The leading baby ” experts ” stated that allowing baby to cry for 15 minutes was best . It went against my nature but I did so as baby grew out of newborn stage . I don’t think I ever went a full 15 minutes .
It was part of the new world order to have detached moms and dads and psychologically challenged children; ie erasing families !
Crying is how babies from birth to about five years old communicate their needs. When caregivers regularly ignore these cries, the baby’s stress response system becomes overstimulated and unregulated. This repeated stress, especially without comfort, can alter how a child’s brain, nervous system, and immune system develop. Scientists refer to this as stress becoming “biologically embedded,” meaning early experiences shape long-term health and behavior.
When a baby cries without being soothed, stress hormones like cortisol flood their body. If this happens too often, it can interfere with how the brain grows—especially areas responsible for emotions, thinking, and memory. Studies on both animals and humans show that neglect during early years leads to increased anxiety, stronger fear reactions, and slower development of the frontal cortex, which is responsible for decision-making and emotional control.
Brain scans of children who experienced early neglect—such as those raised in institutions—show physical changes, including reduced white matter (needed for learning) and enlarged amygdalae (linked to fear and anxiety). Over time, this can lead to problems with self-control, focus, and learning.
Ignoring babies’ distress also weakens emotional bonding. Babies who are consistently comforted learn to trust their caregivers. But if crying is ignored, they may form insecure attachment patterns. These children often grow up more anxious, emotionally distant, or unable to manage stress well.
Biologically, early emotional neglect also affects hormone balance and the immune system. Chronically stressed babies often show abnormal cortisol levels and higher inflammation markers. This makes them more vulnerable to illnesses and long-term conditions like depression, heart disease, and metabolic issues later in life.
Behaviorally, these children are more likely to struggle with anxiety, aggression, or attention problems. Studies show that even years later, children who experienced early emotional neglect score lower in language and problem-solving skills and may face challenges in relationships.
In short, babies need responsive care not just for emotional reasons, but to support healthy brain, hormone, and immune system development. While occasional crying is normal, ongoing neglect of emotional needs in early years can leave long-lasting biological and psychological marks.
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