Childress on the Targeted Parent

It’s all here ; the result of my diagnosis

by a psychiatrist Axis l was “ problematic

marriage . That deserved a diagnosis of

Bipolar l , from an alumni of psychiatrist!

Of course he listed Histrionic Personality

which ignored the very apparent Domestic

Abuse ,the toxic to me RX began with

Lithium which being a metal ; I’m allergic

to . Upon my complaints of horrid side

effects , a coated version of Lithium was

prescribed ! I was unaware and too ill

to research and did not have a partner who

was interested in anything but my ability’s

to keep his house and his kids .

Ever feel your world is upside-down. I wanna talk about that.

I’ve decided I want to talk about you this Sunday. I was thinking I might want to tell you about your children. Empathy and all that, help you understand what’s going on. But I decided not yet.

I want to talk about you first, the targeted parent as everyone calls you, the chosen parent as Dorcy calls you. She’s right, the child is choosing you to lead the family, the other parent can’t do it, they’re collapsing.

You need support. We’re working on it… your world is a work in progress shall we say. Do things seem a little upside-down. Yeah, i know. That’s ’cause it is… upside-down. That’s true. You live in a crazy world of family stuff right now.

You’re called the targeted parent because you’re the target of spousal abuse – you’re being emotionally and psychologically abused by the other spouse and parent using the child as the weapon.

It is a savage and brutal form of spousal abuse, to use the child as the weapon. Sadistic? Dark Tetrad.

You know that. You live it. I know it too. I want to talk about that. This pathology is spousal abuse. Emotional spousal abuse, psychological spousal abuse, financial spousal abuse, using the child as the weapon of spousal revenge and retaliation.

Everyone says, “It’s not about you, it’s about the child” – no – it’s entirely about you – this is spousal abuse using the child as the weapon. That’s what’s at the driving core of everything… spousal abuse of you.

In weaponizing the child into the spousal abuse, the pathological parent creates such significant psychopathology in the child that it rises to a level of Child Psychological Abuse (DSM-5 V995.51).

But the reason is the weaponization of the child into the spousal abuse, the spousal emotional and psychological abuse is the driving core of everything (DSM-5 V995.82 Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological).

You know it’s true. You live it. I know it’s true too. I wanna talk about you being abused by this pathology, by the other parent weaponizing the child.

This is a savage and immensely brutal emotional and psychological spousal abuse of the targeted parent. You know that. I know that. I wanna talk about that. I want to talk about you, the targeted parent.

You’re a target… but you’re not a victim. Being a victim is in your mind, not in reality. You control you. Yeah, you’ve got a big target on you… so move faster and more skillfully than the pathology does. It’s pattern, it’s predictable.

The pathology seeks to destabilize you in every way possible – it tries to trigger you into your fears. Don’t trigger, plan ahead. Trauma is pattern, it replicates pattern.

You want a treatment plan, a written treatment plan to fix things. Hold onto that and don’t let go.

I wanna talk about you, not behind your back or anything, right to your face sort of… your virtual face in this-here cyber-world place thingy I love the Internet.

Sunday at 8:00 Pacific, let’s talk about you, the targeted parent over coffee. We’ll see if we can get things right-side up again. Crazy world, eh?

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologists, CA PSY 18857

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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