a major celestial event, known as either the “Venus Star Point” or the âKiss of Venus and the Sun.â
The Venus Star Point brings mystical energy that enhances our emotions, helps us manifest love and abundance and deepens our most intimate relationships.
The Sun and Venus align in Capricorn, opening a new portal of love and closing the previous Star Point portal that last occurred in Capricorn on January 11, 2014. This Star Point marks the completion of an 8-year karmic cycle of love, where forgiveness takes place and fear, regrets, resentments and disappointment all finally begin to dissipate.
There was also a Venus Star Point in Capricorn during January 2018, so it is worth taking time to reflect on the relationship themes that have taken place in the past four years, and how our relationships have developed during this time and what unhealthy patterns of behaviours we would benefit from letting go of.
Venus moves along 10 different pathways to create the star (5 interior conjunctions and 5 exterior conjunctions). The last conjunction was on March 26, 2021 and the next one will be on October 22, 2022. Therefore, we can also look at relationships patterns and themes that have occurred between last March and now and we can follow the next pathway that runs from now until October 22.
Typically we may notice the beginning and ending of significant chapters in our lives, and as each point carries different energies, depending on the zodiac sign it is in, as this one is in Capricorn we will all be feeling Capricornâs characteristics within our dynamics for the next 10 months.
During Venusâ alignments with the sun she alternates between being a morning star and evening star, so from now until late October Venus will move from being visible in the evening to being a morning star. Venusâ movement also signifies movement to a new phase of love, with new beginnings that highlights how we value those around us and particularly how we love and value ourselves.
Venus, as the morning sun, carries the energy of the divine feminine, so for the next ten months there will be a greater uprising of feminine aspects. This means that, for both the feminine and the masculine, there will be a shift toward connecting on a deeper level, enhanced emotional intelligence and clearer and more empathetic communication.
There will also be greater focus on self-love, self-care and self-value and an overall sense of empowerment, heightened intuition and acceptance of our authentic selves. This is a time to believe in ourselves, to get creative and to start setting intentions so that we materialise our goals and dreams and most of all reach a place of deep inner fulfilment. Alex Myles
âWhen pregnant, the cells of the baby migrate into the mothers bloodstream and then circle back into the baby, itâs called âfetal-maternal microchimerismâ.â
For 41 weeks, the cells circulate and merge backwards and forwards, and after the baby is born, many of these cells stay in the motherâs body, leaving a permanent imprint in the mothers tissues, bones, brain, and skin, and often stay there for decades. Every single child a mother has afterwards will leave a similar imprint on her body, too.
Even if a pregnancy doesn’t go to full term or if you have an abortion, these cells still migrate into your bloodstream.
Research has shown that if a mother’s heart is injured, fetal cells will rush to the site of the injury and change into different types of cells that specialize in mending the heart.
The baby helps repair the mother, while the mother builds the baby.
How cool is that?
This is often why certain illnesses vanish while pregnant.
Itâs incredible how mothers bodies protect the baby at all costs, and the baby protects & rebuilds the mother back – so that the baby can develop safely and survive.
Think about crazy cravings for a moment. What was the mother deficient in that the baby made them crave?
Studies have also shown cells from a fetus in a mothers brain 18 years after she gave birth. How amazing is that?â
If youâre a mom you know how you can intuitively feel your child even when they are not thereâŚ.Well, now there is scientific proof that moms carry them for years and years even after they have given birth to them.
Nobody wakes up one day and suddenly decides to begin an extramarital affair. Infidelity begins in the heart and mind. By the time a person physically commits adultery, he or she has been indulging for quite some time in progressively more intense mental and emotional affairs.
Likewise, marital fidelity begins long before marriage. It begins as a promise we make to ourselves to be a person of faithful character before marriage ever enters the picture. It is a promise we make to our future spouse when we get engaged, and it is a vow we make to our spouse when we get married. Marital fidelity is a daily commitment to seek the best for your spouse and family.
[Focus on the Family is dedicated to bringing healing and restoration to couples who are struggling in their marriage. But God’s design for marriage never included abuse, violence or coercive control. Even emotional abuse can bruise or severely harm a personâs heart, mind and soul. If you are in an abusive relationship, go to a safe place and call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit them online at thehotline.org.]
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