Category: Parential Alienation-Child Abuse

“I’ll never be Your Maybe “

Honey,I’m not the kind of person that will wait for you to “figure things out.”I know what i want and who I want it from- I expect the same from you.If you can’t make me a priority, then don’t think that I’ll stick around as a possibility.I know my worth and I’m as good as they come.If you can’t see that, someone else will.I may not have everything always figured out and I may just have “those” days sometimes where i cry in the shower, but then, who doesn’t?I never said I was perfect and I don’t ever want to be.So, if you’re looking for Barbie, Ken, you won’t find her here.I’m imperfectly beautiful in all the most chaotically wonderful ways, and if you’d stop looking at me and start actually seeing me, you might just get that.I need someone strong, confident and passionate-I don’t want to sit idly and watch a small camp fire, I want passion fiery enough to set a thousand nights ablaze.If you’re trying to define me like every other woman you’ve known, then let me just stop you right there.You may never figure me out, you might have a challenge trying to understand me, but if you want something badly enough, I’d think you’d do your best to try to unravel my layers.True love and blazing romance doesn’t just appear for the faint of heart.You can call me stubborn, headstrong or sassy- I’ll just smile and thank you for the compliments.I’m not going to be just another option in your playbook and I’m not happy settling for small slivers of your attention.So, this is your chance and I’m your wake up call.If you’re playing a game, then find another field to play on.My love isn’t something I value lightly and i don’t waste my time with hopscotch of the heart.So, do us both a favor, won’t you?Forget your maybes, hopefully and possibilities.Step up and treat me with some respect if you want to earn my love.My life isn’t a dress rehearsal and this isn’t an audition.This time..I’m playing for keeps.|ravenwolf

Craig on Delusional Disorder ie Pathogen

Oh my god, pathogen, I just had a great idea, you’ll love this… it’s a solution for our disagreement.
I say you have a thought disorder, a delusion, a shared persecutory delusion – I’m being very specific, an ICD-10 diagnosis of F24 – a real thing.
You say you don’t.  You say your thinking is just fine, you are rational and don’t have a delusion.
So how do we resolve this? I say you have a delusional disorder and you say you don’t.  I know, a Mental Status Exam of thought and perception – of frontal lobe executive function systems.
Google “mental status exam” and read the NCBI entry, better yet, here it is:
Mental Status Examhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK320/
Oh my gosh, we actually have a clinical diagnostic assessment procedure that will answer our question.  Isn’t that great?  We don’t have to argue about it, we’ll just get it diagnosed. See there where it says,
From NCBI: “Does the patient harbor realistic concerns, or are these concerns elevated to the level of irrational fear? Is the patient responding in exaggerated fashion to actual events, or is there no discernible basis in reality for the patient’s beliefs or behavior?”
Perfect assessment protocol, right? 
Oh, but it says it’s hard to do the MSE of thought and perception. See, it says,
From the NCBI: “Of all portions of the mental status examination, the evaluation of a potential thought disorder is one of the most difficult and requires considerable experience. The primary-care physician will frequently desire formal psychiatric consultation in patients exhibiting such disorders.”
Good news, pathogen.  I have that “considerable experience” in the Mental Status Exam of thought and perception (frontal lobe executive function systems) from 12 years of annual training at a UCLA project on schizophrenia in the MSE of thought and perception.
Holy cow, pathogen, I’m one of the most experienced professionals around at diagnosing delusional pathology.  Tell ya what, how ’bout a bonus… how about we rate how severe your delusion is?  Not just whether or not you are delusional… how about we tell you just how delusional you are on a 7-point scale?
The Brief Psychiatric Rating Scale – look it up on Wikipedia – the BPRS, “one of the oldest, most widely used scales to measure psychotic symptoms.”
Well waddya know.  For 12 years I was trained annually in the MSE of thought and perception, rating the severity of the delusions on the BPRS, “one of the oldest, most widely used scales to measure psychotic symptoms.”
Is that just not the best news, pathogen.  Dr. Childress is one of THE most experienced psychologists in diagnosing delusional pathology… AND… there is a way to do it, the Mental Status Exam of thought and perception.
Yay.  Isn’t that great news?  So not only can we tell IF you are delusional… we can tell how severe it is on a 7-point scale.  With this court-involved shared delusional disorder of the child with the allied parent, I’d likely rate the child’s delusional beliefs as around a 5 Moderately Severe on the BPPS.  There’s full conviction and impairment to functioning.
For you Trump-mind cult people, you might be a 4, full conviction but encapsulated and no functional impairment, or you could go all the way to 7 Extremely Severe if you’re QAnon preoccupied with the delusional beliefs.
The BPRS, it has excellent psychometrics, that’s why it’s used so regularly in rating psychotic symptoms.  Or we could use the PANSS if you’d like, the Positive and Negative Symptom Scale. Up to you, it’s your assessment, which scale would you like to use?
My-oh-my, the Mental Status Exam of thought and perception.  Perfect.  They’re tricky, the frontal lobe executive functions are subtle and you have to know what you’re doing, the “evaluation of a potential thought disorder is one of the most difficult and requires considerable experience,” that is true.
And whoa, whaddya know, I have exactly that “considerable experience.”  Must be kismet, don’t ya think there pathogen buddy?  Such good news.
There’s actually a way to diagnose thought disorders.  Do you know why?  Because they’re not rational, they’re delusions, they don’t make sense.  What an MSE of thought an perception does is not look at the content… we look at the process – the way and how of the reasoning systems.
If it’s logical and rational, it doesn’t matter the content, the process of thinking is clean.  If there’s a delusion present, however, the process of thinking is all out-of-kilter… the process doesn’t make sense… it’s not coherent, it’s illogical and internally inconsistent.  It doesn’t make sense – not the content, the process.
It’s called a Mental Status Exam of thought and perception, of the frontal lobe executive function systems.  Useful thing to know when dealing with delusional pathology, how to diagnose it.
I thought you’d be thrilled to hear that pathogen, that Dr. Childress is one of the foremost clinical experts in the diagnosis of thought disorders and delusional pathology.
ICD-10 F24 – a real thing, a real diagnosis.  The MSE of thought and perception – a real thing, a real assessment for delusional beliefs. The BPRS – a real thing, a real rating scale for delusions.
Oh my goodness, well would you look at that… reality exists.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Craivghttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK320/

Worthy of Reading 17 is very important to me this year as is forgiveness

You will find that now so much will come up which needs to be finally let go of. So much of what we are attached to, or what we subconsciously cling to, so much of the old stuff, all the old unforgiveness, the old  shadows of the 3D will surface, to finally confronted and let go of.Forgiveness indeed is the highest service of Loving Grace – not only to yourself, but for others. In forgiving and letting go of, you not only free yourself – but you free other souls as well.We cannot take any baggage with us into the New Earth and The New Golden Age. With can come moments of sadness.  Something deep within you that somehow feels a sense of loss.  Yet, what in truth is coming up,  is a deep rebirth of the new YOU, the truthful you, in all aspects and forms, as we return to the living the sacred path of purity and truth. I am resharing this most powerful Forgiveness Decree, which you need to say aloud, three times, and as many times as you need to.
The Forgiveness DecreeI forgive everyone who has ever hurt or harmed me,Consciously or unconsciouslyIn this life or any other.In every plane, level or dimension known or unknown.I offer them Grace.
I ask for forgiveness for anyone I have ever hurt or harmed,Consciously or unconsciouslyIn this life or any other.In every plane, level or dimension known or unknown.I ask for Grace.
I forgive myself for anything I have ever done to hurt or harm myself and another, consciously or unconsciouslyIn this life or any otherIn this universe or any other.In every plane, level or dimension known or unknown.I accept Grace.I am free.All chains and restrictions fall from me.  I stand in my power as a master.
(You may use this decree as often as necessary, remembering to totally release your emotional charges in this regard as well. For if you still hang onto the old stories, you will not free yourself nor others.  You need to wipe the slates clean.)
(With acknowledgement to Diana Cooper’s School of which I am a trained teacher).Judith Kusel 
http://www.judithkusel.com
“What we are witnessing right now is the biggest trauma-based mind control experiment the world has ever seen. If you can traumatize people and get them disconnected from their body and emotions, you can disconnect them from their true self/essence/infinite creative potential. 
The only chance they have left to change the timelines right now is to turn humanity into a bunch of soulless out-of-body zombies, or into an animal state where most of the time that human is only guided by primary emotions like fear, hunger, lust, and thirst. When functioning in states like this, humans are much easier to brainwash and control.
The fact that the cabal (or whatever you want to call the occult hostile forces who control the people in power) are attempting such an extreme experiment shows us how desperate they have gotten.
Never let anyone or anything disconnect you from your heart, your emotions, and your spirit, as that is the primary aim of these forces who are hostile to the human spirit and our human family. Remember to take any still moments you find during this time of transition to connect to your true self, as your relationship to God/Source/Emptiness/or whatever you would like to call this stream of infinite consciousness is the most important one of your life. 
The more we can align with forces larger than our small personality self, the easier we can live our lives in alignment with God’s will. It is God’s will we are seeing being enacted on the world stage right now. It is a type of divine intervention, although, to many, that may not become obvious to them for years to come.
There IS a great awakening happening here, and this is a long journey because it is the *collective* consciousness that must be raised. Our biggest work to do is to align with these larger cosmic forces that are guiding us and ride the wave of these timelines shifting. 
As we become God-sourced beings, rather than finding refuge in materialism, or the temporarily and constantly changing world, the madness, the illusions, and the chaos, samsara, we can lift others up as well as we help those who are just waking up learn how to ride the wave too.”
– Laura Matsue ❤

Parental Manipulation ir Child Abuse

Parental alienation is when one parent manipulates a child to have a less than favourable opinion of the other parent. This could lead to the child rejecting the other parent outright. 
This is a widespread issue that occurs in this community because narcissists commonly seek to punish their ex-partner by using their own child against them.  It is a very cruel and effective tool.
And what is so frustrating and devastating in these instances, is that the narcissist does not wish to collaborate and work for the best interests of the child. 
Instead, he or she is more likely to try to discredit you and use the children as pawns against you. 
Also what is true about narcissists is the more that you try to engage them to get sanity, teamwork and decency (even concerning your children) the more they will use your contact against you to hook, bait and trigger you.  This hands them the significance of knowing that they have the power to hurt you.
It is for this reason that the concept of Parallel Parenting is far more effective and better for you and the children.
For further resources on parallel parenting – 
How To Parallel Parenting Works – https://www.facebook.com/137377772251/videos/1668844393279177
Parallel Parenting The Evolutionary Way To Co-Parent With A Narcissist – https://bit.ly/2ZjbVyU
And 
What To Do If You Are Alienated From Your Child – https://bit.ly/3a00DFz
Please know my heart goes out to you and your child/ren.
Much love to you all xo ❤️

Narcissistic Threat of Withdrawal of Love to kids is Abuse , Craig Childress PsyD

Ya wanna know how the allied narcissistic parent most powerfully controls the child – the contingent application and withdrawal of love.
If you don’t do what pleases me, I won’t love you anymore.  It’s a loyalty thing.  The allied narcissistic parent demands the child’s loyalty in completely rejecting the other parent.
Can you see the parallel process?  Can you see what happened to Jeff Sessions and Bill Barr – absolute loyalty is demanded or else you’re rejected – not just by the primary case – by the surrounding flying monkeys too – who attack you for being a RINO – gatekeeping what it means to be Republican – the “radicalization” of the Republican party.
Targeted parents… how many of you are familiar with your ex’s “alternative facts” that are simply lies?  Sound familiar?  Same pathology. 
The cult-mind won’t be able to see – the shared delusion cannot see itself, it is neurologically impossible (that’s what makes it a delusion).  For those who can see, use the example to learn the features of the pathogen.
It lies – not some of the time, all of the time.  It attacks threats of exposure with lies and slander.  It levies false allegations of abuse.  It is delusional – a shared persecutory delusion – ICD-10 F24.
It’s supposed to be a rare pathology – not so rare, I guess.  Just not diagnosed because that would typically be considered rude… but in this case, for child abuse and the overthrow of American democracy, I’ll make an exception – a shared persecutory delusion.
ICD-10 F24.  A real thing.
It’s a thought disorder created by unresolved trauma that leads to distortions to thought and perceptions.  The type of thought disorder is called a delusion – a fixed and false belief that is maintained despite contrary evidence. The type of delusion is called a persecutory delusion, a false belief in supposed “victimization.”
This is not political – many-many Republicans have said that the party left them – it’s become radicalized to the extreme far-right where they’re gatekeeping Moscow Mitch as not being loyal enough.
Just like with the allied parent and child, it’s not about truth, it’s about loyalty – the narcissist DEMANDS absolute loyalty – from Sessions, from Barr, from the child.  Disobedience from the control of the narcissistic parent… will be punished.
I love you ONLY if you submit to me… yikes, creepy.  Yeah, I know… it’s a ripple.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857