Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

Holding peace

You are a rockstar! Whereas, an alienating parent engages in emotional abuse and manipulative tactics. Their actions can stem from deep-seated emotional issues, such as unresolved trauma, low self-esteem, or a need for control and power.

During a divorce or separation, this internal conflict is exacerbated, as the alienating parent may perceive the dissolution of the relationship as a personal attack or rejection. A narcissistic wound. They’re angry, resentful, and a desire for revenge can manifest in the weaponisation of your children as pawns or collateral to further their agenda. In their distorted worldview, they may view you as an enemy to be defeated rather than a co-parent to collaborate with.

Their controlling and manipulative behaviours are an attempt to exert dominance and influence. They may engage in character assassination, spreading false narratives and actively trying to alienate the child from you and anyone associated with you. Their actions can create an environment of fear, anxiety, and instability for everyone involved. An inability to separate their own emotional struggles from their role as a parent can lead to emotional neglect and confusion for the children who unfortunately get caught in the crossfire, feeling torn between their loyalty to both parents and manipulated into taking sides with the alienating parent.

You cannot change an alienator. You can only change how you deal with them. You must become the rock that protects yourself and your children and provides support to your family. There are plenty of tools and techniques to help you do this, creating emotional and mental strength and resilience.

If you are interested, check out my 9-step program. I also offer 1-2-1 coaching both of which guide you through the process of becoming a ROCK.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#parentalalienation

#parentalalienationawareness

#healing

#custody

#custodybattle

#childcustody

#FamilyCourt

Mercury Retrograde

Mercury will be in retrograde in Sagittarius from November 25, 2024 to December 15, 2024. This is a significant astrological event. Mercury, the planet of communication, intellect, and commerce, symbolises the mind’s connection to the world. When it retrogrades, its usual energetic flow feels obstructed. This reversal offers an important opportunity to turn inward and reassess what going on. Think of this time as a philosopher’s sabbatical—a pause to question, examine, and refine, one that will be needed weather contemplated or not. We are already experiencing heightened energies, which can make decision-making challenging. Without love and mindfulness, choices made during this period may later be regretted by both the mind and heart. This can lead to disruption and even chaos.

KEY THEMES

Miscommunication and Introspection:

What You’ll Feel: Words may fail to convey their true meaning. Misunderstandings are likely to arise, leading to conflict or, ideally, introspection. Conversations may feel circular, as though you’re speaking but not truly being heard. Those with blocked throat meridians might struggle more acutely during this time, potentially experiencing issues such as coughing or difficulty swallowing—or both.

What to Watch Out For: Avoid critical discussions that require absolute clarity. Misinterpretations are likely, so document important points and, if possible, delay significant agreements.

Delays in Travel and Technology Failures:

Flights may be rescheduled, plans might unravel, and gadgets could malfunction.

A sense of helplessness or frustration might arise as things don’t go as planned.

Reflection on Past Relationships:

People from your past—old friends, ex-lovers, or unresolved connections—may resurface. Emotions tied to unfinished chapters may bubble to the surface, offering an opportunity for closure or deeper reflection.

Revising Decisions and Plans

What You’ll Feel: Previously made choices may feel uncertain or incomplete. Projects might require revision, and clarity could seem elusive. Agreements that once seemed solid may now appear shaky, prompting a reevaluation.

This is tricky energy we are about to embark on, and December is going to be a time of deep and intense shadow work. “Light can be found in the darkness,

As can your strengths.”

Conclusion: Your light is in your shadow; you don’t find more light in light.

This understanding will be critical

to getting through the next four weeks

for many.

More about this shortly.

Alexander Quinn – Starseed

Kevin Hart Photography

Alienation- Charlie McCready

Alienation isn’t forever. I will explain by defining the word ‘alienation’ which is part of the term ‘parental alienation’. Alienation refers to a state of feeling disconnected, estranged, or isolated from others or from oneself. It describes the loss of our children from our lives and from how we used to be with them. It is a loss which has been manipulated by a vengeful ex (or others). But we have the ability to shift our perception and understanding of a situation, allowing us to view it from a different angle or with a new mindset. By doing so, we can alleviate feelings of alienation by fostering a sense of connection, empathy, and understanding, both with others and with ourselves. Hopefully it will be with our children again. In many cases, it is so. But it helps to make this shift regardless. We can still feel we belong, feel connections, love and be loved. While the children are not in our lives, it is important to fill our days, fill the void, and strive to be happy.

Alienation can feel like it lasts forever. I will explain by defining the word ‘alienation’, which is part of the term ‘parental alienation’. Alienation refers to a state of being cut off, disconnected, or isolated from others or even from oneself. It’s not just the loss of our children from our lives; it’s the deliberate destruction of the bond we once shared—a loss created through manipulation by a vengeful ex or others (enablers, including the family court and mental health establishment). This grief is often compounded by deep feelings of rejection, helplessness, and disbelief that such a severing could be engineered. But it’s important to remember that while the alienating parent may keep trying to provoke us—using every reaction as proof against us—the most powerful response is to refuse to remain stuck in anger and grief. (I know it’s not easy, having been through it myself, and even as a coach, it had a huge impact on my life).

The pain of this forced separation is overwhelming, and it’s easy to be trapped in cycles of anguish or reactive anger. But healing is not only for our own survival; it’s a necessity if we’re ever to reconnect with our children. By shifting our perception and rebuilding our sense of self, we can lessen the grip of alienation over our lives. The more we choose to heal, the more we undermine the alienating parent’s portrayal of us as “broken” or “dangerous.” We show our children that, while we’ve been deeply wounded, we are strong, resilient, and capable of offering them the stable and loving parent they were made to believe no longer exists.

So while they’re not in our lives, we must work to live as fully as we can—finding ways to fill the emptiness and rediscover joy. If our lives are consumed by bitterness, it becomes easy for our children to see us only through the distorted lens of the alienating parent’s propaganda. But when we commit to healing and refuse to let the pain define us, we send a message that no manipulation can erase: that we are still here, whole, and ready to rebuild a loving relationship whenever they find their way back to us. Our happiness and peace, even in their absence, are the most profound gifts we can give—whether they are near or far.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#parentalalienation

#parentalalienationawareness

#FamilyCourt

#mothersmatter

#FathersMatter

#healing

#traumabond

#custody

Parental Duty -Charlie McCready

It is a parental duty to foster, encourage, and support the child’s relationship with the other loving parent and their extended family. Maintaining a healthy and positive connection with both parents is important for a child’s emotional, psychological, and social well-being. Denying or undermining this relationship can be harmful to the child, as it deprives them of the opportunity to form and maintain important emotional bonds and support systems that are necessary for their overall development and happiness. It is in the best interests of the child to have access to the love, care, and guidance of both parents, as long as it is safe and beneficial for their well-being.

An alienated child may still experience moments of happiness in areas of their life, but the absence of a loving relationship with one parent can create emotional and psychological challenges that may impact their overall and long-term well-being. The absence of a meaningful and nurturing relationship with both parents can have a profound impact on a child’s sense of identity, and overall happiness. It can, unfortunately, lead to depression, and self-destructive behaviours. It is important to address and heal the wounds caused by parental alienation to give the child the best opportunity for happiness and healthy emotional development.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#parentalalienation

#parentalalienationisreal

#parentalalienationawareness

#FamilyCourt

#custody

#custodybattle

#childcustody

#mothersmatter

#FathersMatter

Solitude

“Solitude is a reminder that sometimes, stepping away from the buzz, the constant connections, the stimulation overload is not just a luxury, but a necessity to be brighter and stronger than before.

Solitude isn’t about isolation or loneliness.

It’s a sacred space,

It’s a place where you can shed the layers you wear for the world, be completely yourself, and reconnect with your deepest needs and desires. It’s like taking off a mask and letting your true face breathe.

And remember, coming back from solitude isn’t about retreating from the world forever. It’s about returning with renewed energy, a clearer perspective, and a deeper understanding of yourself.”

— Lalah Delia

[ Art • “Embrace” by Chie Yoshii ]

Liberation

The person I needed the most taught me that I don’t need nobody, a painful yet liberating lesson etched in the scars of my heart, where love and abandonment once entwined like fractured vines.

Their absence became my greatest teacher, guiding me through the dark landscape of self-discovery, where I unearthed an inner strength, a resilient voice that whispers “I am enough” amidst the echoes of rejection.

In the hollow of their departure, I found a profound sense of self-sufficiency, learning to fill the void with my own light, nurturing a garden of self-love that blooms in the cracks of shattered dreams.

Their silence became my loudest awakening, alerting me to the realization that my worth isn’t anchored in someone else’s approval, but in the unwavering acceptance of myself.

Through the fire of their neglect, I forged an unshakeable resolve, tempered by the understanding that true freedom lies not in the arms of others, but in the unyielding love I hold for myself.