Tag: Men

Wounded male child

“… the wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by paternal sadism, by a patriarchal world that did not want him to claim his true feelings.

The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood that she must become something other than herself, deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others.

When men and women punish each other for truth telling, we reinforce the notion that lies are better. To be loving we willingly hear the other’s truth, and most important, we affirm the value of truth telling.

Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love”.

~ Bell Hooks, All About Love

Art | Alisa Borhan

Conscious Woman

Loving a conscious woman ……..

Men are often “afraid” of a conscious woman. For a woman who knows what she feels, what she thinks and what she wants. They think a conscious woman is dangerous. A woman who feels and experiences so much… she must be crazy. She’s too much for me.

In a way they are right. For someone who is not on the same level, she will be too much.

She will be too much for someone who lets his ego speak too much. For someone who doesn’t dare to face their fears yet. She’s too much if you like superficial conversations instead of deep conversations. She’s too much if you think she won’t show you what she feels. Be it fear, anger, sadness or pain. She will share the conheceu with you. She is not afraid to show her vulnerability.

But remember this…

A conscious woman will never hold you responsible for her emotions. Together she will look for you where she came from. She is a woman you will feel more than safe with. You come home. She doesn’t hide behind walls or mascarados. What you experience is what you get. No secrets, no surprises. When you meet her she will show you who she is. Soul to soul.

She knows she’s worth it and she’s not afraid to open up to you. You may see who and how she is and then it is up to you whether you want to walk with her or not.

She will leave you and your worth. She also won’t do something or say something that pretends to be different from her out of fear that you don’t like her enough. She doesn’t want to commit you to terms. She will only want to VER – commit. She is an open book without a secret language. She has no time for relationships filled with conditions and fears of losing someone. She can love herself.

A conscious woman will invite you to love everything about her.

She will and can allow you to enter her soul because she has already done a lot of work. She loves herself as she is. She doesn’t need you, she just invites you to walk together because she thinks you’re beautiful to go on that journey together… No matter how short or long it takes!

Source: Nice homens

Men who withdraw emotionally

𝙒𝙝𝙮 𝙈𝙚𝙣 𝘿𝙞𝙨𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙊𝙧 𝙒𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙙𝙧𝙖𝙬 (𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙉𝙤, 𝙄𝙩’𝙨 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙎𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜)⁣

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This has happened to almost every woman. You are dating this promising man who ticks all your boxes. You are messaging back and forth, having conversations that make your heart glow, and this healthy dose of physical attraction is going on. You might have already met for a coffee or two, or he wined and dined you in his favorite restaurant. You are over the moon and slowly but surely fall in love.⁣

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And then, out of the blue, he disappears off the face of the earth. He doesn’t answer your texts and ignores your phone calls. He ghosts you hook, line, and sinker.⁣

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It leaves you wondering, “Did I do something wrong?”⁣

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Let me be clear: if you didn’t throw tantrums, mooned him on the first date, or completely spooked him out by smashing all your fears and shadows in front of his feet in the first conversation, the answer is NO.⁣

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You did not do anything wrong.⁣

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A man’s self-worth comes from his ability to provide happiness for you. When he starts dating you, he wants to feel validated as a good partner, and he does this by trying to please you.⁣

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So a man might woo you and take you to the most romantic places in town. He’ll excel and surpass anything to be captivating, intelligent, funny, and seductive – Mr. Perfect himself! Because your happiness justifies his worth as a potential romantic partner.⁣

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But….

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⁣… men’s brains are not wired like women’s, which are wired to efficiently understand and process deep emotions. As a woman, you can tell super fast how you feel about a relationship. A man’s ability to tune into his feelings is much less adept.⁣

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Long story short? It takes a man longer to figure out how he feels about you, exactly because of his brain… but also because of his heart.⁣

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Men are very protective, almost guarded, of their hearts. Although men are predominantly depicted as the strong sex, they are incredibly vulnerable and have to be treated gently.⁣

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In his world, a guarded heart is a safe heart. It takes care of him, guards him against harm, and always has his best interests in mind.⁣

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On the other hand, it can also become a heart that does not feel as much, is controlling, and won’t let go of its reins. It even can become, due to disappointments in the love department, a selfish and egocentric heart eventually… a hard heart.⁣

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Not consciously, of course. It’s done out of fear of pain, rejection, and not being validated as a good man.⁣

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So what happens next? ⁣

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They disappear. Or withdraw. Yes, there is a significant difference.⁣

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Disappearing is mostly permanent.⁣

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Men disappear while pursuing you when they, out of the blue, have the revelation that they do not want to be long-term with you. They might not be into you all that much, after all. Or they believe their freedom will vanish into thin air and simply refuse to commit. They might even get scared of the direction the fresh connection is heading in. And poofffff…. gone they are.⁣

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Disappearing is the easy way out. Most men who disappear are avoiders. ⁣

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Withdrawing is mostly temporary, and men do this for many reasons.

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According to a man’s logic, he mostly wants to be in control of the relationship and where it is heading, but he is unwilling to share the control. When he feels forced into making a too swift commitment, he might withdraw to be with his feelings and figure out what he wants.⁣

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He is afraid that he is not good enough for you. He only wants to make you the happiest woman on this earth, and when he feels he cannot give you this, even if it’s only a fraction, he might retreat to his cave. It’s better to be ahead of possible rejection, right?⁣

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And he gets tangled up in his emotions. Sometimes, an inside-out beautiful woman can release so many contradictory feelings in a man that he might be overwhelmed by all these sensations. Instead of opening up and communicating, he’ll probably withdraw to process everything at his own pace.⁣

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Men who withdraw are not always avoiders. They are hurt, insecure about their feelings, in doubt, scared, or guarded.⁣

I’m not saying you must be okay when you feel ignored or ghosted.⁣

I’m not saying you must constantly pretzel yourself around all his emotional quirks.⁣

And I’m definitely not saying you must keep waiting for an unavailable guy.⁣

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I simply say that when you feel a mutual, honest connection, giving “your guy” some space to digest, withdraw, and come back stronger and more transparent than before would be constructive.⁣

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Remember that this process in men goes in layers, just like yours. So he will be present and withdraw, be present and withdraw.⁣

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A fantastic man out there will adore you for holding this space for him. And when you find him (or he finds you), he will gladly do the same for you.⁣

Message to Men – Women are Tired

A Wake-Up Call to Men in Relationships!!!!

I don’t want to sound harsh, but this is a message we all need to hear: Our women are tired.

They’re emotionally drained, and many of us don’t even realize that we’re nearing the edge of losing the best thing that’s ever happened to us.

For far too long, they’ve been carrying the weight of emotional labor in our relationships, but that burden is becoming unbearable. The truth is, their patience, forgiveness, and willingness to endure aren’t inexhaustible resources. The well is running dry.

We assume that because they’ve always extended grace, always stood by us, that they always will. But let me make it clear: that’s not guaranteed. There’s a limit to how much one person can give when the other isn’t reciprocating or even acknowledging the imbalance.

This is not a threat, nor is it me pandering. This is a call to action.

We have two choices: level up or level off. If we don’t take this seriously, many of us will soon be facing the reality of a woman who’s reached her limit. The end of grace and mercy.

Take heed. Don’t wait until she’s gone to realize how deeply she’s been hurting, how much she’s been carrying, and how much she’s been hoping—hoping that you’d see her pain and decide to show up in the way she’s needed all along.

Don’t let this be you. Be proactive. Be present. Be committed to doing better. For her. For yourself. For the relationship you could have if you truly step into your role as her equal, her partner, and her emotional support.

We’ve been given countless chances to show up. Let’s not waste another one.

#PermissionToThinkDifferently

P.S. I’ve been accused of pandering to women, and I get it.

I certainly hope your pride won’t convince you that this another “pandering post by Burrus”.

Broken Men

The truth is. He is a broken man. And honestly, you’re not meant to fix him. You’re not meant to save him. Change him or even force him to get his shit together. No. If he doesn’t want those things for himself to begin with, then why should you exhaust yourself trying to help him. You can’t make someone care. You’re not his mother. And your love is not meant to be drained by redirecting careless grown men towards their glory. You’re better than that. You have your own problems to deal with. And honestly, you have better shit to do.

-R. M. DRAKE

Mars message for men

MARS, now moving through its retrograde shadow, is heading straight into some heavy clashes. The first real hit builds up this Sunday/Monday as our masculine energy takes a shameful blow from both the SUN and CHIRON. At the same time, VENUS is preparing for some equally diabolical work before she makes her shift into righteously ordained Sagittarius late next week.

One thing I must say, when men avoid facing their own wounds, they carry a hidden weapon. Unexamined pain is volatile; it spills out into the world, often hitting the people closest to them. Avoidance turns inward suffering into outward damage. By refusing to look within, they become haunted by shadows that demand expression—whether through anger, control, or callous detachment. Real strength isn’t in pretending the pain doesn’t exist—it does—it’s in summoning up the courage to sit with it, to understand it, and to prevent it from wreaking havoc on others. And those “others” are done with that chit.

No one’s exempt from this energy. In the wake of the eclipses, these coming days lead us into Thursday’s Full Moon—the most intense Supermoon of the year.

~ Ang Stoic

For more about this, join Sunday’s live Cosmic Bus with Ang Stoic: https://angstoic.com/2020/04/catching-the-cosmic-bus-with-ang/

[Art: Andrea Kowch]

Good Man🥰

Just because he pays bills and gives you everything doesn’t make him a good man; He just a provider. A good man don’t entertain other women. He lets the whole world know that you’re His Woman!! He’s not narcissistic or toxic towards You and He won’t allow His EGO to come between your relationship. He cares about your opinions, wants and needs! He’ll love your flaws and all!! A good Man knows that the least He can do for you is respect you and love you in your presence most importantly in your absence🥀🌷

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Gentle Man 😘

A man being gentle with you is the most masculine thing he can do because it shows his strength in restraint. He knows he could be powerful and imposing, but he chooses to protect rather than harm, to comfort rather than control. This is not a display of weakness, but a deep understanding of what true masculinity looks like.

A man who is gentle understands that his partner is not an object to conquer, but a soul to cherish. He moves through life with an awareness that his touch, his words, and his actions carry weight. His masculinity is defined not by his ability to dominate, but by his capacity to elevate those around him.

A man who is truly masculine knows that gentleness is not passive; it is active love in motion. It is the way he listens when you speak, the care he puts into holding you close, and the thoughtfulness in his actions. His strength lies in the tenderness he offers, creating a safe haven in his presence.

A man who embodies true masculinity does not shy away from vulnerability. He knows that allowing himself to be open and honest takes courage. His gentleness creates a space where you feel seen and heard, and this openness allows trust and intimacy to grow.

A man who leads with gentleness understands that love is not about control but about support. His masculinity is not threatened by the softness he shows, but rather, it is enhanced by it. His touch reassures, his words soothe, and his presence feels like home.

A man who is gentle with his partner shows that masculinity is more than physical strength; it is emotional intelligence. He recognizes that a true partnership thrives on respect, and that gentleness is an essential part of building a lasting connection. He leads with compassion, knowing it strengthens the bond between you.

A man who embraces gentleness demonstrates that he has nothing to prove, because he is secure in himself. His masculinity is not defined by societal expectations or the need to assert dominance, but by his ability to create peace and harmony in his relationship.

A man who practices gentleness knows that life is not a battle to win, but a journey to share with those he loves. He values your feelings, honors your boundaries, and shows up consistently with care and thoughtfulness. His gentleness is his way of saying, “You matter to me.”

A man who is gentle in his approach to love understands that patience and kindness are the foundation of a strong relationship. His masculinity is not diminished by softness; instead, it allows him to nurture the relationship, helping it grow deeper and more meaningful with time.

A man who offers his gentleness is a man who values your trust. He knows that being gentle does not make him less of a man, but more of one. His masculinity shines in his ability to be protective without being possessive, strong without being harsh, and loving without condition.

– Abhikesh

Love and Light,

Michelle Price