Tag: relationships

Narcissist are never single ..There are always supplies

Short and sweet and to the point , yes he was tethered to his Mom, and I didn’t know he was seeing anyone until , she knocked on his door, and ask to pack up her pots and pans .

Of course as our relationship grew , I began to witness a bond with his Mom that was not right , and increasingly understood , the 2 were #1, as his relationship of almost twenty years ended . Over me over our sons it was Mom, was was until a few months ago …

In our social sets or in public ,he didn’t behave like a husband , or a lover.. nor a friend .

Definitely not demonstrating he cared or was interested which I felt was an emotional issue .

Not that he was demonstrating closeness to his Mom , but they were confidants . Over anyone else …

Kind compliments came from friends , or strangers but never him. After our sons were born I had their love , trust and affections and fun.

That challenged him.

Defiantly the a solitary man.. the reserved , cold nature was hard to ignore

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Responsible Relationships-Patrick Weaver Ministries

Somebody else needs to hear this…When it comes to being habitually, repetitively and destructively hurt in a relationship, there’s not two but only one way to process it: as the injured person, not as the home psychologist of the perpetrator.

Hurt doesn’t hurt less because the perpetrator had a bad childhood or because the perpetrator claims to be unintentional. Hurt is the effect or impact of unacceptable behavior. Unacceptable behavior is not qualified by the perpetrators intentions or intentionality, unacceptable behavior is qualified by the victim’s pain.

If a person is being pained, harmed, abused, destroyed, cut down and defiled —— mentally, emotionally or physically, the perpetrator’s behavior has to have consequences. Without consequences for repeated, unacceptable and harmful behavior, a perpetrator is taught that their behavior should be accepted, equated with love and owed tolerance. With consequences, a perpetrator has to make a choice, seek help and successfully resolve the inner problems that provoke them to hurt people or be removed. Any other choice breeds contempt for change.

We don’t help someone to get better or do better by absolving them of the responsibilities of love and relationship. Relationship is optional, respect is required —— and their history, insecurity or emotional immaturity does not negate that fact…for a healthy relationship.

Relationship has boundaries, and boundaries aren’t subject to how someone was raised, insecurities or emotional immaturity. Some people will have to grow up, heal or mature before they can be in a healthy relationship. People do better when they know better and learn better…because they want better. The privileges of relationship come with the responsibilities of relationship…and without responsibilities, there is no relationship.

Carry On!