Category: Parential Alienation-Child Abuse

Charlie McCready Kids with 1 parent

An alienated child will often discard presents bought by the ‘target’ parent. They will post photos on social media of their aligned parent but never the alienated parent. It is as if they only have one parent and it is excruciating for the ‘target’ parent to see this. Much as they want to see what’s going on with their child, and they want to see them happy, their non-existence is painful. I know from personal experience. These behaviours can become learned. Even a child who has reunited with a previously rejected parent, will be wary of showing evidence of a good relationship (with both parents). They may still have lingering fears, conditioned responses, or a sense of loyalty towards the alienating parent. These emotions and behaviours can persist even after reconciliation, as the alienation process often creates deep-seated trauma bonds and conflicting emotions within the child. Years later, the child/adult may inherently fear upsetting or angering the alienating parent. They know that showcasing a relationship with the previously rejected parent is going to trigger the alienating parent. They may worry about potential repercussions, such as further manipulation, guilt trips, or even retaliation from the alienating parent. Additionally, the child may feel a sense of obligation or loyalty towards the alienating parent, leading them to prioritise that relationship on social media while keeping the relationship with the previously alienated parent private.

It’s essential to understand that healing from parental alienation is a complex and ongoing process. Even if the child or young adult has reconnected with the previously alienated parent, the psychological impact of the alienation may still be present. I speak from personal experience of this, and picking my battles, in fact, choosing to focus on gratitude for my children being in my life again, after a very long time, I let this one go, I see the previously alienating parent is given a lot of coverage on social media … I let it go (except for sharing this with you).

Overcoming fear, guilt, and loyalty conflicts can take time and a supportive environment. A previously alienated parent should respect the child’s boundaries and emotional needs, allowing them to navigate their healing journey and find their voice in their own time.

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You’ve come so far !

This poem is beautiful and true. Let’s normalize this:

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Silver~

“How many years of beauty do I have left?

she asks me.

How many more do you want?

Here. Here is 34. Here is 50.

When you are 80 years old

and your beauty rises in ways

your cells cannot even imagine now

and your wild bones grow luminous and

ripe, having carried the weight

of a passionate life.

When your hair is aflame

with winter

and you have decades of

learning and leaving and loving

sewn into

the corners of your eyes

and your children come home

to find their own history

in your face.

When you know what it feels like to fail

ferociously

and have gained the

capacity

to rise and rise and rise again.

When you can make your tea

on a quiet and ridiculously lonely afternoon

and still have a song in your heart

Queen owl wings beating

beneath the cotton of your sweater.

Because your beauty began there

beneath the sweater and the skin,

remember?

This is when I will take you

into my arms and coo

YOU BRAVE AND GLORIOUS THING

you’ve come so far.

I see you.

Your beauty is breathtaking.”

~ Jeannette Encinias

Not chasing

Totally true for me

She’s not going to chase after you‼️

She’s not going to constantly prove her value to you.

Because she already knows her worth.

She knows she’s the best thing that will ever come into your life.

She’s aware of her imperfections, but she understands what she’s endured.

She has healed many times from unrecognized trauma, and now fully realizes her life’s value.

If you have the opportunity to be part of her life, consider it a privilege.

If she wants you in her life, there’s a clear reason for it.

She no longer spends time on superficial conversations.

She’s come to understand that her time is valuable, so she won’t waste it on someone who doesn’t recognize her worth.