Tag: trauma

Listening – Vital to mental wellness

A must read:

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of Nazi Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit suicide. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?

“None of them”, she told him.

What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?

Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s willingness to listen to her in the middle of the night. A world in which there was someone ready to listen to another’s pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of listening is the greatest gift we can give.

Source: English Literature Community.

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This is wonderful and substantiates all my experience and research !!

“What if mental disorders like anxiety, depression or post-traumatic stress disorder aren’t mental disorders at all? In a compelling new paper, biological anthropologists call on the scientific community to rethink mental illness. With a thorough review of the evidence, they show good reasons to think of depression or PTSD as responses to adversity rather than chemical imbalances.”

The quote above was pulled directly from a 2020 Forbes article about Mental Health (which outlines an awesome academic article from the American Journal of Physical Anthropology).

Now, I’ve been saying that stuff for years, but it’s really nice to see this information becoming more widespread.

It breaks my heart to see how many people still let the label of a ‘disorder’ convince them that they’re stuck with their problem and doomed to suffer with it their whole lives, stuffing their pain away with medication and trying to ‘logic away’ their issues by hunting down all of their core trauma with a therapist.

I know… I know… Everybody is clinging onto this physiological explanation and thinks that the only way to deal with these problems is with medication and psychoanalysis.

But the students I work with go from spending all of their energy just trying to keep from breaking down on a daily basis, to shedding the shackles of their diagnosed ‘disorders’, and living a life of true self-expression and self-love, free from anxiety, guilt, shame, stress, over-thinking, and more…

Yes. It’s true that traditional talk therapy and medication MIGHT help us manage our symptoms and allow us to survive our day to day lives better, but they rarely manage to get us fully out of our cycles and into the full version of ourselves that we’re capable of being when we truly master our emotions and learn to release the unresolved trauma and fear that we carry around with us

Meanwhile, the people I’ve worked with have been learning and developing the emotional muscles and skills necessary to enjoy their lives more fully, while turning every moment of emotional distress into a moment of healing that actually makes them stronger, happier, and more free from all of the weight of their past trauma. And they do this WITHOUT needing to focus on that past pain and trauma directly.

Not just that, they are ridding themselves of toxic relationships and self-harming defense mechanisms that have been keeping them stuck in EVERY area of their lives!

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In Morocco, the plight of divorced mothers

Following separation, guardianship automatically reverts to the father, whereas the mother (who, in most cases, takes care of the children) has no rights over them. Faced with this injustice, there are calls for a new reform of the Moroccan family code.
— Read on www.lemonde.fr/en/le-monde-africa/article/2023/07/31/in-morocco-the-plight-of-the-divorced-mothers_6073380_124.html

The shadow of shadow work

“The Shadow of Shadow Work:

If you think shadow work is about self improvement by way of making the negative and unsavory parts of yourself better or getting rid of them or replacing them with better more acceptable habits and patterns then you do not actually understand what shadow is.

Don’t fall into the trap!

Also remember: shadow does not simply mean the violent or ugly aspects of you. Shadow is whatever part of you you have disowned.

Your innocence could be in your shadow. Your love of life could be in your shadow. Your courage could be in your shadow.

Shadow is whatever you have disowned by choosing instead to identify with its polarity.

The continual judgement and desire to get rid of shadow is in fact actually the essence of what creates shadow.

Point being: much of what I hear of these days as shadow work is actually just the definition of what shadow is.”

~Maya Luna~

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