Alienated Dad / Charlie McCready

Once I understood X was using our sons to get information and further impart abuse as I was insulted time after time it became a no brainer

Let em go

The quote on this post is from an alienated dad who got so tired of fighting, being sad and accustomed to not having his children in his life, that he has gotten to a point of acceptance, ‘surrendering’ to it. For a long time he couldn’t understand the alignment (trauma bonding) with a parent he knows his children find difficult. He worked on understanding the pathology behind alienating behaviours. Even so, there are still those days of feeling that loss, and his quote encapsulates the deep longing for the presence of his children in his life, even though their absence has become a painful reality he has grown accustomed to. Despite the emotional distance and the expanse of time, the yearning for his children lingers but he has also found a way to ‘detach’ too. In the detachment that comes with the acceptance, he has found some peace of mind. Importantly, he also decided not to stay stuck in grief and got on with his life. He remarried and is happy. That’s not to say he ‘gave up’ but he came to a point of just saying his children will come to them if they want to come to them … In this detachment, he discovered a newfound peace of mind. ⁠

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While we cannot control the actions of others, we have the power to shape our own destinies. Alienators won’t change and are typically incapable of love or happiness – not lasting, not real. Relationships really aren’t their thing. But we can move on, and love, and be happy. We owe it to ourselves. Our doors are always open to our children, but we’re getting on with our lives too. Crucially, this father’s story exemplifies resilience. He refused to be defined solely by the absence of his children. He made the courageous choice to move forward, embracing love, and finding happiness anew. In his remarriage and the life he has rebuilt, he demonstrates the remarkable capacity of the human spirit to heal and thrive, even in the face of unimaginable pain. We can choose to love again, to be happy, and to live fulfilling lives no matter what.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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