Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

Love should feel safe , even in anger

The way a man handles his anger tells you everything you need to know about his emotional maturity, self-control, and most importantly, how deeply he respects you. See, anybody can love you when it’s easy. When things are sweet, when you’re laughing together, when everything’s going right. But how he treats you when he’s mad? That’s the real test. That’s the moment where all the fluff fades, and his truest self steps forward.
If his first instinct when he’s upset is to belittle you, ignore you, curse at you, bring up your insecurities, or give you silent treatment like he’s punishing you just for having a voice—that’s not love. That’s control. That’s ego. That’s a man who hasn’t learned how to love someone through conflict, only in the absence of it.
But a real man? Even at his worst, he’ll still handle you with care. Even if he’s angry, he’ll take a breath before he speaks. He’ll communicate instead of attack. He’ll say “I need a minute” instead of saying something he’ll regret. Because love doesn’t disappear when emotions run high. If anything, that’s when it’s supposed to show up stronger.
So don’t let “he was just mad” be the excuse that makes you ignore a pattern. Because one day it’s yelling… next it’s slamming doors… and eventually, it’s full-blown emotional damage that you’re left to unpack alone.
Love should feel safe—even in anger. If it doesn’t, it’s not the kind of love you deserve. 💔

Love that feels like a safe home 🙌

Loving a woman who has been through so much, who has carried the weight of her trauma, who has fought battles no one else could see, and who has pieced herself back together after being broken—is not a task to take lightly. It’s a privilege.

She’s not asking for perfection. She’s asking for REAL—for consistency, for kindness, for someone who sees her scars and doesn’t flinch, but instead admires her strength. She’s asking for a love that feels safe, a love that allows her to exhale, a love that doesn’t make her question her worth.

If you’re fortunate enough to love a woman like this, remember: she’s not hard to love because of her past. She’s careful. She’s protective of her heart because she’s had to be. She’s been through enough to know the difference between empty words and meaningful actions.

So show up for her. Be patient when her walls are high—she built them to survive. Be gentle when she doubts your intentions—it’s not because of you, but because of what she’s endured. And most importantly, love her in a way that makes her believe in love again.

She deserves to be loved the right way: with respect, with tenderness, with unwavering commitment. She deserves a love that doesn’t just promise to stay, but proves it every single day.

To the woman who’s been through so much: You are worthy of a love that feels like home. You deserve a partner who sees your heart, your strength, and your beauty, and chooses you—every single day.

And to the man who loves her: Love her gently. Love her fiercely. And love her in a way that reminds her she is safe, she is cherished, and she is finally HOME.

PA Psychological Abuse NOT love

A parent asked me whether a child of 12 is allowed to speak in an English family court and decide which parent they wish to live with. I answered: A 12-year-old’s wishes are considered in English family courts, though typically, they’re not allowed to speak, as it is deemed too stressful. The court weighs their views alongside factors like maturity, needs, and the broader welfare checklist, often relying on CAFCASS to communicate the child’s preferences. HOWEVER, concerns remain about how courts handle cases of parental alienation, as they may prioritise the status quo (even if detecting an attachment disorder/trauma bonding, coercive control) over addressing the negative impact of alienation, leading to unresolved co-parenting issues and unpunished false allegations. Sorry to say. ⁠

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I’ve covered ‘the voice of the child’ in many other posts, but to answer more fully here: ⁠

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The court will take into account the child’s preferences, but it’s not the only factor. The court considers the child’s maturity and understanding. A 12-year-old’s views are likely to be given substantial weight if the court believes the child understands the situation and the implications of their choice.⁠

Under the Children Act 1989, the court follows a welfare checklist to determine the child’s best interests. This includes factors like the child’s needs, the likely effect of any change in circumstances, and the capability of each parent to meet the child’s needs. The Family Justice System places significant emphasis on the child’s voice being heard. A child aged 12 can speak in court in England, but it is not typical. The court typically prefers other methods that are less stressful for the child. The child’s wishes are more often communicated to the court through a representative of CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) or a similar intermediary rather than the child speaking in court. CAFCASS may speak with the child and provide a report to the court on what the child wants and what they believe is in their best interests.Ultimately, while a child can express a preference, the final decision is made by the judge, who should prioritise the child’s best interests, following the welfare checklist under the Children Act 1989.

In most countries, including the U.S., Canada, Australia, and many European nations, children’s views are considered in custody cases, particularly as they get older. However, it is rare for children to speak directly in court. Typically, their preferences are communicated through trained professionals who are tasked with representing the child’s best interests.

I’m sure you know, if you are reading this, there are significant concerns about how family courts handle cases of parental alienation. In some cases, courts recognise the trauma bond and attachment disorder associated with parental alienation, but may still choose to allow the child to remain with the alienating parent, believing that child’s expressed (though coerced) wishes, and keeping the status quo, is more important for the child’s well-being. Unfortunately, this decision often leaves a loving parent without a meaningful relationship with their child. Courts sometimes hope the alienating parent will eventually co-parent in good faith, but this rarely happens and is seldom enforced in the same way as financial obligations. Moreover, even when false allegations from the alienating parent are proven untrue, they often carry no consequences despite causing significant delays and worsening the situation for all involved.

This systemic injustice must be addressed. Parental alienation is a form of abuse that leaves loving parents without a relationship with their children and inflicts lasting harm. As more people become aware of its devastating impact, recognition of parental alienation is growing, despite pushback from those who feel angry and concerned about the increasing awareness. Just as other forms of abuse have been recognised and challenged, change is coming. Awareness is rising, and more resources are available to help those affected. The fight for justice continues, and alienated parents should know they are not alone. I’m here to help too with spreading awareness and the coaching I offer.

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Embrace where you are 💯

We are amid one of the most profound generational shifts this year. A year in which astrological alignments are too aligned to the new detour we have chosen to take in our present bifurcation from old timelines. Many of you will feel as if everything is escaping your understanding, not knowing what is next or how you will survive the shift you cannot control and that you agreed on as you continue embracing who you are.

This is why this Venusian healing and stabilizing passage has been so relevant for many of us, for it came filled with profound revelations and clarity about our personal healing and mission. This passage culminates with a Libra Full Moon that helps us achieve balance between the self and our relationships, as the Aries-Libra polarity is about remembering the importance of preserving our integrity as we learn how to create more balanced and harmonic relationships.

Self-love is key to heal, for all unconscious acts we often call karmic ones, come from not loving ourselves, for when there is no love for the self, there is no love for anyone, which is why people who are still remembering who they are, create karma, even though my Guides do not talk about karma as in the old ways here on Earth.

The Libra-Aries axis also facilitates the healing of the Divine Masculine through solar alchemy, clearing our solar plexus, and moving into the divine masculine sixth dimensional portals, activating and rehabilitating them for us to merge both polarities for we are at a key time for those who are stepping into this inner work of synthesizing polarities in your light bodies, as this is one of the most important inner works to achieve before we can jump into a more Illumined timeline.

As my Guides shared, this is going to be an essential passage to focus on parallel healing, for as ascending souls, many of you have come as well to heal your entire lineage, which comprehended your past and future selves and generations.

This Moon aspects many planets, as it trine Mars and Pluto, and quincunx Venus, being the most important the tightly square with the Healer Chiron, as I preferto call it, helping us realize, feel and embrace our wounds as the only way to heal what often may be uncomfortable for the ego but that is precious for the soul, as the more we feel, the more we allow ourselves to embrace our vulnerability, creating healthy boundaries that help us give, and receive but from a space of love and respect to ourselves and All.

It is a passage to help us realize the aspects of us we need to embrace and accept completely, being a time to focus on self-love, nurturance, and above all, healing, as many times we are so focused on our mission that we forget ourselves.

Saturn sextile Uranus favors change, for we are on an accelerated phase of constant healing, integration, and stabilization. My Guides invite all who are guided and are on this accelerated healing phase to call upon your karmic board, for we all have a personal incarnation karmic council that is not about punishment or anything related to that, but about helping us to release “karmic” residual ties/energies/contracts, that have fulfilled a purpose, as they remind us, whether in our dream phase or in our conscious one, what has been achieved, and therefore shall be released, for us to move forward with new co-creations.

Our karmic council of birth is meant to bring direction, clarity and support, not to show us where we have erred, as every time we make an unconscious act, is neutralized by doing another conscious and benevolent act, learning from our past mistakes and moving forward, as there is no such a thing in the Universe as punishment but the one we create for ourselves.

This is a time and year of karmic balance for many, as they move into the New, even though conflict in the world continues to be a constant, for we live in a world of duality, and chaos, as we interpret it, from our human view, which needs to exist for us to see what peace feels like.

Due to this karmic clearing and integration of more illumined aspects of who you are, many of you will be moving into a totally new cycle of your life, expanding into your mission as Venusians harmonic channels and many other precious roles within Creation, for you are now ready to give and create from a space of love, as Guides often share.

This is a time when many of you are shifting locations, jobs that no longer resonate with who you have become, and relationships. See this shift in energetic terms, not as a curse or something you need to maintain to continue living in the past, trying to keep everything as it used to be.

See your growth, what has been fulfilled, and all you are here to give, for all that is vanishing in your life is doing so because you have embodied a higher level of Consciousness, and that is something that shall be embraced and celebrated, even though the process of letting go is not easy.

May you embrace where you are lovingly, gracefully, and peacefully, Beloveds.

Within Infinite Love,

Natalia Alba

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