From Instagram recently. Please follow me there. https://www.instagram.com/charliemccready1/ It helps my quest to spread awareness, inform and uplift. You’re not alone. Our children have a version of the truth that was drip-fed them and force-fed them, like a poison, until they are literally sick of hearing anything more about it. The cognitive dissonance is such that even when they sense something not true (what the parental alienator said), they still can’t believe it’s not true. It’s very twisted. Not that we should be unloading our version, our truth, our completely different experience, our grief, our sense of injustice, on them. They have enough to deal with. They have to survive parental alienation, something they don’t even like to recognise as a thing. Coercive control. Child psychological abuse. So, this, ‘I didn’t abandon you’ is what an alienated parent might like to say, but doesn’t / can’t. With time, with counselling, and with whatever it takes to get through this enormously challenging, heartbreaking experience, and with great self-love, we have to do all we can to accept, and to be happy, with or without, our beloved children.
THE HOPI have always had their fingers on the pulse of the planet. And they do now…check this out. Are you going through a portal or down a hole? Message from White Eagle, Hopi indigenous. “This moment humanity is going through can now be seen as a portal and as a hole. The decision to fall into the hole or go through the portal is up to you. If you repent of the problem and consume the news 24 hours a day, with little energy, nervous all the time, with pessimism, you will fall into the hole. But if you take this opportunity to look at yourself, rethink life and death, take care of yourself and others, you will cross the portal. Take care of your homes, take care of your body. Connect with your spiritual House. When you are taking care of yourselves, you are taking care of everything else. Do not lose the spiritual dimension of this crisis; have the eagle aspect from above and see the whole; see more broadly. There is a social demand in this crisis, but there is also a spiritual demand — the two go hand in hand. Without the social dimension, we fall into fanaticism. But without the spiritual dimension, we fall into pessimism and lack of meaning. You were prepared to go through this crisis. Take your toolbox and use all the tools available to you. Learn about resistance of the indigenous and African peoples; we have always been, and continue to be, exterminated. But we still haven’t stopped singing, dancing, lighting a fire, and having fun. Don’t feel guilty about being happy during this difficult time. You do not help at all being sad and without energy. You help if good things emanate from the Universe now. It is through joy that one resists. Also, when the storm passes, each of you will be very important in the reconstruction of this new world. You need to be well and strong. And for that, there is no other way than to maintain a beautiful, happy, and bright vibration. This has nothing to do with alienation. This is a resistance strategy. In shamanism, there is a rite of passage called the quest for vision. You spend a few days alone in the forest, without water, without food, without protection. When you cross this portal, you get a new vision of the world, because you have faced your fears, your difficulties. This is what is asked of you: Allow yourself to take advantage of this time to perform your vision-seeking rituals. What world do you want to build for you? For now, this is what you can do — serenity in the storm. Calm down, pray every day. Establish a routine to meet the sacred every day. Good things emanate; what you emanate now is the most important thing. And sing, dance, resist through art, joy, faith, and love.” – Lucid Dawn –
“Lilith refused to submit to the rules of the patriarchy. Unbroken and unbowed, she was painted as a demon because of her rebellion. Lilith teaches us that we may be demonized as we pull off the chains of the patriarchy, but we will be free. Lilith reminds us that we can survive anything. We can plant our own sacred garden anywhere we choose.” ~Ara
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When you didn’t have enough care, you tend to accept the crumbs of casual attention. When you didn’t have enough of the right people nurturing your growth and encouraging you to try, you may have looked to ungrounded people to create and exalt into idealized figures. When you didn’t have real love and healthy boundaries to help you feel safe, you made poor choices which led you towards settling for less or made decisions which ushered you into hazardous places. When you didn’t have reliability, consistency, and a foundation built on living with truth, you missed the red flags of dishonesty that were planted knee-deep in terrains requiring authenticity.
When you didn’t have secure parental bonds or an early life of stability lined with trust, and then later in life you noticed these red flags, you likely believed they were subject to change or would eventually disappear or even transform into banners of integrity. You thought they could shift and switch their color and fly happily ever after, these red flags flown by those who fear intimacy; these flags hoisted by the ones with their own trauma issues, too; flags which represent the lack of the very same things you needed to recognize your individual worth.
These red flags waving somewhere in the distance, then blatantly raised were warning you not to come any closer. And these flags they held were flaring red yet overlooked early on are now firmly staked into the ground you share, and somehow have become a declaration of their unwillingness to commit to a clear and honest connection.
When you didn’t have what you needed to advise and offer guidance, you might feel like you’re on your own at learning how to avoid harmful, dangerous or toxic dynamics. Red flags show up almost right away, and because you became inured to tolerating less than what’s right for you — all the strength, confidence, and understanding that’s crucial to heed them couldn’t be applied. But just because you didn’t notice any ominous signs back then, it doesn’t mean you’ve made a pledge to put up and remain in imbalanced friendships, ill-behaved relationships, half-love marriages, disjointed partnerships, broken-boundaried family systems, or pernicious, demeaning situations.
When you didn’t have enough of the goodness you needed, you tend to feel like you’re not enough. Not enough to pursue what’s kind to you. Not enough to wait and see and take your time and hold out for what’s best for you, instead you run the risk of roaming far away from what you should have.
Rippling like signals in the wind, flags are red for everyone to see the threat ahead. And if it feels like its too late, it’s really not. It’s not too late to take whatever room you need to repair the rips and readjust the way you view and esteem your one and only heart, and use the space to practice and communicate the many sound, prioritizing ways you should be respected, loved and cared for. —Susan Frybort
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The image is a poem from the book OPEN PASSAGES written by Susan Frybort. The poem reads: Know you should be loved. You should be held safe and warm inside an invested and caring heart. You should walk away from destructive and depleting forces and walk alongside calming streams. Know your dignity is deserving of the loving places you belong. Know that you matter and should be loved.
Turning Point…. I know that for me, you were always the man I could count on and the man I chose time and time again. You assumed you would always have my heart and perhaps that is why you refused to let go and accept that another had occupied your space. We were the best of friends and the worst of enemies. You were the man I have compared every other man to…. You are the man I felt most betrayed by, because I loved you with more passion and untamed desire than any other man. I loved you for the 3 bundles of joy we brought into this world and the family we had and I hated the way you made me question who I was and my security after December 2004. That was our turning point, our point of no return. You told me you wished you had done things differently, why didn’t you? I wished a thousand times or more that the man I married…. the man I let go of, was still there. You became so bitter and fueled by your own ego and selfish desire that you allowed things to go too far. Now, all you will ever be to me, is A Has Been, whose memory fades more and more with each passing day.
On June 14th, 2022 there will be a Full Moon in the sign of Sagittarius.
Full Moons occur when the Sun and the Moon are directly opposed, creating a stark polarity between their zodiacal signs.
The Moon in Sagittarius will influence the Sun in Gemini to become devoted to the search for truth. But that search will be greatly challenged by the Sun and Moon squared to Neptune in Pisces.
This makes the excess of information like a fog that obscures the truth. The danger of falling down rabbit holes into deeper confusion will only increase.
As Mark Twain said, there’s lies, damn lies, and statistics. So this is not the time to blindly follow the stats that claim to support weak arguments. Nor is this the time to accept the opinions of outside authorities.
Instead, this is the time to look within for direction.
The Sun will be trine to Saturn Rx in Aquarius, summoning a test of your inner authority and the integrity of your beliefs.
To avoid getting lost in the Neptunian fog, you must hold firm to your own sense of authority. This means trusting what you have experienced and trusting what you have observed.
The spirit of Saturn in Aquarius often inspires the outsiders, heretics and exiles to lead the way. What all outsiders have in common is their ability to think for themselves and question authority. That’s how the lost will become found.
This Full Moon in Sagittarius is a celestial reminder to use your mind wisely. Change your mind as you learn. (That’s what it’s there for.)
And always do your best to think for yourself and question authority.
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