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Origins & Causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
When people in society talk about narcissism, there is usually a definitive statement of, “Well it’s caused by childhood trauma…” with an undertone of…”So any aggressive behavior is justified.” However, according to research that’s not always or even usually the case – at least, not in the way people often definitively describe it. There has actually been mixed empirical “results” on the causes of narcissism from studies that have investigated it, although research has yielded surprising associations between parental overvaluation and the traits of narcissism, with less evidence for a direct effect of childhood maltreatment. It’s important to note that there is also no clinical verdict on the cause of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. So even if we learn more about the origins of the traits of narcissism, more research needs to be conducted on NPD as a full-fledged disorder too.
***Childhood trauma regardless of whether it is present or not is also not a justification for abuse. #originsofnarcissism #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #mythsaboutnarcissism #shahidaarabi

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Deeply Held Trauma presents as total Self Absorbson, Abuse , Toxic Behaviors
Anyone who acts as a parental alienator has major issues with their mental and emotional health and is incapable of relating to other human beings in a normal loving, caring way – not even their children.
I know this from first hand experience and was as deeply shocked as anyone who has had their children withheld from them as an act of vengeance, regardless of the impact it has on others. Alienators will do and say anything to hurt you, because they are hurting deep inside, and have been for a very long time.
There are common patterns in the alienators’ past. They suffered trauma earlier in their own lives and became detached from normal behaviours and feelings. It does not matter how strong these people appear on the outside, they are weak, vulnerable and insecure on the inside. Don’t expect them to change or seek help as they are terrified of re-visiting their past – they are stuck in their own traumatised state.
You may recognise some of the common patterns with your own alienator; a troubled childhood, possibly with domestic violence, emotional abuse, alcoholism, lack of loving or supporting parents, or being over favoured and knowing no boundaries. This list continues but some of these will be very recognisable to readers.
It is shocking to the alienated parent how quickly their child can go from being loving to not wanting to see them. The child is living in fear that the alienating parent will punish them in various forms if they do not comply with the alienator’s demands. The child goes into self protection. They are hugely conflicted but side with the people they are most afraid of, who threatens to do them the most harm. This is nothing less than emotional abuse and creates trauma for the child that can stay with them for years.
Whilst it does not change your situation, it can help to better understand why this is happening. Your experience is not because, you or your children did something wrong, but because your X is mentally and emotionally affected by trauma in their past. This is not to make them out as being a victim as any of them can seek help at any time.
Legal and social services remain poorly equipped to identify and deal with parental alienation, which means you are often left to your own devices to manage the situation as best you can.
3 top tips:
1 – Make sure you are in a good mental and emotional state so that you can deal with the situation. There are many tools and techniques to build your mental and emotional resilience
2 – Where you have contact, focus on rebuilding your relationship with your child by concentrating on their needs and support, rather than involving them in the alienation battle of asking them to deal with any of your own issues
3 – Create boundaries between you and the alienating parent. Tactically, it is helpful to remember that you are dealing with people that demonstrate infantile behaviour and you may need to manage them accordingly

Lacking Empathy
Did you know that narcissists share the same brain abnormalities as psychopaths regarding their inability to feel remorse or compassion?
Narcissists are also a close second to psychopaths on The Dark Triad.
When we first started learning about narcissism, most of the material we encountered was clear about how dangerous narcissists are and how detrimental it is to be in relationships with them.
But now, much of the material about narcissism is leaning more towards the “self-aware” narcissist or the “vulnerable” narcissist, comparing narcissists to their targets, comparing their inner wounds, and claiming that there are ways to make things work with a narcissistic individual.
But, toxic relationships don’t suddenly become healthy. People aren’t coming forward with the success story of the decade because the narcissist they know has suddenly had The Divine Epiphany and are deeply remorseful about their wicked ways.
If narcissists are truly evolving and becoming ‘self-aware’, why aren’t we seeing any real-life examples of improved behaviors and relationships?
If psychopaths cannot be rehabilitated due to their brain abnormalities, it only makes sense that narcissists cannot be rehabilitated, either.
You can read all day about how narcissists are improving with therapy or some other modality, but the neuroscience cannot be denied.
Narcissists cannot learn or develop empathy. Just like psychopaths, all they can do is pretend.
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Can I witness to this numerous time , infinity if he has his way any way to retaliate
Coercion in Psychiatry 2008 , by Mary Maddock
Coercion in Psychiatry (written in 2008 the year my granddaughter was born)
You would think people who study medicine would see that a young woman who had a difficult pregnancy, very long labour, deprived of sleep and who had received an excessive amount of nitrous oxide would enter an altered state of consciousness as a NORMAL reaction. You would also think they would ask some questions to find out why this happened before whisking this woman off in an ambulance to a psychiatric hospital at 80 or 90 miles an hour but that might be too much to ask from a professional who is not in the habit of asking questions!
You would think that having made this tragic mistake, having tried out neuroleptic treatment and following it with electroshock, this was admitting that psychotropic drugs do not work, as electroshock is only supposed to be given when drugs are a failure!
You would never believe then their next solution was that this same person received multi-drug treatment for 20 years later but this was the way an unthinking medical professionals ‘ treated’ me!
Electroshock causes brain damage. Electroshock causes brain seizures. People who suffer from seizures know it causes memory loss and yet amazingly electroshock is on the increase worldwide today. All research done to date backs this common-sense up but still vulnerable, suffering people are having electrodes attached to their delicate, precious brains while unthinking, greedy professionals are delusional enough to think they are helping them. The public is unaware that this is happening. Most of them believe electroshock is a thing of the past. How long more will people labelled ‘mentally ill’ and their families continue to be fed with lies and half-truths? How long more will people who may have psycho/social difficulties be treated as guinea pigs? How long will those who consider themselves ‘normal’ continue to turn their backs on their brothers and sisters who were unfortunate enough to be labelled and branded by professionals who think they know best? This has to stop.
Are mad people irrational?
We live in a world where abuse of others is part of the status quo. It is very acceptable to abuse others if you are rich ‘educated’ and powerful. You are given permission to lie, cheat, steal, hurt and even kill in the name of ‘help’. Governments and laws will support you and you will convince yourself you are good and never be aware of the harmful destructive path you leave behind. On the other hand, those who are labelled ‘mad’ often react to this unjust world. They find it emotionally disturbing and they try to escape. They build a new world for themselves split from reality. They feel they are victims and are often in the direct line of societal abuse. Is this a mad irrational thing to do? It seems very rational to protect oneself.
COERCION OR FORCE HAS NO PLACE IN HEALING OR WELL-BEING IN BODY, MIND AND SPIRIT. HUMAN BEINGS ARE DIFFERENT FROM ALL OTHER FORMS OF LIFE IN THAT THEY HAVE THE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE. IF THIS IS NOT RESPECTED, THEN THE SO-CALLED ‘HELPERS’ ARE ACTING FROM A TOP/DOWN POSITION AND PERCEIVE THEIR FELLOW HUMANS AS ANIMALS WHO CANNOT THINK OR EVALUATE THEMSELVES.
WHEN A GROUP OF PEOPLE ARE LABELLED ‘MENTALLY ILL’ BY OTHERS WHO ‘KNOW BEST, THEN THE RESULT IS THAT THESE BRANDED PEOPLE CAN BE FORCED AGAINST THEIR WILL TO RECEIVE ‘TREATMENTS,’ OFTEN HARMFUL, WHICH OTHER PEOPLE, SERVICE PROVIDERS AND VERY OFTEN FAMILY, THINK THEY NEED.
‘MENTAL ILLNESS’, WHICH HAS NO SCIENTIFIC BASIS, IS VERY CLEVERLY USED TO DEPRIVE VULNERABLE
PEOPLE OF THEIR RIGHTS AS CITIZENS. THERE IS NO MEDICAL TEST TO PROVE ‘MENTAL ILLNESS’ EXISTS, YET PSYCHIATRISTS, PSYCHOLOGISTS, LAWYERS, THE MEDIA ETC. CONTINUE TO ACT AS IF IT WERE COMPARABLE TO OTHER ILLNESSES E.G. DIABETES. NOBODY EVER LOSES THEIR CIVIL AND HUMAN RIGHTS WHEN THEY ARE DIAGNOSED WITH OTHER ILLNESSES YET WHEN A PERSON IS DIAGNOSED WITH A ‘MENTAL ILLNESS’ SHE/HE CAN BE FORCED INTO A ‘HOSPITAL’ AND ‘TREATED’ WITH TOXIC PSYCHIATRIC DRUGS AGAINST THEIR WILL EVEN THOUGH IT IS NOW COMMON KNOWLEDGE THAT MOST OF THESE DRUGS HAVE SERIOUS, EVEN LIFE-THREATENING, ADVERSE EFFECTS.
PEOPLE WHO HAVE VERY DIFFICULT PSYCHO/SOCIAL PROBLEMS ARE DIAGNOSED WITH MEDICAL ‘DISORDERS’ SUCH AS ‘SCHIZOPHRENIA’ AND ‘BI-POLAR DISORDER’ ETC. WHICH DO NOT EXIST. THE STANDARD TREATMENT IS USUALLY SOME FORM OF A NEUROLEPTIC, OFTEN MORE THAN JUST ONE. MOST OF THE CHEAP FORMS E.G. LARGACTIL, HALDOL, ETC. ARE NOT USED TODAY IN FAVOUR OF THE MUCH MORE EXPENSIVE ATYPICALS SUCH AS ZYPREXA AND RISPERDAL. THESE NEUROLEPTICS ARE VERY SUCCESSFUL IN CAUSING A CHEMICAL LOBOTOMY WHICH CAN DEPRIVE THOSE WHO ARE UNFORTUNATE ENOUGH TO USE THEM OF THEIR HUMANITY. THE HAPPIEST MOMENTS OF OUR LIVES ARE WHEN WE EXPERIENCE OUR HUMANITY TO THE FULL. PHYSICAL LOBOTOMIES WERE USED ON PEOPLE WHO WERE REFERRED TO AS ’MENTALLY ILL ‘ IN THE PAST BUT THANKFULLY MOST PSYCHIATRISTS TODAY CAN SEE THAT SURGICAL LOBOTOMIES SHOULD BE OUTLAWED. HOW LONG WILL IT TAKE THEM TO SEE THE DAMAGE NEUROLEPTICS DO TO CREATIVE, WORTHWHILE PEOPLE?
WHAT IS A HUMAN BEING? TO BE HUMAN IS TO BE DIFFERENT FROM BEING AN ANIMAL BUT SHE/HE IS MORE THAN AN ANIMAL. AN ANIMAL CANNOT CHOOSE. AN ANIMAL FOLLOWS ITS INSTINCTS. A HUMAN BEING IS CAPABLE OF SELF DETERMINATION. SHE/ HE CAN CREATE SOMETHING NEW. MUSIC IS A GOOD EXAMPLE. IT IS MADE UP OF A LIMITED NUMBER OF SOUNDS YET A HUMAN BEING CAN CREATE A SYMPHONY OR A CONCERTO OUT OF THESE LIMITED SOUNDS. WE CAN CREATE THE INFINITE OUT OF THE FINITE. WE CAN BE IN TOUCH WITH WHAT IS DESCRIBED AS GODLINESS. WE ASSOCIATE BEING HUMAN WITH OUR HIGHEST VALUES: FREEDOM, LOVE, INSIGHT, CREATIVITY AND UNDERSTANDING. THE MONKEY CAN MAINTAIN A SIMPLE IMAGE OF A SITUATION. HOWEVER HUMAN BEINGS HAVE A HIGHER POWER AND CAN MANIPULATE IMAGES AND TAKE DIFFERENT POINTS OF VIEW. WE CAN TAKE A LEAP OUTSIDE OURSELVES AND SEE OURSELVES FROM THE OUTSIDE. WE CAN SEE OURSELVES AND THE WORLD WITH THE EYES OF OTHERS. WE ARE ABLE TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN OUR INNER AND OUTER WOULD. WE CAN CREATE OUR INNER WORLD WHERE WE CAN
PERFORM EXPERIMENTS OF THOUGHT. WE CAN MOVE FROM THIS INNER WORLD AND MAKE A LEAP TO A POINT OUTSIDE OURSELVES.
LOVE MAKES THIS LEAP POSSIBLE. IT IS BY THIS LEAP THAT WE GROW IN FREEDOM, LOVE, INSIGHT, CREATIVITY AND UNDERSTANDING. WE GAIN POWER OVER OURSELVES AND OUR INNER WORLD. WHEN WE EXPERIENCE THESE VALUES, WE ARE TRULY ALIVE AND FREE.
IT IS DIFFICULT TO FIND THESE IMPORTANT HUMAN VALUES IN COERCIVE PSYCHIATRY. A HUMAN BEING WHO THINKS THAT SHE/HE KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR SOMEONE ELSE AND FORCES ANOTHER TO DO IT IS NOT ACTING LIKE A HUMAN BEING. THESE FIVE POWERFUL VALUES ARE ABSENT AND SO NO TRUE HEALING CAN TAKE PLACE.
“ OF ALL TYRANNIES, A TYRANNY SINCERELY EXERCISED FOR THE GOOD OF ITS VICTIMS MAY BE THE MOST OPPRESSIVE” C.S. LEWIS.
IF PSYCHIATRISTS ARE TO BECOME HELPFUL AND VALUE THE OTHER PERSON AS A FELLOW HUMAN BEING THEN EQUALITY IS SOMETHING THAT IS A MUST. AT PRESENT THERE IS A TOP/DOWN ATTITUDE. SOMETIMES YOU WOULD THINK THE PSYCHIATRIST EVEN DISLIKES THE PERSON SHE/HE IS SUPPOSED TO BE HELPING. I HAVE HEARD MANY CLIENTS OF PSYCHIATRISTS EXPRESS THIS VIEW. SOME WOMEN ARE EVEN TOLD THEY ARE NOT CAPABLE OF HAVING CHILDREN AND NEVER WILL. WHAT A HOPELESS MESSAGE TO GIVE TO SOMEONE WISHING TO RECOVER.
TO RECOVER FROM PSYCHO/SOCIAL DIFFICULTIES, WE NEED TO BE ABLE TO USE OUR FRONTAL LOBES AT THEIR BEST. NEUROLEPTICS INTERFERE WITH THE PERFORMANCE OF THE FRONTAL LOBES AND MAKE IT IMPOSSIBLE TO RECOVER. SOME OF THE OUTWARD SIGNS OF THIS BRAIN DAMAGE MANIFEST THEMSELVES AS BODILY MOVEMENTS. THE MEDICAL TERMS FOR BODILY MOVEMENT DISORDERS INDUCED BY NEUROLEPTIC DRUGS ARE AKINESIA (IMMOBILITY), PARKINSONISM (RIGIDITY AND TREMBLING), AKATHISIA ( DISQUIET, INABILITY TO SIT STILL ) DYSTONIA, ( CONTORTIONS OF THE FACE AND BODY), AND DYSKINESIA ( DISTURBED MOVEMENTS). THE OUTWARD PERSON GIVES US AN IMAGE OF THE INNER PERSON.
WHEN SUCH AWFUL BRAIN DAMAGE CAN BE THE RESULT OF THE USE OF NEUROLEPTICS IN MODERN-DAY PSYCHIATRY, IT IS EVEN MORE OF A CRIME AGAINST HUMANITY WHEN THEY ARE FORCED ON VULNERABLE, SUFFERING PEOPLE IN THE NAME OF ‘HELP’. WORSE STILL, WHEN THESE DRUGS ARE FORCEFULLY INJECTED IN LARGE DOSES, THE PEOPLE
RECEIVING THEM WILL NOT OBJECT BECAUSE THE BRAIN DAMAGE HAS BEEN SO SUCCESSFUL.
SURVIVORS OF PSYCHIATRY WORLDWIDE KNOW THEY HAVE BEEN CHEMICALLY LOBOTOMISED, OFTEN AGAINST THEIR WILL. THIS IS DRESSED UP AS ‘CARE’. THERE ARE MANY EX-USER/SURVIVOR ORGANIZATIONS. THE TWO LARGEST GROUPS ARE WNUSP (WORLD NETWORK OF EX-USERS/SURVIVORS OF PSYCHIATRY) AND ENUSP (EUROPEAN NETWORK OF EX-USERS/SURVIVORS OF PSYCHIATRY). THEY BOTH BELIEVE THAT THERE SHOULD BE NO COERCION IN PSYCHIATRY AND CONSTANTLY CAMPAIGN AGAINST IT. ACTIVISTS FROM BOTH ORGANISATIONS ALONG WITH MINDFREEDOM INTERNATIONAL, HAVE PARTICIPATED IN THE UN AD HOC CONVENTION ON THE RIGHTS OF PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES AND HAVE BEEN SUCCESSFUL IN CHANGING SOME OF THE ARTICLES WHICH HAD ALLOWED FOR FORCE AND GUARDIANSHIP IN THE PAST. WE SEE THIS AS THE FIRST IMPORTANT STEP TO ABOLISH FORCE AND COERCION AS A FORM OF ‘HELP’ AND ‘CARE’. IN HIS BOOK ‘DEPRIVED OF OUR HUMANITY – THE CASE AGAINST NEUROLEPTIC DRUGS’, DR. LARS MARTENSSON QUOTES HEBRIANA, A SURVIVOR FROM SWEDEN WHO EXPRESSES WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE FORCED AND COERCED VERY WELL. “IT WAS A HORRIBLE EXISTENCE. I WAS FETTERED. THE AIR BECOMES THICK AND DENSE. YOU CANNOT GET THROUGH. IT IS INCOMPREHENSIBLE. THAT STATE, IF ANYTHING, IS INCOMPREHENSIBLE. IN ORDER TO INTEGRATE THESE EXPERIENCES OF PSYCHIATRIC VIOLENCE AND FORCED DRUGGING, YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT HOW HELPLESS YOU CAN BE.” SHE GOES ON TO SAY “ SURVIVORS OF OTHER HORRORS CREATED BY HUMANS (CONCENTRATION CAMPS, CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE, TORTURE), HAVE ALSO NEEDED DECADES, AND OFTEN A LOT OF THERAPY, LOVE AND SUPPORT BEFORE THEY HAVE BEEN ABLE TO CONFRONT AND INTEGRATE THEIR MEMORIES AND BEGIN TELLING US WHAT THEY HAVE BEEN THROUGH. SURVIVORS NEED ACCEPTANCE AND RECOGNITION OF THEIR EXPERIENCES IN ORDER TO BE ABLE TO RETURN TO THE HUMAN COMMUNITY AND FEEL THAT THEY ARE MEMBERS OF THE HUMAN RACE.
THESE OTHER GROUPS ARE APPROVED VICTIMS. THEY GET UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTANCE. THEY LIVE IN A SOCIETY THAT RECOGNISES ITS DUTY TO TRY TO RESTORE THEIR SENSE OF SECURITY.
NEUROLEPTIC SURVIVORS, ON THE OTHER HAND, LIVE IN AN UNREPENTANT SOCIETY THAT KEEPS PERPETUATING THE HORROR THEY UNDERWENT. PEOPLE DO NOT WANT TO BELIEVE THAT SOMETHING SO HORRIBLE CAN GO ON IN OUR SOCIETY. SUCH DENIAL IS A CONTINUING CRIME”.
IN A CIVILIZED SOCIETY, COERCION AND FORCE CAN NEVER BE JUSTIFIED AS A GOOD WAY TO HELP OTHERS. IT IS BARBARIC AND INHUMANE AND CAN ONLY BE COUNTERPRODUCTIVE. THOSE WHO DEFEND IT MAKE MATTERS MUCH WORSE AND CAN NEVER CALL THEMSELVES HEALERS. THEY ARE VIOLENT AND THEIR METHODS MUST BE SEEN FOR WHAT THEY ARE, NAMELY CONTROLLERS. PEOPLE WHO ARE HURT AND ABUSED NEED LOVE AND KINDNESS NOT FORCE, CONTROL AND COERCION.
“I GOT ELATED AFTER MY FIRST BABY IN 1970. AFTER 6 WEEKS AT HOME BREASTFEEDING THEY PUT ME IN A MENTAL HOSPITAL. THERE I WAS MADE MENTALLY ILL BY HALDOL AND LARGACTIL. I WAS THEN DEEPLY DEPRESSED AND EVEN FORGOT ABOUT MY BABY. I HAD THE SHAKES, LOCKJAW AND A TERRIBLE THIRST AND DROOLING. I COULDN’T EVEN WALK.
I HAD SUFFERED LOW SELF-ESTEEM GROWING UP. THIS CONTINUED IN MARRIAGE THOUGH I HAD SOME GOOD YEARS. I COMPARED MYSELF NEGATIVELY WITH OTHER WOMEN WHEN THEY ACHIEVED SOMETHING.
I THOUGHT I COULDN’T DO THAT. SO I HAVE FEW SKILLS. PSYCHIATRY ENSURED THAT I WAS A FAILURE. MY HUSBAND CARRIED ME BUT DID NOT QUESTION THE NEGATIVE EFFECT OF DRUGS. NEGATIVITY CAUSES DEPRESSION.
I WAS IN THE MENTAL HOSPITAL OVER 75 TIMES ALMOST ALWAYS INVOLUNTARY BECAUSE I WAS ELATED. NEARLY ALWAYS OUT OF FRUSTRATION, BECAUSE OF NOT BEING ABLE TO COPE AT HOME ALONE, WITHOUT ENOUGH SUPPORT. I WAS OVER-DEPENDENT ON MY HUSBAND AND AFTER WE SEPARATED I BECAME DEPENDENT ON FRIENDS.
I FIND THAT PSYCHIATRY DOES NOT ADDRESS THE BASIC PROBLEMS BUT WITH THE FORCEFUL ADMINISTRATION OF NEUROLEPTIC DRUGS EXACERBATES THE CONDITION.
SO THAT NOW AT 62 YEARS OLD, HAVING TWO ADULT SONS, LIFE HAS SLIPPED BY BECAUSE I LIVED IN THE PAST. PSYCHIATRY CURES NOBODY. I AM IN THE LOCKED UP HOSPITAL AGAIN AS I WRITE THIS FEELING INSECURE, HELPLESS AND HOPELESS ONE MORE TIME.
I FEEL I AM FINISHED AND I CAN’T GO ON”
THESE ARE THE WORDS OF MY BRAVE FRIEND HELENA KING WHO UNFORTUNATELY IS NO LONGER WITH US. SHE OFTEN SAID TO ME AND OTHERS THAT “ DEPRESSION IS A SUFFERING OF THE SOUL WHICH ENCOMPASSES THE MIND AND BODY LEAVING ONE HELPLESS AND HOPELESS”. SHE NEVER BELIEVED SHE HAD A DISEASE BUT RECOGNIZED SHE HAD PROBLEMS. SHE WOULD HAVE LIKED TO FIND HELP FROM THOSE WHO ‘CARED’ FOR HER. HOWEVER, ALL SHE FOUND WAS COERCION AND CONTROL.
NOW, MOST SERVICE PROVIDERS DIAGNOSE PSYCHO/SOCIAL PROBLEMS AS ‘MENTAL ILLNESSES’ WITHOUT A CURE. BUT ALL PEOPLE IN DIFFICULTY CAN FIND IS MAINTENANCE ‘TREATMENT’ OF SYMPTOMS WHICH FOR MOST EXACERBATE THEIR ORIGINAL PROBLEMS. THEY CAN FIND NO HELPFUL WAYS BUT INSTEAD, THEY ARE FORCED TO RECEIVE HARMFUL, TORTUOUS AND HURTFUL TREATMENTS JUST AS HELENA DID. IS THIS GOOD ETHICAL PRACTICE OR IS IT AN ABUSE OF HUMAN RIGHTS?
A TRUE HEALER AND SUPPORTER WILL BE AWARE THAT SHE/HE IS A HUMAN BEING WHO IS LEARNING TO LIVE AND COPE IN A FEARFUL WORLD. SHE/HE REACHES OUT TO OTHERS, ENCOURAGES, EMPATHISES AND UNDERSTANDS, ALWAYS REALIZING THAT SHE/HE IS GIVING AND RECEIVING EACH FROM THE OTHER. IN SUCH A RELATIONSHIP THERE IS NO ROOM FOR FORCE OR COERCION. BUT EVER-PRESENT ARE FREEDOM, EQUALITY, TRUTH AND HUMAN RIGHTS. IT IS ONLY THEN WE POSSESS THE RESPECT AND DIGNITY WHICH EVERYONE DESERVES, ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO HAVE PSYCHO/SOCIAL PROBLEMS.
“THE DIRECT USE OF FORCE IS SUCH A POOR SOLUTION TO ANY PROBLEM IT IS GENERALLY EMPLOYED ONLY BY SMALL CHILDREN AND LARGE NATIONS”. (DAVID FREIDMAN)
REFERENCE: THE CASE AGAINST NEUROLEPTICS DRUGS BY LARS MARTENSSON, M.D.
MARY MADDOCK, MINDFREEDOM IRELAND, INTAR( INTERNATIONAL NETWORK TOWARDS ALTERNATIVES AND RECOVERY). BOARD MEMBER ENUSP, MINDFREEDOM INTERNATIONAL.
MARCH, 2008.
Sever Character Disorder, MeMeMe
Monday Mindset ; Sherrie Campbell, PhD
Toxic people are loyal to only one person; themselves. It is frustrating from the outside to see them seemingly getting their way and destroying relationships with no remorse. They say they want healthy relationships with us, as they are in the process of crossing every boundary every person in their life puts in place. Severely character disordered people aren’t capable of loyalty.
They don’t care about relationships lasting. If they had that type of concern, they would have to consider the needs and feelings of others, and this requires far too much effort for them. The way they choose to show up in their relationships is to betray, manipulate, sulk, gossip and play games.
Never be jealous when a toxic person moves on to “love” someone else. That new person is their next victim. Hold the mindset that toxic people will always take the easy road. The road they take is to blame the real victim and exonerate themselves. Let them play this game… without you.
