Tag: trauma

Signs of manipulation

15 SIGNS YOU’RE BEING MANIPULATED:

1. They never apologize, even when they know they’re wrong.

2. They always make excuses or give empty promises.

3. They use your weaknesses against you.

4. They prioritize others but treat you like an option.

5. They try to control you.

6. They use guilt trips.

7. They twist your words to benefit themselves.

8. They shut down and get defensive instead of talking.

9. They project their feelings onto you.

10. They gaslight you to create self-doubt.

11. They give you the silent treatment.

12. They lie constantly.

13. They leave you feeling crazy and confused.

14. They always make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

15. They always play the victim.

Recognizing these signs is the first step to taking back control. You deserve respect, kindness, and healthy relationships.

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Wounded Angel Child

The wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by paternal sadism, by a patriarchal world that did not want him to claim his true feelings. The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood that she must become something other than herself, deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others. When men and women punish each other for truth telling, we reinforce the notion that lies are better. To be loving we willingly hear the other’s truth, and most important, we affirm the value of truth telling. Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love. ~bell hooks

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(Art: ‘The Wounded Angel’, 1903 by Hugo Simberg)

Owner of a heavy heart ❤️

A Heavy Heart

You think she’s angry, but you don’t see,

The weight she carries silently.

It’s not the rage that fills her eyes,

But tiredness in a thin disguise.

She’s not furious, but worn and torn,

From dreams abandoned, hopes forlorn.

She’s tired, she’s weary, she’s feeling lost,

Paying life’s relentless cost.

She’s sinking deep in a sea of doubt,

Crying softly, without a shout.

Frustration builds, but not from hate

It’s the closed doors, the heavy weight.

She promised much, her dreams were bright,

But now she battles every night.

She wants to give, to rise, to shine,

But life’s harsh currents pull the line.

So when you see her weary stare,

Know it’s not anger, but despair.

She’s fighting hard to find her way,

Hoping tomorrow’s a kinder day. 🥀🌷

– Christina Stewart

Do not underestimate Survivors🎯

“Do not underestimate someone who has lost everything and is still here to tell the story.

Do not underestimate someone who has fought dearly for sobriety. Peace. Forgiveness. Self-love. Freedom. Authenticity. Truth.

Do not underestimate the lonely. They have braved wars that only those who understand the absence of human connection can do. Even now. They are holding it all together while coming so wildly undone. And sometimes we may see them unravel ever so softly. Or loudly. Or however their soul unties its cage the best.

Do not underestimate the ones who have suffered the kind of grief that does not seem to end. Who have been broken in places you did not even know existed. The ones who fell into silence because their lungs had no words left to speak.

We will not always be strong.

No.

But we are enduring.”✨

✍️Ullie Kaye Poetry

🔆The Sisterhood of SHE

[Art: Alison Meriwether]

Pathogen – Craig Childress PsyD

Where does the pathogen’s death line come from?

Hatred.

It knows the extent of its damage. It knows it is forever separated from us – from our love. That’s an immensely painful place – to be fundamentally unworthy of love.

At the same time, they remain motivated to be loved – the pathogen-person so desperately wants to be loved – but they’re fundamentally damaged and fundamentally unlovable.

That’s the world of the pathogen – it’s immensely painful with no escape. The only escape is to be loved – and they will never be loved because they’re fundamentally broken-damaged humans.

The suicide destructive urge (Thanatos) emerges from their self-hatred. The more evident and overt homicidal destructive urge comes from their hatred of us – because we have the capacity for love that they don’t have – because we love – and we’ll never love them.

They hate us without us even knowing it. We’re happy. They’re not. They want to destroy us and our happiness and love. That’s the origins of the homicidal side of the death line.

The pathogen is damage – it is a constellated set of damaged information structures in the attachment networks of the brain – damaged by trauma. The pathogen lives in a trauma-chemical bath in the brain of its host organism.

It needs that trauma-chemical bath to survive, if the person’s brain resolves the unresolved trauma within it… the pathogen dissolves – it dies.

It wants to survive – it needs to do what it does so it survives. The damage helped the person survive the trauma… that no longer exists… but the brain doesn’t know that.

The brain thinks the world remains the trauma that formed its trauma-response – the damaged set of information structures in the attachment networks – the love-and-bonding system of the brain.

The brain of the host organism recreates the trauma in the environment because that’s the brain-chemical environment the pathogen lives in. It lives in fear and hatred.

It dies in love. That’s its fundamental problem… the pathogen-host person can never be loved – they are fundamentally unlovable – which is the source of their immense pain… and hatred.

Self-hatred because they know they’re damaged and will never be loved. They hate us because we love… and we don’t love them… ever.

You’ll see that line on the family and friends splitting right now – blue humans are rejecting their red friends and family – the red friends and family are… unlovable.

The pathogen infected red-minds have created exactly – exactly – what the pathogen most fears, and fully understands. If we see who the person is… we won’t love the person… and we don’t.

And they hate us for that.

In lower-level outbreaks, such as in the family courts, the pathogen is motivated toward self-destruction. In open-systems of positive feedback loops, it becomes the Terrorist Mind that kills – us – themselves.

We’re split – that’s what the pathogen does – sides with no middle.

The split is along light and darkness – love and hatred – good and evil… with no middle. Time to choose.

You chose.

We’ll begin our descent when the New Year comes. In December, I’ll tell you about our Shadow for this last Christmas of light as we prepare to descend.

Don’t struggle. It’ll just make it worse. You do realize we’re in trauma world now, right? The pathogen replicates itself – in other brains – our brains – the ones that love still.

It creates the hatreds in us that it lives in. If you’re not a host for the pathogen… it will kill you (see Taliban – see Isis – see Nazis).

There’s something that lives in you that’s not you, but it is you. It makes you think and do things – bad things. Your deeper Self is exposing our Shadow to us so we can cleanse it from us – self-reflective insight.

We’ll be doing the bad things now that will lead to later insight… later… later…

For now… surrender, there is nothing you can do now. You gave a sadistic delusional Dark Tetrad absolute power and complete immunity for everything he does – to you.

Ha-ha-ha-ha-ha… that was a stupid thing to do. Ha-ha-ha-ha… now, I get to watch your suffering – your self-destruction.

Perhaps we’ll find love again someday – but not for you. You deserve to suffer for the bad things you did to them.

So… suffer.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist,

WA 61538481 CA 18857