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When longing stops

At a certain age, you’ll stop longing for a companion.

You’ll stop insisting to join a lunch out when you’re not invited or feeling offended over a planned birthday surprise that no one told you about. You’ll learn not to stress over people and forced relationships. Instead, you’ll start enjoying your own company. You’ll stop feeling awkward over an empty seat in front of you in a café or a large bucket of popcorn all for yourself in a cinema. You’ll choose sleep over an uncommitted conversation, to stay at home and indulge yourself in classic movies than to force yourself to show up in a Friday night party just to blend in. You’ll learn to cross roads alone, take bus rides on your own, witness breathtaking views and enjoy once-in-a-lifetime experiences with yourself.

At a certain age you’ll learn that moments can also be fun and memorable even in your own company. That it’s never sad to explore life’s corners on your own, that’s its actually more fulfilling and freeing. At a certain age you’ll learn that you are not getting any younger and all you can do is to make every moment count. That life is a short but meaningful journey; and to make the most out of it, you have to stop waiting for someone to hold your hand and walk the road with you. You have get up and cherish the walk yourself.

– Ali

– Artwork : limduey via IG

Charlie McCready – Professional advice on PA-

Coping with the opinions and suggestions of friends, family, and even mental health care professionals can be challenging when facing parental alienation. It’s helpful to remember, they don’t mean to be unkind, they’re just ignorant and have no idea what we’re going through. That’s why it is helpful to be on groups such as this (I hope). I’ve walked in your shoes. My partner has too. We have over 20 years experience, and as step-parents too. We have also experienced the lack of empathy and true understanding from friends, family and ‘experts’. We sometimes find ourselves educating the educators and suggesting how people in positions of authority and safeguarding might better be able to detect alienating behaviours. Do you, too? Make sure you prioritise self-care. It does feel isolating. But you are not alone. Unfortunately, there are thousands and thousands feeling alone just like you. Just like I did (which is why I do all these posts). Set up boundaries. Reach out for help. Focus on the present, not the past and the love, not the loss. Maintain hope and – if you can – stay committed to maintaining a loving and open presence in your child’s life. Stay strong, my friends.

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Sage relationship advice

NON-NEGOTIABLE ACTS IN COUPLE

1. Always be faithful. Even if your partner has not been with you, don’t pay with the same coin. Respect yourself, don’t trample on your dignity and don’t make excuses or justify on the mistakes of the other person to clean up and justify your own decisions. Be honest above all. Don’t lie to yourself.

2. Don’t let your mind deceive you. Everything starts from the mind, control it; Example: “We’re just friends”, “Just a call”, “A little message”, “A coffee”, “It’s just work things”.

Lies! It’s the trap of deception. Be with integrity and loyal .

3. Don’t do to your partner what you wouldn’t want done to you. Respecting and respecting each other is key.

4. Don’t ignore or hide anything from your partner. Don’t give more importance to virtual “friendships” that will never be with you. The time you lose on the cell phone and social networks, apply it to living with your partner, in quality time. That has caused a lot of problems and breakdowns. Value and keep the peace in your relationship.

5. Never block the communication This is critical to conflict resolution. Learn to communicate, to listen, don’t interrupt, give space for your partner to express themselves without bothering you. Look for solutions, don’t provoke rocks just because you don’t like what you hear. Remember they are two and both should bring opinions and suggestions not just you.

6. Don’t sell out your mate. Don’t tell your partner’s intimacies to your female friends or friends.

7. Don’t be silent. Do not apply the ice law. Speak when you are calm; do not stop talking to your partner, do not build walls of pride and coldness.

8. Don’t go to bed angry. So you have anger and pain, give yourself forgiveness before sleeping. Let humility and love prevail.

9. Never shout under any circumstances.

10. Don’t exaggerate. (“Is that you always”, “is that you never”).

11. Don’t make important decisions alone; without agreeing (business, money, schools, changes, travel). Everything must be agreed and in a team.

12. If they already have kids, don’t fight in front of them. That causes psychological trauma and creates patterns of behavior that they will repeat as adults.

13. Don’t abuse the nobility of your partner. Don’t leave them more to do, don’t load their hand.

14. Don’t speak ill of your partner to third parties. Don’t ridicule her when she’s present; for example: “she snores horribly”, “she doesn’t know how to cook”, “she’s a bad friend”, “bad pay”, “drunk”, “bad lover”, “smells bad”. That’s psychological violence and you only project your own miseries.

15. Don’t lose sight of the details, nice words, be presentable to the couple, flatter, reinforce day to day.

16. Don’t refuse forgiveness when asked.

17. Think about separation when there are beating, physical and psychological abuse. May your life be in danger. Let there be infidelity; where respect and dignity is being lost for yourself.

18. Don’t talk about the past of either of you; who you dated, who you hung out with, don’t keep any communication with those people anymore. That’s past, respect your new relationship. And less bringing old fights or discussions into new problems, that is reopening the fight.

19. Don’t make comparisons between spouse and children, with other partners, children, friendships or acquaintances.

20. Build love together; talk, resolve, share, respect, understand, validate, not hide.

Let go of people unprepared to love you 😘

“Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want change.

Best gifts for your loved ones

Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it’s a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.

When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn’t mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren’t ready to accompany you.

If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don’t do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.

That’s what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.

The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else.

There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.

The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want.

Maybe if you stop showing up, you won’t be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it’s attachment. It’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life.

The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence.

When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be around you, your energy is stolen.

You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It’s not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favours you have granted. It’s your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.

Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don’t waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve”

~ Brianna Weist

Resonance

“Notice the term resonance comes from the Latin verb ‘resonare,’ meaning to “return to sound”. It means to sound and resound, as in an echo. The point of existence is to activate and resonate with the core template embedded in DNA. Every human being is an antenna and tuning fork for energies coming from the Great Central Sun. The more we live in integrity with true nature, the longer lasting and more expansive the experience of resonance, the more conscious and frequent synchronicities appear, and the more ecstatic we are as musical notes moving up the cosmic scale. Our language is full of plays on words that resonate. “Being in tune with true being” is being “on the same wave length” as what really matters. It’s why silence is the loudest voice that aligns everything to the tone of deepest being when one is ready to listen.” – Liara Covert

Come find me

Come find me when you’re ready to shed the masks you’ve worn to protect yourself from the world. When the walls you’ve built around your heart start to feel more like a cage than a sanctuary. Come find me when you’re done playing hide and seek with your emotions, pretending you don’t feel what you feel. When you’ve outgrown the games that used to distract you from what you really want—when what you crave is connection, not just attention.

Come find me when you realize that love is not just a word, but a responsibility—a willingness to show up fully, even when it’s hard, even when it scares you. When you’re ready to embrace something deeper, something more profound than the fleeting thrill of the chase. Come find me when you’re tired of empty conversations and shallow connections, when you’re ready to build something with roots, something that can withstand the storms of life.

Come find me when you’re searching for quality over quantity, when you’ve stopped measuring your worth by the number of people you can impress and started valuing the ones who truly see you. When you’re ready to stop chasing temporary thrills and start cultivating something lasting.

Come find me when you’re no longer afraid to be vulnerable—when you understand that true strength lies in being seen, in showing your scars, your fears, your hopes, and your dreams. When you know that love is not about perfection, but about two people choosing each other, again and again, through the mess and the beauty.

Come find me when you’re ready to build something real—when the need for love outweighs the need for ego, when you’re willing to let go of your fears and dive into the unknown. I’ll be here, waiting, for the person who’s ready for all that love can be.

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