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Love yourself deeper than the pain of abuse ; you’re worth it

THIS IS FOR ANYONE WHO HAS SUFFERED FROM AN ABUSIVE AND NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP!

I know you went through all of it:

The pain.

The fights.

The screaming.

The gaslighting.

The guilt-tripping.

The threats.

The manipulations.

The emotional abuse.

The trauma.

The affairs.

Even worse, the physical abuse.

You called it love but the person who put you through this made you believe you’re being delusional. They made you think you’re the problem and that it’s your fault why the relationship failed.

You begged for them to stay.

You sent long texts and called a hundred times — but they never answered.

You had to throw away your dignity because you’d rather lose yourself than lose someone you love.

You cried for weeks and months, but there’s nothing else you could do to change what happened.

You went through hell but they just don’t care at all.

I hear you. I see you. I know how it felt because I’ve been there.

I want to remind you that this pain will not last forever. You didn’t do anything wrong for demanding to be treated right. They’re just not meant for you.

I swear that someday, you will heal, my love.

Please don’t blame yourself for loving deeper than the pain they gave you.

You are worth it and that will never change even after everything you’ve been through.

Please remember these words all too well.

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Platonic Love

Platonic love-

It is the purest form of love I have ever found.

Familial love is certainly the strongest,

But filled with obligations and duties,

And so often is stained by secret, year-old resentment.

Romantic love is what we are taught to long for

from an early age.

But it is sullied by sexual desire,

By cheating, lying, pain and jealousy.

Platonic love is my favorite of them all. To see a person, get to know them,

And choose to walk the path of life together.

Not because you have to,

Not because you desire each other, But because you truly admire them, To the core of their being.

I have never felt

more cared for, more seen, more loved,

than when I am with my dearest friends.

The truth is, the deeper you know someone, the more exposed their flaws become. It’s not a flaw in itself—it’s simply human nature. As you strip away the surface, you see the cracks, the scars, the rough edges we all try so hard to hide. That’s when the romanticized version of love meets reality. And yes, this is where many relationships falter, where marriages unravel, where friendships fade. The illusion of perfection shatters, and suddenly, you’re confronted with a real person—flawed, complicated, and imperfect.

But this is also where love begins. True love doesn’t exist in the absence of flaws; it exists in the full light of them. Love isn’t just the fluttering of hearts or the comfort of companionship when everything is easy. It’s what happens when things get messy, when life gets hard, when you see someone at their worst and still choose to stand by their side. That’s where the depth of love is revealed. It’s easy to say you love someone when they’re happy and thriving, but the test of love is how you respond when they’re struggling—when they’re out of money, when they’re stressed beyond measure, or even when they’re hungry and cranky. These moments show us the true face of love.

Because love, real love, is not just a feeling. It’s a choice. It’s a commitment, day in and day out, to serve someone, to be present with them, to walk through life with them, even when their imperfections are glaring. Love is patient, not because it’s easy to be patient, but because it understands that growth takes time. Love is kind, even when kindness requires effort and sacrifice. It is deliberate, intentional, and persistent. It doesn’t waver at the first sign of trouble but stands firm, knowing that the journey is worth it.

Yes, love is hard. Love is not the fairy tale we often imagine—it’s much more real, and much more rewarding. Love is pain because it requires vulnerability. It’s sacrifice because it asks you to put someone else’s needs alongside your own. It’s seeing someone’s darkness—their fears, their insecurities, their anger—and choosing not to run away. When you see the worst in someone and still choose to stay, you are practicing a love that defies the easy path.

We are all human, and that means we are all flawed. But love is the choice to look past those flaws, to see the person beneath, and to say, “I see you, in all your complexity, and I still choose you.” This is what makes love powerful, what makes it transformative. It’s not about perfection; it’s about acceptance. It’s about choosing, every day, to show up for someone, even when it’s difficult.

So yes, love is hard. But it’s also beautiful. Because when you choose to love someone despite their flaws, you’re not just offering them love—you’re offering them grace. And in that grace, you both grow, you both heal, and you both become stronger.

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Better with than without

“One of my philosophy professors lectured wildly about love once, yelling: ‘When you’re in love with someone, that person is the lighthouse of your universe.’ (I scrawled it inside Science and Poetry in pencil-lighthouse of your universe-as if I would ever forget that phrase.) He was a delightful caricature of his position. I could swear he literally tore his hair out while howling at us. He went on, ‘Nothing means as much without that person. One of the men in the class repeated, incredulous, half-laughing, ‘So you’re saying you can’t enjoy, like, a vacation, without someone if you’re really in love with them?’ ‘Of course not,’ the professor replied. ‘Not completely. You recognize beauty, but beauty means less if they don’t witness it with you. Beauty is less. You see something sublime and your first thought is that they should be there with you. It’s not as good without them. They illuminate. They make everything more.”

True love is a gift

It’s easy to flirt,

easy to cheat, and easy to take what you want. 😏

But finding someone who’s truly sincere, honest, and consistent?

That’s rare. 💎

If you’re lucky enough to have that kind of love in your life,

cherish it. Don’t take it for granted. 💖

Don’t play with their heart,

don’t toy with their feelings. 💔

Because in the end, when they’re gone,

you’ll regret every moment you didn’t appreciate them.

True love is a gift,

and once it’s gone, you’ll realize just how precious it was. 🌹

Hold on to the person who chooses you every day,

who stays loyal, and who loves you with all they have. 💑

Don’t make the mistake of letting something so rare slip away.

“My best friend once asked me: “How can you tell if a person genuinely loves you?” I replied: “Maybe you just feel it. Maybe through the effort they put in your bond”

He said: “Time. You know that a person loves you by how much time they give you. When a person decides to sit and see you cry for hours rather than being somewhere else. The phone calls, The long conversations, The texts. No one would voluntarily invest their time in you over and over if they didn’t genuinely love you.” And that has been one of my major standards for love ever since.”

~ Alya Omran

Love never dies

Cruel and cold like winds on the sea

Will you ever return to me

Hear my voice sing with the tide

My love will never die

Over waves and deep in the blue

I will give up my heart for you

Ten long years I’ll wait to go by

My love will never die

Come, my love, be one with the sea

Rule with me for eternity

Drown all dreams so mercilessly

And leave their souls to me

Play the song you sang long ago

And wherever the storm may blow

You will find the key to my heart

We’ll never be apart

Wild and strong you can’t be contained

Never bound nor ever chained

Wounds you caused will never mend

And you will never end

Cruel and cold like winds on the sea

will you ever return to me

Hear my voice sing with the tide

Our love will never die…

Hades Muse

Vintage Angel Art – Artist Unknown

Discernment

‘Perhaps you will fall in love with many people over the course of your life, but you cannot marry them all.

Some are personality infatuations.

Some represent real connections that could not be brought into being because the people were not ready or mature enough to participate effectively together.

In the moment, you will not know what is what.

So be careful about letting yourself become so infatuated with anyone.

Do not want and try to be in love.

That is blind and foolish.

There are many people who could excite the deeper passions of the heart with whom you could never function together.

You can be in love with someone whose values are so different from yours that you could not stand to be together beyond the initial romantic phase.

You will constantly be arguing, constantly in friction, constantly disagreeing, constantly maladapting to each other.

People fall in love and get married without any idea of what they are doing in their lives or where they are going.

They just assume if you are in love you should be married.

It is a great mistake.

You might feel spontaneous love for someone, but do not let yourself go overboard with that.

In relationship, you are choosing your primary influence.

You are assigning the person to be your chief influence, your chief advisor.

It is a practical arrangement, not just an emotional one.

Do not think if you work hard enough, if you love enough, you will make it all work.

This is foolishness.

You will have to work at relationship, certainly, to a degree.

You will have to adapt, certainly, to a degree.

You will have to relinquish some of your personal freedoms and recklessness to be in a real relationship, of course.

You will have to be attentive.

You will have to be honest.

You will have to be engaged.

But people take this to mean that they can make a relationship work with someone whom they want for themselves, and this is a cruel error.

To be swept along by impressions and infatuations, to allow yourself to be seduced by others, to be overtaken by beauty, wealth or charm is such a form of self-betrayal.

It is such a dangerous involvement.

It has such profoundly difficult and unfortunate consequences.

You have to be very careful here.

Who you associate with and how you associate with them has all the bearing for your life and for the kind of life you will have and the opportunities you will have.’

~ Marshall Summers

René Maltête,The Kiss, Garden of Luxembourg, Paris, 1950’s

Let someone love you

“Let someone love you the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room.”

– Mark Hack

[Image: The Valkyrie’s Vigil (before 1915) painting by Edward Robert Hughes (1851-1914).]

About the Painting:

Following Richard Wagner’s romantic reinterpretation of the old myths, Hughes depicted the Norse war goddess in this ethereal fairy painting.

The artist showed no tract of warriors slain in battle nor of scavenging ravens and wolves. Instead, we see the goddess barefoot, clad in a sheer off-the-shoulder gown, and softly lit from above – her martial aspects de-emphasized.

Note how she has tucked her helmet into the crook of her arm and holds her sword by the ricasso (the blunt section beyond the crossguard).

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Thank you for teacher 🙌

I choose to remember you

Not by how you hurt me

But by how you taught me to heal

Not by how you left me

But by how you taught me to never abandon myself

Not by how you broke me

But by how you taught me to rebuild myself

Not by how you dimmed my light

But by how you helped me to shine

Not by how you kept me trapped in a place of comfort

But by how you empowered me to leave my comfort zone

Not by how you left me feeling weak

But by how you taught me what it means to be strong

Not by how you tried to control me

But by how you taught me to be free

Not by who you told me who I was

But by how you taught me to define myself

And above all

I choose to remember you

Not by how you were unable to love me

But by how you taught me

To love myself.

Words by: Tahlia Hunter

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