I felt I had no choice but to isolate .
Our children were exampled the methods of
a detached abuser , who never involved himself
in partnership , and fathered like a friend/brother
rather than a Dad . That was abusive during our
1st due to the surprise ” gift” he wasn’t responding
to as such, moreover obsessed with the change
in finances .. home was not somewhere he liked
to hang out, but was my haven, my peace , my
solace. Quoted as saying he warned a son before
choosing marriage , of not finding himself having
to marry ..Baby was 1 year , 7 days after I do.
He was responsible for birth control , and sadly
the pattern for non responsibility has been life
long as in horror I learned of all of the outs he
had experienced from infancy on …it’s a very
long list .
I find him the most self isolated , unreachable
soul I never knew ..His heart is so isolated from
all that life teaches , as I suspected there are
many fragmented parts of narcissistic behavior
and it can be relieved by personal choice and intent .
Our sons and grandchildren are not enough to be
incentive , and that still shocks me .