Tag: child Psychological abuse

Craig Childress Psy.D. – Pathogens/PA

Any pathogen watchers out there?

I know there’s some who see it moving. Let me point out something interesting. The pathogen is moulting like an insect.

It’s shedding it’s shell to take on a new one. The old shell was PAS (“parental alienation”) created by its “rebel alliance” minions. It’s shedding that now because PAS “parental alienation” is no longer useful.

The pathogen is moulting the PAS shell into its new shell from its forensic psychologist minions. It’s been trying out Resist-Refuse Dynamic (RRD) and Parent-Child Contact Problems (PCCP) as its new PAS – an entirely made up thing with no diagnostic indicators.

The new RRD and PCCP are even worst than PAS was, how can that be possible? At least PAS had 8 horrible almost symptoms, RRD and PCCP have no symptoms whatsoever.

The pathogen can’t think. Have you ever seen something that can’t think make a decision? Wanna see?

The pathogen can’t think, the unresolved trauma-anxiety in their networks shuts down the frontal lobe executive function systems of linear-logical reasoning in favor of emotional-associational thinking. It’s stupid. It can’t reason. It’s a stupid pathogen.

That’s a tell on its presence, the absence of linear-logical reasoning. It actually is a stupid pathogen.

Do you know how it decides? That’s interesting. It has allies try out options and then sees which one gathers more minds to it and it adopts that one. It’s decision-by-others.

‘Cause it’s stupid. It can’t reason. It uses reasoning in the world to figure out which option it should use. It’s a stupid pathogen.

It’s deciding between Resist-Refuse Dynamic and Parent-Child Contact Problems as the new unicorn of mythological pathology.

But that’s not the interesting thing for the pathogen watchers. As interesting as decision-making by a mind worm thing might be, that’s not THE interesting thing that I want to note.

Note this… where is the uproar over the made-up Resist-Refuse Dynamic and Parent-Child Contact Problems like there was for the made-up PAS and “parental alienation”?

Notice how silently the pathogen is changing its shell from one to another. It created the conflict about PAS this whole time because it wanted the conflict. It doesn’t want conflict now… it wants us to simply accept its new transformation, its new shell.

Where are the calls for “peer-reviewed research” regarding Parent-Child Contact Problems and Resist-Refuse Dynamic? Silence. Complete silence.

Do you find that odd? I do.

Where are the allegations that Parent-Child Contact Problems and Resist-Refuse Dynamic represent “junk science”? Silence. Complete silence.

Do you find that odd? I do.

Where are Kelly-Frye and Daubert applied to Resist-Refuse Dynamic and Parent-Child Contact Problems? Silence. Complete silence.

Do you find that odd? I do.

The pathogen’s moulting. Last time it wanted the conflict. This time it wants us to simply accept it… so it doesn’t use its allies to generate conflict.

It’s a mind-bug and its changing its exo-skeleton, its shell, its cover, its mask of appearances. It’s a viral mind-bug insect-like thing and its moulting.

If you can see the pathogen moving, take a look in forensic psychology and you’ll see a mind-worm bug thing moulting from “parental ailenation” to “parent-child contact problems” and “resist-refuse dynamic”. I don’t think its “decided” which yet.

It’s a coherent set of damage in the attachment networks of the brain, a motivational system, and it makes us do stuff we don’t realize we’re doing… called “unconscious” stuff because we’re not conscious of our motivations – the mind-bug within us is pulling the strings and we’re dancing.

Ahhhh, get it out. Step on it. Holy cow. What is that thing?

Trauma. And it can’t process its grief. It’s the trans-generational transmission of trauma through the distorted parenting that the unresolved trauma creates.

Once you see it, you see it.

And you can’t un-see it once you see it. It’s moving. It’s moulting. It’s changing its shell, its outer mask of appearances.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Mentally Disordered Alienating Parent – Charlie McCready

Imagine the child feeling guilty about enjoying their time spent with a loving/loved parent! This internal conflict arises after being exposed to an alienating parent’s relentless barrage of negativity about the other parent. The alienating parent, driven by narcissistic tendencies, manipulates the child into believing that the target parent is the source of all their pain and should be viewed as wholly ‘bad.’ They make it quite clear (verbally and also non-verbally) that if the child has any positive words or feelings about the ‘bad’ parent this is definitely not good. How confusing this is to a child! It’s psychological manipulation by a trusted parent, emotional abuse inflicted on a child. The alienating parent mirrors cultish indoctrination, damaging the attachment bonds the child will naturally have with their alienated parent (with both parents). This is why they succumb to the alienation. Not because they don’t love the other parent. Although hearing bad things about them contributes greatly, most of all their resistance is relentlessly worn down. It’s exhausting. It’s a survival mechanism to ‘cut off’ emotionally which is perhaps the only way they can do what is required of them by the ‘aligned’ parent. In this way, and only this way, their life is ‘easier’ and this is why the alienated child might often say or think the ‘target’ parent should do the same and just bow down and submit. To quote some alienated children, the target parent should just ‘suck it up’ or ‘apologise for everything’. It is not easy for them to live with a mentally disordered parent who is basically a bully – not every day, not always – the hot/cold moods are unpredictable. But the alienating parent is generally a highly volatile, cluster b personality (histrionic, borderline, narcissistic) and they put themselves above all others, including their own children.

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Maya Angelou – Change / Charlie McCready

I love the defiance, resilience and fortitude of Maya Angelou’s quote here. I love her face. It’s one that experienced a great deal in her lifetime, but she triumphed and just look at the kindness in her eyes and the sweetness of her smile. It’s not to deny any experience that impacts our lives and causes us to change but to find acceptance. We see it. It happened. But it is not who we are, and it doesn’t get to become our identity. Among her many beautiful words, she also said:

‘If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.’

‘You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.’

And the magnificent: ‘… in spite of the adversity and the bitter moments, again we rise.’

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Charlie McCready – Who benefits from Parental Alienation?

Lawyers, Therapist

The Latin phrase “qui bono,” translating to “who benefits?” in English, serves as a guiding principle in seeking to uncover hidden motives that might not be immediately apparent. By examining the interests and advantages of different parties involved, this principle can offer valuable insights into the underlying dynamics and motivations at play, enabling a more comprehensive understanding of complex situations. ⁠

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An alienating parent could appear to be the only one benefitting from their tactics and refusal to co-parent, their aim being to eradicate the other parent from not only their life but the child’s life too. An alienating parent exploits the vulnerabilities within family dynamics for personal gain, gaining control over the narrative and the child’s perception and actions. The child does not benefit from this, even though they will be emotionally manipulated to believe it is in their best interests. This control provides the alienating parent with a sense of power and dominance over both the child and the targeted parent. Also, by leveraging the child emotionally, they garner sympathy, support, and even financial advantages from various sources, reinforcing their behaviour as they cast themselves as victims and the targeted parent as the villain.⁠

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Isolation (triangulation/divide and rule) becomes a tool in the alienating parent’s arsenal, emotionally and psychologically separating the child from the targeted parent. This isolation, rather than being detrimental, intensifies the emotional bond between the alienating parent and the child, fulfilling the parent’s need for validation and companionship.⁠

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In legal battles parental alienation serves as a strategic advantage. By alienating the child, the manipulative parent can present themselves as the stable, caring figure, influencing court decisions in their favour and gaining an upper hand in custody disputes.

For people with narcissistic tendencies, parental alienation offers psychological gratification. The ability to control and manipulate, especially their own children, provides a sense of power that becomes addictive, again reinforcing their alienating behaviours.

Understanding these benefits – qui bono – is vital for professionals, family members, and courts involved in such cases. Awareness of the manipulative tactics employed by alienating parents is crucial. This awareness can empower people to devise strategies that safeguard the child’s well-being and promote a healthy relationship with the targeted parent. By fostering an environment where the child can thrive emotionally and psychologically, interventions can mitigate the damaging effects of parental alienation.

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Charlie Mc Cready on child protection being an issues of parental alienation

Traditionally, issues related to separated parents and their children have been framed in the context of child custody battles, focusing on which parent gets legal or physical custody of the child. The more critical concern is the protection of the child’s well-being, which is why alienating behaviours must be better understood and come under more scrutiny. What is often called ‘parental alienation’ is, in essence, child psychological abuse, which happens when one parent systematically undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. Ideally, children should have both parents (and their entire family) in their lives, which is most beneficial to them. It shouldn’t be necessary for legal intervention. When both parents are mentally healthy and share a genuine concern for their children’s well-being, they should be capable of collaboratively devising a custody arrangement that is equitable for everyone involved. Any deviation from this collaborative approach may signal mental health concerns in one of the parents. This is when outside help is needed – risk assessments by people who understand and recognise coercive control, emotional manipulation, triangulation, and insecure attachment disorders. They also need to be able to differentiate between genuine and false allegations. There should be consequences if one parent is caught making false allegations and it is seen that this parent is unwilling and determined not to co-parent, even though this is best for the child. It is a mental health issue, first and foremost, which can be supported by the law rather than a family court issue with support from mental health professionals. Parental alienation is a social crisis because it can lead to mental health issues for both children and parents and thereby impacts the overall well-being of families and society at large.

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Targeted parent. Charlie McCready

Parental alienation, with all its associated injustice and grief, requires great strength, and it feels as if we are tested daily. It calls on us to recognise our mental and emotional strength. There are many techniques to strengthen our Personal Authority, and practising these should be part of a daily routine.

My 9-step program has been designed to help alienated parents start taking back their power.

You learn to look at the experience of alienation through your children’s eyes and adapt your behaviours to better support them. You discover what pushes them away and what brings them closer to you. You start putting this into practice early on in the programme to maximise the benefits. You also learn to understand your own mental and emotional state so that you can begin to restore calm, control and even happiness in your life once more. You benefit from a wide range of coping strategies and tools that help you to shift the way you experience alienation, reducing your stress and enhancing your resilience and personal power.

You are far more powerful than you think, and you can greatly reduce your emotional suffering.

I typically see people changing within the first few weeks of the programme, and by the end of the program, they are already on a path to making big shifts in their life. The most profoundly healing and helpful thing we can offer our alienated children is our own healing.

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Manifesting PA

found this on a lawyer website. It really helped

8 symptoms that manifest from parental alienation.

  1. A CAMPAIGN OF DENIGRATION

In a denigration campaign, the relationship between the alienated parent and the child will shift seemingly overnight. While there was once a positive relationship, the child now shows constant hostility or unfairly criticizes the targeted parent.

  1. WEAK, FRIVOLOUS AND ABSURD RATIONALIZATIONS

When confronted about why the child feels negatively towards the alienated parent, they cannot justify their feelings with specific examples or their reasons are wildly untrue. Sometimes, the child rejects the parent for reasons that wouldn’t usually rationalize rejection, such as their parent’s appearance or food preparation skills.

  1. A LACK OF AMBIVALENCE

A child suffering from PAS will see no redeeming qualities in the alienated parent. In their eyes, the parent who is doing the alienating can do no wrong, but their feelings towards the alienated parent are wholly negative and critical.

  1. THE “INDEPENDENT THINKER” PHENOMENON

Even though the alienating parent has brainwashed the child to hate or fear the alienated parent, the child will insist that their reasons for this hatred are their own. The child will deny that any ideas came from the alienating parent.

  1. AN ABSENCE OF GUILT

Children with PAS typically don’t experience feelings of guilt for their harsh treatment of the alienated parent. In most cases, they will act ungrateful, spiteful or cold toward the alienated parent and appear unimpressed by any gifts or favors offered by the targeted parent.

  1. SUPPORT FOR THE ALIENATING PARENT

No matter the alienating parent’s position, the child will always take their side over the targeted parent. The child is unwilling to be impartial or hear out the alienated parent when there are parental disagreements or conflict.

  1. BORROWED PHRASES AND SCENARIOS

Alienated children will often borrow adult language or ideas from their alienator that they do not appear to understand. The child may also make accusations about events that never happened or that they cannot support with evidence.

  1. REJECTION OF EXTENDED FAMILY

Unfortunately, the resentment an alienated child feels towards the targeted parent can also extend to their relatives. Aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents that were once loved may suddenly be despised and avoided.

The first step to putting a stop to parental alienation is learning how to read the signs. If you fear your child has become the victim of parental alienation, working with a family counselor or family law attorney can help you determine your next steps.