Tag: relationships

She

She’s not going to pursue you.

Shes not going to sit there and prove her worth to you with every day that passes.

She’s not going to try and manipulate you to believe that she’s better than everybody else.

Because she already knows she is.

She knows she’s the best thing that will ever come into your life.

She knows shes not perfect but ….

She knows what shes been through, she has healed numerous times for the trauma that nobody apologized for , and she finally knows how valuable her life truly is.

If you get a chance to be a part of her life, you should consider it a blessing.

If she allows you to see parts of her that she hides away from the outside world … you need to consider this a blessing as well.

If she wants you to be a part of her life, then it’s for a specific reason.

She doesn’t waste her time on temporary conversations anymore.

She has finally come to the conclusion that her time is precious so she’s not going to waste it on someone who doesn’t realize she is too.

~ Cody Bret

Imagine

-Imagine losing a woman who doesn’t sleep around, doesn’t go out, doesn’t play games, knows what she wants, works hard for what she has, communicates clearly, knows her worth, but only wants you.

To lose a woman of such rare conviction and unwavering loyalty is a loss that extends beyond the relationship itself, it is a loss of connection to a depth of character and integrity that is scarcely found. In a world where authenticity is often traded for appearances, recognizing and valuing someone who brings a quiet, unyielding devotion becomes the truest mark of wisdom. The most profound embarrassment is not in losing her presence but in failing to see the worth of her spirit.

Calling that girl back

“I started calling that girl back. The girl who loved living, the girl who danced instead of walking.

The girl who had sunflowers for eyes and fireworks in her soul.

I started playing music again, hoping she would come out.

I started looking for beautiful moments to experience, so she would feel safe enough to show herself, because I knew she was in there.

And she needed my kindness and my effort to come to the surface again.”

(✍️ S.C. Lourie — ‘Butterflies and Pebbles’ )

Art : Luciana Nascimentto Neres

Being held /hugged

~The Importance of Being Held.

The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But the researchers have discovered something fantastic. When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. The reason is that a sincere embrace produces a hormone called “oxytocin”, also known as the love hormone. This substance has many benefits in our physical and mental health, helps us, among other things, to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety. This wonderful tranquilizer is offered free of charge every time we have a person in our arms, who cradled a child, who cherish a dog or a cat, that we are dancing with our partner, the closer we get to someone or simply hold the Shoulders of a friend.

A famous quote by psychotherapist Virginia Satir goes, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Whether those exact numbers have been scientifically proven remains to be seen, but there is a great deal of scientific evidence related to the importance of hugs and physical contact. Here are some reasons why we should hug:

1. STIMULATES OXYTOCIN

Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the limbic system, the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress, and even making mammals monogamous. It is the hormone responsible for us all being here today. You see this little gem is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the excruciating pain they endured expelling us from their bodies and making them want to still love and spend time with us. New research from the University of California suggests that it has a similarly civilising effect on human males, making them more affectionate and better at forming relationships and social bonding. And it dramatically increased the libido and sexual performance of test subjects. When we hug someone, oxytocin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease.

2. CULTIVATES PATIENCE

Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation and acknowledgement of another person. The world is a busy, hustle-bustle place and we’re constantly rushing to the next task. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.

3. PREVENTS DISEASE

Affection also has a direct response on the reduction of stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine says it has carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.

4. STIMULATES THYMUS GLAND

Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.

5. COMMUNICATION WITHOUT SAYING A WORD

Almost 70 percent of communication is nonverbal. The interpretation of body language can be based on a single gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. Not only can they feel the love and care in your embrace, but they can actually be receptive enough to pay it forward to others based on your initiative alone.

6. SELF-ESTEEM

Hugging boosts self-esteem, especially in children. The tactile sense is all-important in infants. A baby recognizes its parents initially by touch. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.

7. STIMULATES DOPAMINE

Everything everyone does involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow. Low dopamine levels play a role in the neurodegenerative disease Parkinson’s as well as mood disorders such as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate brains to release dopamine, the pleasure hormone. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as cocaine and methamphetamine target. The presence of a certain kinds of dopamine receptors are also associated with sensation-seeking.

8. STIMULATES SEROTONIN

Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and the released endorphins and serotonin cause pleasure and negate pain and sadness and decrease the chances of getting heart problems, helps fight excess weight and prolongs life. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces the stress levels. Hugging for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.

9. PARASYMPATHETIC BALANCE

Hugs balance out the nervous system. The skin contains a network of tiny, egg-shaped pressure centres called Pacinian corpuscles that can sense touch and which are in contact with the brain through the vagus nerve. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system – parasympathetic.

Embrace, embrace with your heart.~

http://www.so-tango.com/…/thedanceofthesincerehugand9r

art | Lucy Campbell

#midwivesofthesoul #lucycampbell #hugs

Love

“I hope the next person who loves you takes you somewhere nice, and I don’t mean lavish restaurants or on a costly vacation. I mean I hope they take you to parts of yourself you haven’t yet seen. I hope they never drag you ankle first into your insecurities. I hope they don’t shame you with the weapon of your past. I hope they trace your skin, and show you where the light comes through. I hope they make you feel beautiful in the morning. I hope they walk barefoot inside of you. I hope they light candles just to see clearly. i hope they make you cider and you can tell them of the places you’ve been, the rubble, the dirt, the barb wired people it took for you to get here. i hope they carry you softly. I hope they take you somewhere nice.”

Julia Roberts – Moved on

Julia Robert’s once said: One day, they’ll realize what they had in you. They’ll see the depth of your heart, the strength in your spirit, and the value they once overlooked. But by then, you’ll be someone far beyond what they could have ever imagined. You will have grown—into someone who no longer seeks their approval, no longer waits to be chosen, no longer needs their recognition to feel whole.

The space they left, the moments they dismissed you, the times they made you feel invisible—they were all silent gifts in disguise. Because in their absence, you found yourself. You learned to appreciate your own worth, to stand tall without needing anyone else to confirm your value. You built a life that is full, rich, and complete—not because of them, but because of you.

And when they finally wake up to what they lost, it won’t matter anymore. Their regret will be theirs to carry, not yours to fix. You’ll have moved on—not out of spite, but because life called you forward, and you answered. You won’t need closure or apologies. You’ll just know, deep in your soul, that your worth was never dependent on their ability to see it.

By the time they recognize who you were, you’ll be long gone—thriving, at peace, and completely unshaken by the realization they took too long to have.

–

Good Woman

Every man hopes to have a good woman by his side, but many don’t realize that women with genuine hearts come with real, powerful emotions.

They feel everything deeply, love with intensity, and give their whole heart to the people they care about.

A good woman is loyal to the core, but her tender heart means she can also become frustrated, hurt,

or emotional when something doesn’t feel right.

This isn’t a sign of weakness

it’s simply because she cares so deeply.

Sure, she might have her moody days, but one thing is certain: when a good woman loves you, it’s a rare, precious kind of love.

It’s a love you won’t find anywhere else.

Value it.