Discernment or Loyalty?

Part of my authenticity was to speak my mind and way too fast . I had friends who called and we talked for long periods of time while watching our children , cooking a meal , having a coffee

Not having an adult invested in our family was hard ; single married mom .

So yes I am guilty of saying things that could have been trippy for our children and I’ve asked and received forgiveness from on high . πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

Love the shadow & the dark within

Love the Saint & the Sinner

With

The child who hears you gossip about friends and family is not learning about other people.
They are learning that the people we love are targets for criticism the moment they leave the room.

You think it’s just harmless venting. A quiet phone call while they play nearby.
You believe they don’t understand the adult complexities.
Let’s call it what it really is.
You are not just talking. You are teaching them your definition of loyalty.

In those moments, you teach them that affection and judgment can come from the same mouth.
You teach them that relationships are conditional, and trust is something that evaporates with distance.
You are damaging the very concept of a safe, authentic friendship.

This is how you raise an adult who is deeply insecure, always wondering what is being said about them when they walk away.
Or worse, an adult who perpetuates this cycle, unable to form genuine bonds because they only know how to connect through criticism.

Speak of others as if they are in the room.
Model the integrity you want your child to embody. The most powerful lesson on loyalty is taught in the whispers they were never meant to overhear.

Author: Arsalan Moin

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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