Charlie McCready – Gone Girl

Gillian Flynn’s “Gone Girl” provides a chilling psychopathic portrayal of Amy Dunne, a character who exemplifies traits such as lack of remorse, dishonesty, cunning and striking charm as she weaves an intricate web of deceit. Her intricate planning, patience, and calculated approach reveal a misuse of self-regulation, as she meticulously observes and collects information about her husband’s behaviour for the purpose of revenge and malevolent manipulation. Amy’s masterful manipulation of victimhood grants her immunity from criticism, enabling her to receive compassion and support from others.⁠

Criminal masterminds in literature and film, like Professor James Moriarty, Hannibal Lecter, Frank Underwood, and Tom Ripley are morbidly fascinating. If any of these masterminds, including Amy Dunne, were to undergo a character assessment using the VIA Survey (Value in Action), they’d probably score highly on traits such as ingenuity, patience, perseverance, keen observation skills with an ability to collect information for the purpose of revenge.⁠

The fictional characters show us that sometimes false allegations are not impulsive acts but result from meticulous planning and patient execution. It’s challenging to contemplate the darker aspects of human behaviour when it’s real and not fictional, and the lengths to which some are willing to go for revenge, control, or the destruction of others. As with alienating parents, the presentation of victimhood, their planning, and emotional manipulation and psychological abuse is (in cases other than ‘mild’ alienation) a highly organised and orchestrated process. ⁠

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Craig Childress Psy.D. – Pathogens/PA

Any pathogen watchers out there?

I know there’s some who see it moving. Let me point out something interesting. The pathogen is moulting like an insect.

It’s shedding it’s shell to take on a new one. The old shell was PAS (“parental alienation”) created by its “rebel alliance” minions. It’s shedding that now because PAS “parental alienation” is no longer useful.

The pathogen is moulting the PAS shell into its new shell from its forensic psychologist minions. It’s been trying out Resist-Refuse Dynamic (RRD) and Parent-Child Contact Problems (PCCP) as its new PAS – an entirely made up thing with no diagnostic indicators.

The new RRD and PCCP are even worst than PAS was, how can that be possible? At least PAS had 8 horrible almost symptoms, RRD and PCCP have no symptoms whatsoever.

The pathogen can’t think. Have you ever seen something that can’t think make a decision? Wanna see?

The pathogen can’t think, the unresolved trauma-anxiety in their networks shuts down the frontal lobe executive function systems of linear-logical reasoning in favor of emotional-associational thinking. It’s stupid. It can’t reason. It’s a stupid pathogen.

That’s a tell on its presence, the absence of linear-logical reasoning. It actually is a stupid pathogen.

Do you know how it decides? That’s interesting. It has allies try out options and then sees which one gathers more minds to it and it adopts that one. It’s decision-by-others.

‘Cause it’s stupid. It can’t reason. It uses reasoning in the world to figure out which option it should use. It’s a stupid pathogen.

It’s deciding between Resist-Refuse Dynamic and Parent-Child Contact Problems as the new unicorn of mythological pathology.

But that’s not the interesting thing for the pathogen watchers. As interesting as decision-making by a mind worm thing might be, that’s not THE interesting thing that I want to note.

Note this… where is the uproar over the made-up Resist-Refuse Dynamic and Parent-Child Contact Problems like there was for the made-up PAS and “parental alienation”?

Notice how silently the pathogen is changing its shell from one to another. It created the conflict about PAS this whole time because it wanted the conflict. It doesn’t want conflict now… it wants us to simply accept its new transformation, its new shell.

Where are the calls for “peer-reviewed research” regarding Parent-Child Contact Problems and Resist-Refuse Dynamic? Silence. Complete silence.

Do you find that odd? I do.

Where are the allegations that Parent-Child Contact Problems and Resist-Refuse Dynamic represent “junk science”? Silence. Complete silence.

Do you find that odd? I do.

Where are Kelly-Frye and Daubert applied to Resist-Refuse Dynamic and Parent-Child Contact Problems? Silence. Complete silence.

Do you find that odd? I do.

The pathogen’s moulting. Last time it wanted the conflict. This time it wants us to simply accept it… so it doesn’t use its allies to generate conflict.

It’s a mind-bug and its changing its exo-skeleton, its shell, its cover, its mask of appearances. It’s a viral mind-bug insect-like thing and its moulting.

If you can see the pathogen moving, take a look in forensic psychology and you’ll see a mind-worm bug thing moulting from “parental ailenation” to “parent-child contact problems” and “resist-refuse dynamic”. I don’t think its “decided” which yet.

It’s a coherent set of damage in the attachment networks of the brain, a motivational system, and it makes us do stuff we don’t realize we’re doing… called “unconscious” stuff because we’re not conscious of our motivations – the mind-bug within us is pulling the strings and we’re dancing.

Ahhhh, get it out. Step on it. Holy cow. What is that thing?

Trauma. And it can’t process its grief. It’s the trans-generational transmission of trauma through the distorted parenting that the unresolved trauma creates.

Once you see it, you see it.

And you can’t un-see it once you see it. It’s moving. It’s moulting. It’s changing its shell, its outer mask of appearances.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Mentally Disordered Alienating Parent – Charlie McCready

Imagine the child feeling guilty about enjoying their time spent with a loving/loved parent! This internal conflict arises after being exposed to an alienating parent’s relentless barrage of negativity about the other parent. The alienating parent, driven by narcissistic tendencies, manipulates the child into believing that the target parent is the source of all their pain and should be viewed as wholly ‘bad.’ They make it quite clear (verbally and also non-verbally) that if the child has any positive words or feelings about the ‘bad’ parent this is definitely not good. How confusing this is to a child! It’s psychological manipulation by a trusted parent, emotional abuse inflicted on a child. The alienating parent mirrors cultish indoctrination, damaging the attachment bonds the child will naturally have with their alienated parent (with both parents). This is why they succumb to the alienation. Not because they don’t love the other parent. Although hearing bad things about them contributes greatly, most of all their resistance is relentlessly worn down. It’s exhausting. It’s a survival mechanism to ‘cut off’ emotionally which is perhaps the only way they can do what is required of them by the ‘aligned’ parent. In this way, and only this way, their life is ‘easier’ and this is why the alienated child might often say or think the ‘target’ parent should do the same and just bow down and submit. To quote some alienated children, the target parent should just ‘suck it up’ or ‘apologise for everything’. It is not easy for them to live with a mentally disordered parent who is basically a bully – not every day, not always – the hot/cold moods are unpredictable. But the alienating parent is generally a highly volatile, cluster b personality (histrionic, borderline, narcissistic) and they put themselves above all others, including their own children.

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Stand – Charlie McCready

I hope that my daily posts and my professional and personal experiences and work with ‘parental alienation’, are helpful. I aim to create awareness and validation, helping people realise they are not alone in their struggles. Connecting in a space like this can, I hope, provide some guidance and a sense of solace, empowerment, and healing. Parental alienation is a pathology and not a reflection of your worth or actions. I want you to find strength in knowing you are part of a larger community working towards understanding, healing, and advocating for change. I have been through the trauma of alienation, and am totally invested in helping others. As well as my daily posts, I offer 1:1 coaching, and a 9-step program. I am always grateful when you can share my work, not with alienated children, but with those who can help me, help you, and help all of us who want ‘parental alienation’ recognised as abusive, disordered pathological parenting, which is causing harm to so many. Thanks for being here.⁠

Manifesting PA

found this on a lawyer website. It really helped

8 symptoms that manifest from parental alienation.

  1. A CAMPAIGN OF DENIGRATION

In a denigration campaign, the relationship between the alienated parent and the child will shift seemingly overnight. While there was once a positive relationship, the child now shows constant hostility or unfairly criticizes the targeted parent.

  1. WEAK, FRIVOLOUS AND ABSURD RATIONALIZATIONS

When confronted about why the child feels negatively towards the alienated parent, they cannot justify their feelings with specific examples or their reasons are wildly untrue. Sometimes, the child rejects the parent for reasons that wouldn’t usually rationalize rejection, such as their parent’s appearance or food preparation skills.

  1. A LACK OF AMBIVALENCE

A child suffering from PAS will see no redeeming qualities in the alienated parent. In their eyes, the parent who is doing the alienating can do no wrong, but their feelings towards the alienated parent are wholly negative and critical.

  1. THE “INDEPENDENT THINKER” PHENOMENON

Even though the alienating parent has brainwashed the child to hate or fear the alienated parent, the child will insist that their reasons for this hatred are their own. The child will deny that any ideas came from the alienating parent.

  1. AN ABSENCE OF GUILT

Children with PAS typically don’t experience feelings of guilt for their harsh treatment of the alienated parent. In most cases, they will act ungrateful, spiteful or cold toward the alienated parent and appear unimpressed by any gifts or favors offered by the targeted parent.

  1. SUPPORT FOR THE ALIENATING PARENT

No matter the alienating parent’s position, the child will always take their side over the targeted parent. The child is unwilling to be impartial or hear out the alienated parent when there are parental disagreements or conflict.

  1. BORROWED PHRASES AND SCENARIOS

Alienated children will often borrow adult language or ideas from their alienator that they do not appear to understand. The child may also make accusations about events that never happened or that they cannot support with evidence.

  1. REJECTION OF EXTENDED FAMILY

Unfortunately, the resentment an alienated child feels towards the targeted parent can also extend to their relatives. Aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents that were once loved may suddenly be despised and avoided.

The first step to putting a stop to parental alienation is learning how to read the signs. If you fear your child has become the victim of parental alienation, working with a family counselor or family law attorney can help you determine your next steps.

Charlie McCready- offering 9 step program for targeted parents

I will be running the 9-Step Program starting on 9th February 2024.

If you are experiencing parent alienation, this 8 week course is for you. We help you to understand how alienation is affecting your child, what support they need from you and ways that you can rebuild relationships with them. You learn to see alienation as your child is experiencing it and how to look beyond the behaviours that they are using as coping mechanisms to deal with this trauma.

You will also learn how to cope with your own experience. We help you to overcome grief, guilt, isolation, powerlessness, injustice and anxiety. You will be having your own unique experience of these emotions and we give you tools that will help you to get off this emotional restore, restoring your mental and emotional resilience.

Being a strong parent is important both for your child’s benefit as well as your own well being.

The Program starts on 9th February and has 8 Weekly modules, plus live coaching over Zoom with me. And once you have completed the Program there is a further 2 months of ongoing support, including extra live coaching to help you put what you have learnt into action.

This might be the best investment you make in 2024.

If you want to learn more, please comment below or Message be directly so we can start exploring how the Program can help your specific needs.

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Tower of Destruction- Craig Childress Psy D

Imagine if you didn’t have me. You’d be in quite the spot right now.

Your only allies would be the discredited Gardner PAS people, and your only mental health option would be the forensic psychologists who are ignorant like a rock and solve nothing.

The Gardnerian PAS “experts” like Bernet and Baker are aging-out of the system. Their battles are behind them, not in front. Who’s the next generation of leadership for Gardner’s PAS model… it will die when they do and they don’t have much longer.

What happens then?

The construct of “parental alienation” is nothing but controversy and conflict for 40 years. It solves nothing, never has, never will… it was never meant to solve anything. It was bait. Look how well it worked for 40 years.

Are you listening? Do you understand? The construct of “parental alienation” was created by the pathogen as bait for you… and you took it to your own destruction… for decade after decade of no-solution.

Pablum for your motivations.

It’s not needed by the pathogen anymore now that its end-game with you has arrived. Even the pathogen’s allies of the forensic psychologists see that, and they’ve replaced it with the next pathogen-construction that’s designed to be your death… a made-up new thing they call “resist-refuse dynamic.”

That will lock you into your destruction forever… at least that was the pathogen’s… plan. A pathogen has a plan. ADHD doesn’t have a plan to be ADHD, autism doesn’t have a plan to be autism.

This pathology… has a plan. It has a motivational intent. It moves toward a purpose. Are you listening?

Nope, not yet. Once you start listening to me, I can help you solve so many problems you face… once you start listening.

It is going to take “parental alienation” away from you. First it makes you entirely dependent on a made-up thing, then it will take that made-up thing away… leaving you with nothing.

Its plan is to leave you with ONLY forensic psychologists. You’d be in quite a bit of trouble once that happens. You’d have no escape.

I tricked it.

I opened an entirely new line – clinical psychology. I’m not part of its plan.

It thought it had gotten rid of all of us clinical psychologists. That was the plan, to drive us away and isolate you. It was an excellent and well-executed plan… but it missed one.

And one clinical psychologist is all it took.

I’m a quantum fluctuation of probability – I’m a virtual clinical psychologist in the vacuum of the family courts who quantum tunneled down the rabbit hole to here where the pathogen had you isolated from rescue… and I rescued you from your isolation.

I stayed with you until we could get you out. You’re almost out, it’s inevitable now, it’s just a time-thing at this point.

That’s all it took to stop the pathogen’s plan – a pathology plans – it just took one clinical psychologist… the right one. Now look where we’re at.

You have an option – treatment not custody. You have real knowledge to rely on, Bowlby-Minuchin-Beck. I’ve explained the pathology in detail using only established knowledge, and I’m taking on the forensic psychologists who own you.

You’ll be free. We are going to get you competent mental health services that protect your child. That’s my plan.

You’re lucky I’m here. Luck was not involved.

The universe brought me here because here is where the universe wants me. If it wanted me somewhere else, I’d be somewhere else. That’s how the universe works.

It made me for this task though a lifetime. I moved on unseen lines toward an unseen goal. I have background in attachment – family systems – delusional thought disorders – child abuse and complex trauma, I’m just what the doctor ordered to fix your problem.

I’m perfectly suited to meet the needs of the situation. I’m a piece in a puzzle that unlocks your prison of here.

I’m the only one who could solve your problem… and I wasn’t here… until I was. Just one lone clinical psychologist in forensic psychology world. That’s enough.

I’ve given you an alternative. I’ve given you the path out of your nightmare just when the pathogen shuts off all paths out. It has its plan. I have mine.

How does a pathology plan?

Do you know what one of your biggest problems is? You don’t listen to me. If you just listened to me, so many of your problems would be solved. But you-they don’t listen.

When I ask the universe why you don’t listen, it tells me it’s a symptom, and it explains the symptom to me. I’d explain it to you, but you don’t listen.

You will eventually, and when you do… so many of your problems will be solved.

The pathogen fights – about everything. Until we pass the fight-and-fight symptom we’ll be locked in the fight-and-fight process. Once we’re past it… you’ll start listening and so many of your problems will be resolvable.

Dum-dee-dum, I’ll wait.

The universe has this, of that I have no doubt. It’s telling me not to worry, it tells me that it has you taken care of and that everything is exactly where it needs to be. It tells me I should walk to a baseball game and trick fish into thinking I’m a bug.

Okay, I can do that.

I’m fully into my role now. I’m in the process of introducing myself to the legal system. I’m encountering the forensic psychologists up-close and personal. I don’t think they’ll be happy with encountering Dr. Childress for the first time.

But it won’t be the last time they will be encountering me. I’m here. I do what I do here. They’re going to have to adjust.

We’re entering a time of chaos. Look around, things are not normal. It’s the Tower of Destruction. I should explain the moving archetypes that control you, but you won’t listen.

The Tower is not a bad thing, it’s a good thing. We need ashes for the next phase. Watch. My estimate is it will take between two to five years, watch where we will be in two to five years.

The reason it’s taking so long is because I have to do it all myself. Mostly. There’s a few universal instruments being used as I am. Enough for now, that’s what the universe tells me when I ask.

Why are there no Tarasoff-range lawsuits? Where is major media?

Wait, it says. There are things that need to happen. So I wait for the unfolding of lines. I see the lines. You don’t see the lines. Sigh. Okay. I’ll wait.

Some are awakened. More are awakening. More will awaken still, it will keep growing. Only one line is connected to life, the one we’re on. The others have all been cut-off from the source. The other lines will wither and die, only one line will remain, and that line will prosper with life-and-light.

Watch.

“What about me?”

I know. We’ve lost too many. We’re continuing to lose so many. I can’t make them stop, they don’t listen… until they do. What more can I do, universe?

Wait.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Snow Queen – Charlie McCready – Parental Alienation

Walking my dog yesterday, I was thinking about The Snow Queen, a fairy tale which is essentially about the struggle between good and evil and the analogy with parental alienation.

An evil troll has invented a magic mirror that distorts the appearances of everything it reflects, magnifying only the worst and ugliest aspects and shows nothing of beauty or goodness. The troll’s friends try to take the mirror to heaven to see what God and the angels look like, but it falls to earth, smashing into millions of pieces. These splinters spread all over the earth, distorting people’s view of the world, making it seem dark and terrible, and making their hearts cold as ice.

One summer, years later, some splinters get into the eyes and heart of a boy called Kai, and he becomes aggressive, cruel, and destructive as everything and everyone now appears ugly and despicable to him. He no longer cares for his childhood sweetheart, Gerda. He meets the Snow Queen. She kisses him – once to numb him of the cold, and another kiss to forget about the past and those he loves. A third kiss would kill him … You can probably see where I’m going with this. Gerda, like a ‘target’ parent, searches everywhere for Kai. She discovers he is still alive but out of reach. On her travels, Gerda comes across a sorceress with a garden of eternal warmth and summertime and promise. It is trickery, and it holds her there, wasting her time (like family courts). It’s now Autumn, and Gerda is cold and exhausted. Her arduous, difficult journey continues with more setbacks and small triumphs emboldening her. Gerda learns that her love and pure, strong heart are all, and everything, needed to save Kai. (We are more powerful than we know!) The Snow Queen has Kai in a frozen-hearted stasis and under her control. Kai does menial tasks she sets for him. Supposedly if he finishes his tasks, he will be free, though that is not her intention. (Governments/tyrants/alienating parents). Gerda reaches Kai. Her love warms him, and the ice splinters are dislodged. He remembers Gerda. He remembers love. He is free. Everything becomes as it ever was. He sees beauty in life again, and it’s as if no harm or cruelty had ever happened.

What is interesting and different about this tale is that the glass splinters don’t ‘infect’ everyone (like Gerda, not all children are alienated). Kai wasn’t to blame for his behaviour when it was bad – it was circumstantial. He was unlucky to get the shards of ice in his system. Also, of note, neither the troll nor the Snow Queen gets their comeuppance, but once justice and love have overcome them, they hardly matter.

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Charlie McCready – Affirmations for the alienated/targeted parent

Affirmations are positive statements or phrases that people repeat to themselves with the intention of challenging and overcoming self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. I used them myself, and I believe they helped me enormously when I was at my lowest point in life. The basic idea is that by consistently repeating positive affirmations, we can reprogramme our subconscious mind, promote self-belief, and cultivate a healthier state of mind and attitude. There is some science and research behind it. Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, and Joe Dispenza are among the proponents of positive thinking, mindfulness, and the power of the mind. They have written extensively about the connection between thoughts, emotions, and overall well-being. ⁠

Dr. Joe Dispenza, in particular, emphasises the role of positive affirmations and visualisation techniques in rewiring the brain. When it comes to brain function, affirmations and positive thinking can influence neural pathways and activate specific regions in the brain associated with emotions, motivation, and self-perception. The repeated use of positive affirmations may lead to changes in neural patterns, encouraging the brain to create new, positive thought patterns while weakening existing negative ones. This process, known as neuroplasticity, suggests that the brain has the remarkable ability to reorganise itself, allowing people to form new habits and beliefs.⁠

The effectiveness of affirmations may vary from person to person, and their impact is often influenced by a person’s belief in the affirmation and the context in which they are used. Maybe worth a go?⁠

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