Devoid of truth or light … know this all too well
This is a pathology of lies. How many times have I told you that?
Countless times – because is is true. Stop reacting like it’s unexpected. It’s not. It’s a symptom feature of the pathogen, it lies all the time. Not some of the time… all of the time.
Even when there is no reason to lie… it lies. This is a pathology of lies, the pathogen lies all the time. All. How do you know when the pathogen is lying? Its lips are moving. All the time, it lies ALL the time.
I wish I had an example from our everyday world I could show you of a narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative Dark Triad personality who is collapsing into persectuory delusions and constant continual lies.
You know what that’s like. Your pathological ex- lies to the judge in declarations and you spend hours and hours compiling all the evidence to prove the lies. What do they do when you prove their lies are lies?
They lie again. They just don’t stop lying. It’s a symptom feature of the pathology. So are your huge mountains of evidence you’ve compiled trying to prove reality to people.
You don’t need to prove reality to me. I already know reality – you’re fine – you did nothing wrong, it’s not your fault, you’re ex-spouse is psychotic and cruel – the type of psychotic (out of touch with reality) is called a “persecutory delusion” – delusion is the professional term for the big-lie, the one at the core.
The big lie is that the child is being malevolently treated in some way by you. That’s not true, that’s a lie, that’s just crazy… the professional term for “that’s just crazy” is a delusion, in this case it’s a persecutory delusion – a fixed and false belief in supposed victimization.
I wish I had an example from everyday life I could show you. I think a real-life example would make it oh-so-clear… lying is a symptom feature of the pathogen, it lies all the time – all of it. All.
Its lips are moving… it’s lying again.
The pathogen seeks to destabilize you in every way possible. It creates a false reality of lies. You trigger… don’t trigger. Stay grounded. You’re the healthier parent, you’re the protective parent. You have work to do, you’ll need to step-up and step into leading the family.
You will face challenges because the mental health system in the family courts is immensely broken. We’ll need to fly the airplane at the same time as we fix the airplane. That’s a challenge. I’m a certified pilot, I’m here with you and will talk you through it.
We have to obtain an accurate diagnosis for the cause of the attachment pathology with you and your child. You want a treatment plan to fix it. Hold onto that and don’t let go… you want a treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology being displayed by the child.
The pathogen tells lies about you. Of course it does – it lies all the time, not some of the time… ALL the time. Even when it doesn’t have to lie… it lies. It’s the craziest thing to see… it doesn’t need to lie… but it can’t help itself… it lies all the time.
Perhaps if you look around you can find an example from our everyday life of a narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative Dark Triad personality who lies all the time – all of it – forcing the real-world to generate mountains of detailed evidence proving the lies.
And what’s the pathogen’s response when caught – in detail – in the lie? It lies again. Expect it. Anticipate it. Don’t trigger. Don’t disprove the lies – speak the truth – it’s a shared (induced) persecutory delusion – and get an accurate diagnosis because you’ll need a treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology in your child and family – to fix the problem.
You’re the healthier parent. We need your leadership in times of chaos and collapse. You’re the protective parent. I know that and you know that. So let’s get to work protecting your child.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
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