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How someone shifts to the Dark Side – Charlie Mc Cready

There are often a lot of psychological insights that can be gleaned from books and films. In Star Wars, we see Anakin Skywalker transition into Darth Vader, providing us with insights into the psychology of those entangled with a ‘dark personality.’ What’s a ‘dark personality’? One common framework is the Dark Triad, consisting of three primary personality disorder traits:⁠

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Narcissism: Excessive self-love, a grandiose sense of importance, cruelty, and a lack of empathy for others.⁠

Machiavellianism: Highly manipulative behaviour, cunning, and a focus on achieving personal goals, often at the expense of others. ⁠

Psychopathy: A lack of empathy, remorse, or guilt coupled with impulsive and antisocial behaviour. Plus: Sadistism – it feels good when others suffer. ⁠

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Some psychiatrists believe Anakin’s shift during his teen years aligns with symptoms reminiscent of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), laying the foundation for attachment problems. As Darth Vader, he is firmly identified as a villain. Darth Sidious, representing the embodiment of evil and the dark side of the Force, orchestrates Anakin’s fall, with manipulative behaviours … as with alienating parents. Similarly, Sidious utilises psychological tactics to control, mould and weaponise the child/teenager into Darth Vader. ⁠

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Here are some other comparisons: Alienating parents often isolate children from the targeted parent – and the truth. Sidious does the same, also fostering dependency by exploiting his vulnerabilities and influencing his choices. Alienating parents exploit their children’s fears and fuel resentment. Anakin’s fear of loss and desire for power push him toward the dark side. In both cases, fear is used to control. It’s not just alienating parents; we can turn our attention to all enablers of these behaviours, and that includes, unfortunately, family courts who fail to recognise ‘dark’ behaviour. They fail to see a shared persecutory delusion in the child that then destroys the child’s attachment bond to the other parent. This is child psychological abuse, which is a DSM-5 diagnosis (V995.51). Weaponising the child is also spousal or partner abuse, and the child’s witnessing of this (DSM-5 V995.82). The pathogenic parent (often with a narcissistic/dark personality/borderline) inflicts a false (factitious) attachment pathology on the child.

The parallels between the manipulative tactics of Darth Sidious and alienating behaviours throw some light on our understanding of dark personalities and the interplay of mental health, trauma, and identity.

The key thing is: don’t fight the darkness. Don’t engage with it energetically. As often as possible, focus on what you can love, for love is the only true power in the universe. When you empower love, the darkness cannot exist in those spaces. Love is not in a galaxy far, far away. It’s in you.

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Children have Antennae – Charlie Mc Cready / Parental Alienation/ Child Psychological Abuse

The concept of “antennae” refers to our emotional energy and what is picked up by us and others, especially our children, in a hyper-sensitive state inflicted on them by the experience of ‘parental alienation’. They can subconsciously sense even unspoken emotions. The negative associated energy can create palpable tension and discomfort for the child. Even not fully understanding the situation’s complexities or their entrapment, they can feel – near or far – the emotional discord between their parents. This awareness can contribute to a sense of unease and confusion in the child, leading to emotional detachment. ⁠

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We often feel in ‘harmony’ or ‘in tune’ or ‘on the same wavelength’ with some people and less so with others. It’s all energy, frequency and vibration as the legendary Nikola Tesla put it. It’s the same way we intuitively understand what frequencies are compatible with us. When we’re on a ‘high vibe’ and feeling happy, an angry person might not bother us too much, but if their anger finds a match (like attracts like) with our energy, we can be triggered. That’s to say, we might have some unresolved anger. Likewise, being around happy people can be annoying when we’re upset! We’re just not in the mood! Their high vibe/joy doesn’t resonate when we’re feeling down. ⁠

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Dark personalities, people inclined towards chaos and unloving behaviour, are drawn to our love, light, empathy … These “low vibe” people can cause a disturbance in the force/the energy (getting a bit ‘Star Wars’ the mitochondria are like Midi-chlorians – the molecular power behind The Force – the tiny particles found in cells that help to make life possible). By maintaining our higher vibration, we avoid being dragged into negativity. Disengaging from dark personalities incompatible with us, they lose their power to drag us down if we remain a vibrational mismatch

We can choose where to focus our attention, empowering feelings that amplify our happiness, and we exist in moments aligned with higher vibrational love. We benefit from surrounding ourselves with people and experiences that help us rise above negative feelings, practice self-respect and self-love, and create boundaries. Letting go of negative emotions—fear, anger, grief, and anxiety—is vital for our emotional well-being. Healing involves self-reflection, seeking support, and fortifying emotional resilience, a journey that not only benefits us but contributes to a healthier environment (vibe) for our children, too. They do feel it.

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Researcher in PA received award .

This is clear and solid proof of how the law , courts and society should change this ASAP

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Narcissist Never Get Over You

I am aware of how X held on to things for decades in regard to the imprinted information then , never looking at the flip side , mind made up and it stayed there . Still happening . Change is not an easy process for distorted folks .

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