marriage

When you marry a narcissistic man, you never get a chance to be a wife; instead, you take on the role of a mother because these adults behave like man-children.

Narcissists don’t marry for love or partnership; they marry because they want a maid, cook, secretary, banker, and a nanny.

They crave control, not connection. Their selfish desires consume them, leaving you to run the household, raise the children, and satisfy their every whim.

Your dreams of a loving and equal relationship are shattered, replaced by the harsh reality of servitude.

As days turn into weeks, and weeks into years, you become a shadow of your old self.

Your identity is erased, replaced by the exhausting duties of handling a narcissist’s life

You are obliged to sacrifice your own desires, interests and friendships to accommodate their demands.

Emotional childbirth is suffocating, leaving you drained, resentful, and wondering how you ended up in this nightmare.

You’re not alone in this fight.

Many women have fallen prey to the charming facade of a narcissist, only to find themselves trapped in a loveless and ungrateful role.

Remember, you deserve better 💜

There should be a test before marriage

Later in marriage when you hit parenthood, you’ll realize what you really wish for in your spouse is not big money or ‘six-pack’. A pretty face and a good bank account are nice to have but at the end of the day, there’s so much more you should be looking for.

At 3am when your child is crying, and your eyes are heavy and your body is weak for postpartum, it will not be how he looks or what he owns that will matter. It’ll be the compassion in his heart and the love for you in his soul that push him out of the bed to attend the child immediately and tell you,

“Go back to sleep, love. I got this.”

If I could tell the younger people what to consider in a companion, I would say marry the man who will be the best father for your children. The man who will put you and your little family first, above all else. The man who is as responsible as you are in raising family because you both are in it together. In short, marry the person who will set a standard for a spouse in your children.

Because in all of these, whenever you watch your partner with your child, you’ll find yourself falling in love all over again.

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Married Single Mother

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Grey Divorces

I was 47 , medicated by psychiatrist, the

last 5 years . He was 50 .

I would have liked to have been awake

and aware of what was happening legally

but my vulnerability was exactly what he

desired .

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Reason for failure of marriage to a Narcissist

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Marriage – A sacred bond 💯

As a man, protecting your wife from your parents and siblings is essential, but in the context of your marriage, your wife must come first. It is your primary responsibility to shield her from toxic individuals, even if they happen to be your family members.

As a husband, it is your home and your wife. Do not stand by and watch as others create tension within it. If you allow them to break your home, the same people will eventually use your failure against you.

Marriage is a sacred bond, and as a man, you must place your wife at the center of your priorities. When you marry, you commit to creating a life together, and that means protecting that life from any threats, no matter where they come from.

Your role as a man is not just to love your wife but also to ensure her emotional and mental well-being. This includes standing up for her when she is mistreated, even by those closest to you.

Many men struggle to balance loyalty between their family of origin and their wife. However, you must understand that your loyalty now primarily lies with the family you are building with your spouse.

As a husband, protecting your wife does not mean disrespecting your family. It means setting healthy boundaries that ensure mutual respect and harmony. A strong man knows how to communicate these boundaries with firmness and love.

Failing to defend your wife in the face of toxic behaviors from your family sends a message that she cannot rely on you. Over time, this can erode trust, intimacy, and respect in your marriage.

Toxic behaviors, such as constant criticism, interference, or manipulation, should not be tolerated from anyone, regardless of their relation to you. As a man, love for your family does not justify letting them harm your marriage.

It is your responsibility to ensure that your home is a sanctuary of peace for your wife. She should feel safe, valued, and cherished within your relationship, free from unnecessary conflicts or judgments.

Remember that your parents and siblings may not always understand or agree with your decisions, but that does not mean their opinions should dictate your marriage. As the leader of your home, you must stand with your wife as an equal partner.

By protecting your wife from harmful dynamics, you are also setting a powerful example for future generations. Your children, if you have them, will learn what a healthy and respectful marriage looks like.

As a man, a successful marriage requires unity. Stand with your wife, face challenges together, and make it clear to the world that your bond is unbreakable. The strength of your marriage depends on your ability to prioritize and protect it.

– Abhikesh