Tag: Charlie McCarthy

To those Responsible – Charlie McCready

Despite being a victim of false allegations and manipulative alienating tactics, the ‘target’ parent finds themselves entrapped in a system that often fails to adequately assess the truth, allowing baseless accusations to persist. The alienated parent, unjustly kept away from their child, experiences a profound sense of loss, rejection, and helplessness. Their relationship with their child deteriorates as the alienating parent continues to poison the child’s mind against them, and often it worsens during custody cases.⁠

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Legal and mental health professionals, who are expected to protect the child’s best interests, often fail to intervene effectively. Even when assessments are conducted, they are sometimes ignored or not acted upon, leaving the alienated parent in a state of perpetual despair and disbelief.⁠

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The frustration deepens as the ‘rejected’ parent witnesses the alienating parent’s blatant disregard for court orders and their refusal to cooperate in co-parenting. Despite these clear signs of malicious intent, the legal and mental health system often sticks with the status quo/does next to nothing, sometimes even making things worse. ⁠

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There is currently no ‘one size fits all’ remedy. But I’d like to share what a parent wrote to me suggesting – something that had worked for him. I paraphrase: “Demand from those in positions of power to put in writing what the allegations are about you. Ask them if your parenting has ever been in question before separation/divorce/allegations. Question them as to whether these allegations are a breach of your right to a private family life.”⁠

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This is great because by doing so, you assert your rights but also prompt the professionals to examine the credibility of the allegations thoroughly. If there is no prior evidence or history of concerns, it raises doubts about the authenticity of the claims made during the alienation process. Questioning whether these allegations breach your right to a private family life underscores the fundamental human rights aspect of the situation. This emphasises the need to protect the parent-child relationship and the family’s right to privacy. By raising these questions, the alienated parent not only advocates for their own rights but also challenges the professionals to uphold the principles of fairness, justice, and due diligence in their assessments.

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Unprepared for being targeted by parental alienation – Charlie McCarthy

No one was prepared for parental alienation. But what you do next will have a big impact on your child, on you and your wider family.

Parental alienation is both complex and counterintuitive. Your own insecurities and vulnerabilities all rise to the surface as you experience an emotional rollercoaster, trying to wrestle back control of what is happening to your child and your life.

The 9-Step Program takes a complicated situation and helps you understand what you can do to help rebuild trust and the relationship with your child, deal with alienators more effectively and restore your own wellbeing. We help you to develop a new understanding of alienation and give you the tools to navigate helping your child and yourself with confidence.

This may be the best investment that you make in your child and you in 2024 – that is what parents who have completed the course constantly tell me.

Comment below or message me directly for further details of how we can transform your experience of alienation and how to enrol.

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Charlie McCarthy- Coraline

This post features a picture from the 2009 animated film, Coraline, based on a book by Neil Gaiman. Coraline’s parents are preoccupied and don’t give her the attention she wants. She finds a small door in their house leading to a magical place where everything seems so much better. She’s blind to realising it’s all too good to be true. It reminds me of the ‘grass is greener’ experience when our children are lured by alienation (promises, lies, manipulation …) to leave us, we’re no longer ‘good enough’ for them. Coraline’s ‘Fake Mother’ (you can probably see where I’m going with this) turns out to not be as loving and good as Coraline initially thinks, and the story involves her attempts to escape back to the real world and her everyday parents. The fake mother is referred to as a ‘beldam’ which is a malicious woman, witch or shapeshifting demon whose goal is to lure children into her fake world so she can feed on their souls. When Coraline tries to run from this ‘alienated’ fake world, the escape tunnel becomes steeper and longer on each attempt. Some have theorised that Coraline doesn’t escape and becomes the next beldam.

As alienated parents, we long for our children to see the bigger picture and ‘escape’. They’re enmeshed in a false drama, a trauma re-enactment narrative of the ‘protective’ and ‘good’ loving parent. The child is not victimised and the target parent is not abusive. This is a pathological delusion. We have simply become part of the alienating (borderline) parent’s complex trauma, most likely from childhood. It is usually triggered by divorce – a ‘pathological mourning’ which turns sadness and anxiety into anger and resentment.

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