Tag: wisdoms

Material /Social Slavery

You work 8 hours to live 4.

You work 6 days to enjoy 1.

You work 8 hours to eat in 15 minutes.

You work 8 hours to sleep 5.

You work all year just to take a week or two vacation.

You work all your life to retire in old age,

And contemplate only your last breaths.

Eventually you realize that life is nothing but a parody of yourself practicing for your own oblivion.

We have become so accustomed to material and social slavery that we no longer see the chains.

Life is a short journey, live it! Collect memories, not material things!

“Helping” your wife ( partner ) explained – Ex had an “ exemption “

I now realize this is a must, and know full well that ex thought I should have done everything .l


“A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat down and talked about life. After a while I interrupted the conversation and said to him, ′′I’m going to wash the dishes, I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me like I told him he was going to build a spaceship. So he said to me with admiration and a little stumped, ′′Glad you help your wife, I rarely help mine because when I do she never thank me. Last week I washed the floor and she didn’t even tell me to thank you.”
I sat back down with him again and explained to him that I don’t ′′help′′ my wife. Actually, my wife doesn’t need help, she needs a partner, a teammate. I’m her home partner… and due to that, all functions are divided, which is not “help” with household chores.
I don’t “help” my wife clean the house because I also live in it and I need to clean it too.
I don’t “help” my wife cook, because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I don’t “help” her washing dishes after eating, because I use these dishes too.
I don’t “help” my wife with kids, because they are mine too and I have to be a father.
I don’t “help” my wife wash, extend, fold, and put away laundry because it’s mine and my kids too.
I don’t give a “helping hand” at home, I’m part of it.
Then with respect, I asked my friend when was the last time his wife finished cleaning the house, doing laundry, changing the bedsheets, bathing the kids, cooking, organizing, etc.. and did he say: “thank you?”
I mean a real thank you, like, “Wow, baby!! You’re amazing!!”
Does this all seem absurd? Does it sound weird to you? When, once in your life, you cleaned the floor, you expected at least an excellence award with great glory… why? Haven’t you ever thought about that?
Maybe, because for you, macho culture taught you that everything is a woman’s task.
Maybe you’ve been taught that all this should be done without you having to move a finger.
So praise her as you would like to be praised, likewise, with the same intensity. Hold her hand and behave like a true companion, and assume your part, don’t behave like a guest who simply comes to eat, sleep, shower, and satisfy sexual needs… feel at home, in your home.
Change in our society begins in our homes, teaching our children the true sense of fellowship!”
Credit: Nino Razmadze

Truths about being single

THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING SINGLE

‘What people don’t realize is that some people are single in this generation because they are healed, which makes them incompatible with trauma bonds.

Unfortunately, trauma bonds are the template of our culture at this time.

Those who choose peace over trauma will have difficulty in relationships because most people that we meet are emotionally damaged in some way.

Healed people seek healthy bonds. These bonds hold space for authenticity and correction. It’s kind of like an oxymoron.

About 90% of the relationships/marriages that we see are actually trauma bonds. Those involved “need” the other person to make them feel whole because they’re both broken mentally, emotionally and/or spiritually.

Let that sink in for a moment…

With so much love,

Unknown

(Image credit: Ben Smith)

Embracing Not-Knowing Is a Key Element of a Meaningful Life – Awareness that Heals

The deeper we penetrate issues like intimacy in relationships, having a sense of purpose, spiritual questions, deeper psychological inquiry, or dealing with life and death issues, the more not-knowing arises naturally.
— Read on www.awarenessthatheals.org/embracing-not-knowing-is-a-key-element-of-a-meaningful-life/

Timothy Leary . Be YOU

Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”

Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others. ~Timothy Leary

(Source: book reference unclear/Consider one of Leary’s most famous books: Turn on, Tune in, Drop out https://amzn.to/3POkCu6)

(Art: Photograph of Timothy Leary by Baron Wolman)