Tag: relationships

Narcissist stay with partner they hate

He walked out , to be happy . Immediately openly dating his new supply , he paid household bills and was in no hurry to start divorce proceedings or even a legal separation .

So I began looking and like many women left crying at the legal system.

I filed ,with truthful charges ,which were altered to no fault and offered that we had a prenuptial agreement.

Not do

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Adult Estranged Children- Julie Ventura Plagens

One of the hardest parts of estrangement is the silence. So many parents are left wondering, “Why didn’t they tell me why?” The truth? There’s usually more going on beneath the surface than we realize.

Here are a few possibilities to consider:

  1. They didn’t have the tools to explain their pain.
    Some adult children carry hurt for years but never find the words. What feels sudden to us may have been building inside them for a long time. While pop culture (social media, counselors) may be pushing for an estrangement, the simmering resentments (the bullet) was already in the loaded gun. They just helped to pull the trigger.
  2. They didn’t feel heard.
    They might have tried to speak up in the past—and felt dismissed or misunderstood. Think about the arguments you’ve had over the years. That is when they told you what was wrong. Eventually, they gave up and stopped trying to tell you. It was just easier to stop arguing and get peace.
  3. They fear conflict because they constantly lose.
    Not everyone is equipped to have hard conversations. Some people avoid confrontation entirely, even if it means disappearing. I hated conflict and ran from it. It felt safer than dealing with it, as it always turned out to be my fault.
  4. They needed space to breathe and heal.
    Leaving without a word may be less about punishing and more about self-protection. For whatever reason, the relationship had become too hard to deal with, so they just left. For me, it was akin to lightening the load on a ship during a storm to keep the whole thing from sinking.
  5. They’re still sorting it out.
    They may not fully understand their own reasons yet for leaving. Sometimes people leave to process, not to close the door forever. Over time, they feel shame about rekindling the relationship as time got away.

These were all reasons why I left, although I couldn’t articulate them at the time. Your adult child probably can’t either. They just know the leaving Is the quick relief from pain.

You Can’t Force Reconnection—But You Can Do This

If you’re estranged from your child, I know how much it hurts. The silence, the confusion, the helplessness—it can feel unbearable.

And while you may not be able to fix that relationship right now, you can work on the ones you still have.

Here’s the hard truth I had to face:
My unhealthy patterns didn’t just affect my relationship with my parents. They showed up in other relationships, especially my marriage. And then with my adult children. (One tried to leave)

Do you find yourself…
Trying to control outcomes? Even get revenge when it doesn’t go your way?
Manipulating conversations without realizing it?
Wallowing in self-pity or constantly blaming others?
Obsessing over every detail of what went wrong? Ruminating?

Do you have addictions to drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, lying, or something else? This is a destroyer of relationships across the board.

For me, it all traced back to childhood trauma. I had felt so out of control growing up that, as an adult, I tried to control everything—especially my relationships. Core issue: I did not trust God or believe he was good. And I medicated with self-pity, blaming, food (sugar), rumination, victim mentality, etc. As long as it was everyone else, I didn’t have to look at myself or change.

It wasn’t until I started healing that initial pain that I could begin to clean up my side of the street. It was late in life. I left my family when I was 40. (No social media then.) And my adult child almost left when I was 53ish. We were all Christians. (I was a preacher’s kid.) Something had to change; I was a common denominator.

You can’t force your child back into your life… but you can continue to see what is popping up in current relationships.

And here’s the beautiful part: You have power.
When you begin to identify and change how you interact with people, it shifts how others interact with you. Yes, you can only change yourself. No one else. Blaming kept me stuck.

And here’s something to hold onto:
Even if your adult child has gone quiet, they might still be watching. I know I did. I asked people about my parents. I kept tabs from afar.

Eventually, there is the stage of accepting whatever the outcome is. Peace in that you have done everything you can on your side. If you are already there, I applaud you. God sees you and knows your heart. Most of all, He loves you.

Truth Freedom Liberation

The Sagittarius Full Moon on June 11, also known as the Strawberry Full Moon, represents a time of truth revelation and Ascension guidance. It can lead to important insights and progress on your spiritual journey.

Our world operates on a duality of light and dark, the Sagittarius full moon, ruled by expansive Jupiter, will reveal hidden truths that may unsettle those still clinging to false illusions. The Full Moon in Sagittarius will highlight the truth in hidden areas of self and in life, it gets us in touch with the truth of our true self nature, it enhances the divinity within. The Full Moon in Sagittarius is known as our Greatest Teacher.

This full moon brings in breakthroughs, transformational experiences, and emotional trigger releases. It activates the third eye, throat, and heart chakras, enhancing clarity, highlighting communication, and clearing karmic outdated patterns. Many ascending may have physical and emotional effects in this intense full moon , like headaches, expressing self, truth-speaking , fatigue, and intense lucid dreams.

The full moon in Sagittarius also signifies a phase of completion and accomplishment, as well as the potential for something planted in the past to now come to fruition. Sagittarius is ruled by the expansive and optimistic planet Jupiter, this full moon carries the energies of expansion, blessings and new opportunities.

Jupiter is also associated with beliefs, knowledge, and expanding out of the linear box of thinking , it encourages ascending individuals to seek wisdom and truth during this time. Sagittarius energy greatly influences this full moon’s effects, it’s known for its truthful expression, adventure , learning curious nature, constantly striving to broaden its perspective and understanding of the self , world and humanity.

In these planetary placements the ascending may find them selves compelled to explore new ideas, metaphysical / esoteric knowledge and study, travel and explore diverse cultures, expressing their wisdom and enlightenment. The alignment of the full moon in Sagittarius invites us all to seek expansion beyond the existing comfort zones, to journey deeper into the unknown to gain a clearer understanding of the self and the world at large.

This Strawberry Full Moon will have a potent effect on energy levels. It can bring about rapid shifts in energy fields both internally and externally, leading to heightened sensitive in emotions, increased intuition, and surges in spiritual awareness. Some ascending may experience fluctuations in their energy levels, feeling more energised or even fatigued as the moon’s energy influences their own energetic field. It’s common to experience intense emotions, vivid dreams, and a need for rest and self-care during this time.

This Full Moon can affect energy levels by bringing shifts in emotional intensity, spiritual awareness, and heighten psychic senses . Some may experience increased energy and motivation, while others may feel fatigued or emotionally overwhelmed. The moon’s energy can amplify feelings and sensations, leading to a range of experiences such as restlessness, isolation, introspection, and a need for deeper self-understanding, integrating and emotional releasing.

This Strawberry Full Moon in Sagittarius is having a significant impact on the heart space, helping us to detach energetically from the past, accepting the process of shedding the past self versions. This full moon is associated with unconditional love, passion, and self healing.

Full moon energies will illuminate what needs letting go of, past relationships that no longer serve a higher purpose and putting an end to overthinking for many , this full moon will transmute negative emotions eg. sadness, regret, remorse, anger etc. The Strawberry Full Moon is known for its ability to purify and cleanse energies, unconditional love frequencies are softening the heart space.

This full moon is going to expose old stories that prevent us from moving forward. The ruler of Sagittarius, Jupiter, is now in sensitive Cancer. This full moon is asking us to let go of what was . The Now energy in each moment holds the greatest conscious power and potential .

During the Sagittarius full moon, the theme of duality is extremely prominent. Sagittarius, known for speaking the truth is embodied in benevolent energies, this shines clarity on the absence of light within and without. This lunar phase may bring up strong desires in many to break free from self limitations, symbolising freedom and catalysing deep introspection into personal barriers.

The heightened and increased awareness of narcissism on our planet, fueled by explosions and surges of truth revelations in others and this world has illuminated and emphasised the duality and darkness that exists in our world.

The significance of the company we keep cannot be overstated, especially as we journey through Ascension, where the contrast between dark and light on this planet intensifies. With free will in play, the choices we make between aligning with the dark or light holds significant implications for true ascension growth. Choosing to stay in “dark side” structures will greatly impact any Ascension progress and leads to a lower conscious spiritual stagnation, many health issues and depending on the mindset disposition of the individual it can turn into spiritual psychosis . This has now become obvious and apparent in our world .

The universal principle of “as above, so below” applies to both dark and spiritual structures, representing low and high consciousness levels. Psychics operating at lower conscious levels receive information from the astral plane, while those at higher conscious levels receive insights and their information from higher divine realms. It is always important to discern the source of information and who has access to your fields, to avoid contamination and dark attachments that persist long after spiritual connections are made.

Duality on this planet is made up of dark and light, it’s one energy or the other. they do not coexist and cannot coexist, they are polar opposites. Many attempt to blend the 2, especially in new age culture, and find them selves in spiritual illusions , living in false illusory structures.

Ultimately it is necessary for all to consciously select the path on the journey of life that resonates and aligns with their true self creation, the genuine ascending chose living in truth and light in all areas of life, committing fully to the path of light requires sovereign loyalty, because of this those authentically ascending avoid intermingling with influences of the other side. It is now so pronounced on our planet that there is a much greater divide in humanity, recognising alignment and resonance is in the choices we make in self and in all areas of life .

YOUR EXPANSION DOESN’T LOOK LIKE

ANYONE ELSE’S. IT IS SACRED, UNIQUE, AND DIVINELY TIMED.

True awakening is not a destination, but a way of being. Aligning in this full moon in Sagittarius, Humanity’s teacher, this full moon is about truth , freedom and liberation. No longer chasing what feels forced, tuning into what expands the self, even if it is quiet, slow, or misunderstood. Sagittarius will highlight areas where the self may find where it feels entrapped. Breaking free from false based constraints.

Your higher self is not far away or detached from you. It is the version of you that speaks in truth, higher knowing, peace, created from a space of love, and leads with words of understanding and wisdom.

The Sagittarius full moon will highlight this and shine light on expanding conscious awareness , it symbolises love, passion, healing, and energy purification. It is a time for many ascending to work on releasing the past self version that attached itself to past pain, detaching from out dated thought patterns, false beliefs, welcoming in joy, expansion new beginnings in aligned connections .

In Loving and Devoted Ascension Service

By Ascension Lightworkers .