I am very grateful to be a part of this , and have no plans to stay focused on the past or walk it back . It’s sad to note that many family and friends are not in this place of evolution. Denial of change , need for change, shame at past , and not healing enough to make the leap, all these things and even more challenges, did not deter my focus .
There has been many challenges to my vision, however as cycles close , clarity reveals I have been heard on high .
I’ve lived through pain
I thought I never would
Thought I never could
And then this arrived
A loss greater than any other
And I wonder how I recover
The stars blink, though they don’t say
The sun shines and gives nothing away
This loss made every other seem so very small
Showing how even the tallest story can easily fall
But you, my darling, were always the promise of light
A gift that made so many days here so bright
And even here, left in the darkness, I can see
How your love lives on endlessly
When I smile and think of you
To touch love again is all I can do
And if I must live here without you
I’ll hold on by remembering all the love we knew
Some memories are the things that keep us alive
Others are the ones we will live to barely survive
And somehow, in you, I have found both together
Another story about love I will hold onto forever
❤️ Trudi Jane
Often, what seems like mixed signals are not mixed at all. We just try to label them that way.
A person who genuinely cares about you will not take chances on losing you.
When a person sends what you think are mixed signals, it’s actually a clear statement that they don’t care what happens because they’re not invested in a relationship with you.
The only question now is whether you’re going to settle for that.
No need to play detective.
No need to call your friends.
No need to see if they’re on a dating app but not messaging you.
No need to send a smiley emoji to “innocently” check in on them.
If you’ve been involved with someone for a while and are still unsure where you stand, that is a clear signal.
A person who wants you will make sure you know it because they don’t want to lose you to someone else.
If you’re not getting a clear “YES,” then that is a clear ‘NO.’
Recovery from narcissistic abuse includes learning to stop accepting crumbs. Believe it or not, there are people out there in the world who would want you in their life. But it requires getting rid of the users and manipulators first to make space for the stand-up person who could be your genuine partner.
You don’t need to settle. Mixed signalers and breadcrumbers are not the last people on earth. It’s time to stop treating them as if they are.
#youareenough #youareworthy #selfhealers #reallove #lifebeginsafternocontact
“Give yourself more credit.
You’re trying to grow while trying to heal. You’re trying to forgive while trying to grieve. You’re trying to search while trying to let go. And you’re trying to love others while remembering how to love yourself.
You are doing the best you can.”
—Vex King
#NoteToSelf
artwork by Lisa Lach-Nielsen
“Don’t plant your bad days. They grow into weeks. The weeks grow into months. Before you know it, you got yourself a bad year. Take it from me – choke those little bad days. Choke ’em down to nothing.”
~ Tom Waits
“Parents, let your daughters grow up to be horse girls, because they will learn quickly and repeatedly that life isn’t fair, that hard work is often trumped by Lady Luck, and that every defeat, no matter how terrible, is temporary. Let them dream big and kick on. Let them learn confidence, grace and grit. Let them build big muscles and strong backs.
Let your daughters grow up in the barn. Let them learn that buckets need filling and stalls need cleaning, even when it’s raining, even when it’s frozen, even when they have a different idea for how the day should go.
Let them set goals and reach them. Let them set goals and fail miserably. Let them learn that, if they work incredibly hard, practice like hell, ride the best quality horse they can and take impeccable care of him, they’re sometimes going to get beat by someone with 10 times the money and one tenth the drive.
Teach them to drive trucks and trailers and ATVs. Teach them to change tires and wrap legs and give shots. And let them leave a spur mark, or a bit rub, or a bandage bow, and let them deal with the shame of causing pain to an animal they love.
Let them grow up with horses and with good horse people, because it will teach them to be humble, and to be resilient, and to be brave.”
Article credit Lauren Sprieser @laurensprieserdressage http://www.chronofhorse.com/article/let-your-daughters-grow-up-to-be-horse-girls
Wild Oats Photography
This is a therapy begun thousand’s of years ago, for stress relief , I believe in Japan.
I remember this from childhood , and knew no fear , being in a group of children 4 or more..Unfortunately, I have not had the opportunity to do more that discuss this ancient art with others hoping a business could result as more folks become aware .
It goes with my earlier post today on natures healing of body , soul and mind .
The Science that speaks to the communication of trees, reminds me of my childhood. I’ve always loved trees .
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