So-Called “Child Welfare” Tears Families Apart. How Can We Repair This Harm? | Truthout

Child Psychological Abuse results …

Activists are organizing to end punitive family policing policies that unnecessarily separate children from families.
— Read on truthout.org/articles/so-called-child-welfare-tears-families-apart-how-can-we-repair-this-harm/

Empowered to move forward – Craig Childress , Psy D

The pathogen isolated you from rescue by creating forensic psychologists – a sub-specialty field… just for you.

No other pathology has their own “special” psychologists who do something different, who don’t diagnose and don’t treat pathology. Let that sink in… they don’t identify the problem or fix it.

What good are they? A: None.

The pathogen gave you bait to seduce you into squandering your efforts and energy in useless fighting and fighting that never solves anything… by giving you the WORST possible diagnostic model for a proposed “new pathology” unique in all mental health of “parental alienation”.

The pathology created forensic psychology to isolate parents from rescue. The pathology created the construct of “parental alienation” as bait for parents to exhaust your efforts into unproductive fighting.

Wait… Dr. Childress, are you saying a pathology has motivation? Yes. No other pathology seeks to be the pathology. ADHD doesn’t want to be ADHD, schizophrenia is not trying to remain schizophrenic. This pathology is seeking to exist – it needs to exist – it has motivation.

How? Because the pathology is an attachment pathology. The attachment system is a primary motivational system of the brain. The coherent set of damaged information structures in the attachment networks, damaged by trauma that remains unresolved, have access to our motivations.

The pathogen can make us do things we don’t realize we’re doing.

The pathogen has three defenses. No other pathology has defenses seeking to maintain the pathology against its resolution. This pathology does, it defends itself, it wants to exist, it needs to exist.

1) Hide. This pathogen’s first defense is to hide. It hides extremely well.

2) Seek Allies. This pathogen seeks allies who will enable it to exist (and remain hidden).

3) Attack Threats of Exposure. This pathogen attacks any threats of exposure with great viciousness to put target on the defensive.

I’ve fixed that. I’ve exposed the pathogen from hiding – diagnosis – I’ve identified in professional-level constructs what the pathology is.

I’ve identified its allies in the forensic psychologists and Gardnerian PAS “experts” – it’s not enough to simply identify the pathology, we must also identify the pathogen’s allies who enable it. Without its allies, the pathogen becomes powerless.

I’ve endured its attack… and I’m still standing. It’s our turn now to attack the pathogen and put the pathogen on the defensive. The moment it has to defend… it’s exposed from its hiding.

The pathogen is exposed on attack. I’ve created a situation where it MUST attack or else it will be identified and removed. I’ve created a double-bind for it, if it doesn’t attack Dr. Childress, I will be expose it, and if it attacks… it will expose itself.

It’s a pathogen – a coherent set of damaged information structures in the brain that cause a pattern of pathology. See the patterns and you’ll see the pathogen that creates them.

The pathogen’s only choice now is to avoid encountering the anti-pathogen of Dr. Childress and my work. It doesn’t even want to acknowledge I exist, because the moment it does… it’s all over, it’s exposed from its hiding and everyone sees it.

But it will be unable to avoid the encounter with Dr. Childress and the anti-pathogen of AB-PA because I’m already into the mind-scape. Truth is truth. Truth will out.

I’m not your warrior, I’m your weapon. I replaced your impotent “parental alienation” thing with something effective, something powerful – diagnosis and the established knowledge.

I’ve made you dangerous to the allies of the pathogen. Knowledge is immensely dangerous to ignorance, especially when the binding sites of ignorance are required – required – by ethical standards to apply knowledge as the bases for professional judgments.

I’ve boxed it in. It has no escape now. Forensic psychology will collapse and “parental alienation” will disappear from professional-level use. Clinical psychology has abandoned you – because the pathogen has made itself too dangerous to your allies to be here.

The pathogen isolated you from rescue. That’s our next step, we need to get you quality professional services in the family courts, competent mental health services for you and your children, and an accurate diagnosis for the court’s decisions surrounding the child and family.

When I found you, you were all going round-n-round in endless circles of continual conflict. I put us on a linear path. We are moving in a direction. We have reached the point of collapse, the Tower of Destruction that lead to rebirth.

The dysfuntional systems are collapsing into their dysfunction. For the Phoenix to rise from the ashes, there must be ashes.

I needed to have everything completed by the time the Dying Time came in 2020, the Sacrifice needed for entry. I was on the list of those to be sacrificed, it was coming for the old, it was a culling of the herd of the old and vulnerable, I was part of the herd it was culling.

I didn’t know if the coming sacrifice represented by the Dying Time was for you or included me. It was yours, I was able to successfully dance with invisible death and I survived.

But going in, I didn’t know if I’d be coming out, so I had to have everything completed by the time the Dying Time of the sacrifice arrived.

Now everything is done. You have everything you need. Plus I’m still here for a while to help with your transitions, at least for as long as I’m here. I dodged death in 2020, but the doorway remains just up ahead. It’s the way of things to transition out so others can transition in.

I’ve done my job. Now they need to do theirs. You are more powerful than you know.

You’re the protective parent. I know that and you know that.You just need support. You have support. It’s time to live into your power.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Parental Mental Health and Its Impact on Child Mental Health

Melissa Williams shares how to support mental health for parents & children in this 1st episode of a 3-part series on parental mental health.
— Read on www.momenough.com/2023/11/parental-mental-health/

Narcissist Traits of a Parent who Alienates- Charlie Mc Cready

Many alienating parents exhibit narcissistic traits, which include an intense need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. They are sensitive to rejection and criticism because it challenges their self-perceived superiority. Being told “no” or not getting their way threatens their sense of control and dominance. Their flexibility with the truth (aka outright lies and deceptions) stems from a desire to maintain their self-image as flawless. They consider themselves something of a hero! Being ignored undermines their need for validation from the outside world. Also, they resent others’ success or attention, feeling threatened by anyone who outshines them. In the case of ‘parental alienation’, this extends to fearing or being threatened by the idea that the children love their ex. They avoid counselling and disregard court rules to evade exposure or accountability, reinforcing their manipulative tactics. Believe it or not, many of these behaviours stem from their deep-seated insecurity and the compulsion to maintain a facade of perfection and superiority.

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Exiting Psychiatry

Psychiatry has taken our emotional/spiritual problems and made them biological/brain problems. When you take a person’s emotional suffering and blame it on their lack of cognitive ability due to unproven biological reasons (chemical imbalance), more psychological/mental damage can occur, along with potential physiological damage from the side effects of medication.

The following is a list of things that helped me become professionally “undiagnosed” by a psychiatrist from Bipolar Disorder and off medication.

(Do not EVER stop taking your medication cold turkey or without professional help!!!)

  1. Belief in a higher power
    The Mental Health Benefits of Religion & Spirituality
    https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/December-2016/The-Mental-Health-Benefits-of-Religion-Spiritual
  2. Talk with a psychologist
    Psychotherapy
    https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/psychotherapy/about/pac-20384616#:~:text=Psychotherapy%20can%20help%20treat%20most,as%20depression%20or%20bipolar%20disorder.
  3. Exercise
    Is exercise more effective than medication for depression and anxiety?
    https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/is-exercise-more-effective-than-medication-for-depression-and-anxiety

Harnessing Neuroplasticity: How Your Workout Impacts Brain Function
https://www.americansportandfitness.com/blogs/fitness-blog/harnessing-neuroplasticity-how-your-workout-impacts-brain-function

  1. Decrease sugar and processed food consumption
    The impact of sugar consumption on stress driven, emotional and addictive behaviors
    https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763418308613

Sugar Is Wreaking Havoc on Your Hormonal Health
https://observer.com/2018/02/sugar-is-wreaking-havoc-on-your-hormonal-health/

  1. Understanding the link between trauma, flight or flight response, cortisol, & inflamation
    Len Losik Ph.D
    Mental Illness A Creation by the Fight-or-Flight
    Free with Kindle Unlimited

Childhood Trauma, the HPA Axis and Psychiatric Illnesses
https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2022.748372/full

Stress System Malfunction Could Lead to Serious, Life Threatening Disease
https://www.nichd.nih.gov/newsroom/releases/stress

Inflammation in Mental Disorders: Is the Microbiota the Missing Link?
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7475155/

Cortisol as a Biomarker of Mental Disorder Severity
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8584322/

  1. Practice gratitude
    Effects of gratitude intervention on mental health and well‐being among workers: A systematic review
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8582291/
  2. Stop worrying about things out of your control
    How Worrying Affects the Body
    https://www.webmd.com/balance/how-worrying-affects-your-body
  3. Control your anger
    Anger – how it affects people
    https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/anger-how-it-affects-people
  4. Practice forgiveness
    Forgiveness can improve mental and physical health
    https://www.apa.org/monitor/2017/01/ce-corner
  5. Prayer & meditation
    New Study Examines the Effects of Prayer on Mental Health
    https://psychcentral.com/blog/new-study-examines-the-effects-of-prayer-on-mental-health#1

We must stop believing that a diagnosis has to be life long. You have to do your own hard work and research to get to the root cause and solutions. Medication may be necessary for some time and there is nothing wrong with that. What works for one, may not work for all. Always believe there is hope.

Here are a few videos I highly recommend

Medicating Normal
https://youtu.be/E6dvbeGpsO0?si=DlER5N9lZMx-OCVW

The Marketing of Madness – The Truth About Psychotropic Drugs
https://youtu.be/M_61ONB3b1c?si=9mDP6TcjKZ_Be6Yt

Psychiatry & Big Pharma Exposed
https://youtu.be/-Nd40Uy6tbQ?si=Zre3sC2d2Cy1GQKM

These and the books on the group background picture are full of invaluable information.

I hope you will join the group & share if you think this could be helpful for others. 👇
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PA is not normal, not loving towards their child – Charlie McCready

I have read that a parent who alienates their children against their other parent is exhibiting narcissism.

I believe this is so .

The parental alienator is angry you left them, and you’re no longer under their control, paying their bills and/or stroking their ego, and playing their victim/victor games, so you must be punished. They may suffer from a narcissistic wound, and they will use any means, especially the child/children, because that will hurt you the most. Your pain is their pleasure. This is obviously abnormal unhealthy behaviour. Any deep wounds they have are no excuse for them. Instead of taking responsibility, they blame others – it’s easier. Parental alienators are highly manipulative, they use coercive control, which is basically a way of reducing or totally denying a victim’s freedom, by stripping away their (child’s) sense of self. Parental Alienation with coercive control is abuse. Their end game is to sever and destroy the child’s relationship with their other parent after family separation. They will manipulate a child (subtle use of language, lies, false allegations, bribes, threats …) into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect or hostility towards the target parent and this includes their extended family and friends. This includes any hobbies the ‘target’ parent is interested in. Even their pets. The parental alienator convinces others the child speaks for her/himself – this is similar to gaslighting behaviour seen in situations of domestic violence whereby the perpetrator convinces the victim it’s their fault. Also, the parental alienator triangulates others into believing the targeted parent is the cause of the children’s rejection. Bottom line, parental alienation is abuse, and it is not normal behaviour for a child to totally reject a parent.

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Narcissist Neglect – The monster in Parental Alienation – Charlie Mc Cready

I want you to know that what you’re experiencing is incredibly challenging, and your grief, rage or sense of injustice about feeling as if you’re unimportant, invisible, ignored, uncared for, and unloved are entirely valid. It’s important to acknowledge that being in the presence of a narcissist or a psychologically abusive person can be deeply damaging, as they often prioritise their own needs and interests above all else.⁠

Your pain is real, and it’s not your fault. Narcissists (alienating parents often fall into this category) thrive on manipulation and control, and they may make it seem as if you’re the one at fault, but please remember that this couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s all too common not to recognise the presence of a narcissist until we’ve already been deeply affected. They can be incredibly skilled at hiding their true intentions, and they excel at making us feel like we’re the ones who should be changing to meet their demands.⁠

But here’s the truth: when we subjugate our own needs, wishes, and interests for the sake of a narcissist, we unintentionally empower them even more. It’s like feeding a never-ending appetite; they are insatiable in their need for control and admiration.⁠

Please understand that you are not alone in this struggle. Many have faced similar challenges. It’s not an easy journey, but breaking free from the grip of narcissistic abuse is possible. You deserve love, care, and respect, just as anyone else does. Your spirit may feel crushed now, but with the right support, self-care, and healing, you can begin to mend the wounds inflicted.⁠

Remember that seeking help through therapy or support groups can be a significant step towards understanding and healing from this traumatic experience. You have the strength within you to regain your power, rebuild your life, and emerge from this darkness into a brighter future.⁠

You are important, visible, cared for, and loved, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. Your journey to reclaiming your self-worth begins with recognising your value and taking steps towards a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life. Keep going. Stay strong, my friend. ⁠

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The Abusive Alienator is a Green Eyed Monster – Charlie McCready

When abandoned or disappointed by other people they may show what on the surface looks like depression, but which on further examination emerges as anger and resentment, loaded with revengeful wishes, rather than real sadness for the loss of a person whom they appreciated.” (Kernberg, O.F. (1975). Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism)

The narcissistic wound – the core sense of inadequacy, an emptiness – is vulnerable to slights, rejection, and criticism. When triggered, it exposes the borderline personality, the grandiosity, superiority, rage, the need to demean and try to re-establish their importance and authority. Narcissistic Personality clinical expert Dr. Martinez-Lewi says that rather than acknowledging their own flaws, imperfections and wrongdoings, these people will blame-shift, and project onto others, cold-heartedly and cruelly. They will then insist that their victims need the help that they refuse to get themselves. This is toxic and psychologically abusive. If they lie (and they do this with ease, it’s a survival technique), they will accuse others of lying. The whole world is wrong, but never the narcissist. Narcissism and parental alienation usually go hand in hand. A narcissistic parent prioritises themselves above their child and is quite capable of using their child to serve their own selfish interests and needs. This will include weaponising the child against the target parent. A parent with a narcissistic personality will typically refuse to recognise an authority or anyone else’s rules. They believe they’re exempt from standards and behaviours, and rules that govern other people. They have a sense of innate superiority, they have no qualms about making their own rules, and they will refuse orders regarding custody and visitation. These views are shared with the child/children, so that the child/children feel the same and start to feel similarly entitled (superior) in their views of the erased parent, believing the resident parent to be right and the erased parent wrong (splitting). The child becomes empowered to disregard contact with the targeted parent. It’s not uncommon for that child, when placed in the care of the targeted parent, to run away and go back to the parental alienator (alignment/identification with the aggressor, I’ve written a post on this). This ‘good’ parent is above the law, a victim, a survivor, whatever they need to be to ‘win’. The pathogenic narcissistic parent actually has a fragile ego. Make sure you put up boundaries. With all the love and compassion, and kindness that has been used and abused, we have to draw a line on any further exploitation. Cut ties, as much as possible, don’t react, and don’t give them more ammunition. Do all you can to avoid being involved in the narcissist’s pathogenic narcissistic dysfunction.

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