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Scared Divine Masculine

If I’ve learned anything from life, it’s that sometimes, the darkest times can bring us to the brightest places.

I’ve learned that the most toxic people can teach us the most important lessons, that our most painful struggles can grant us the most necessary growth and that the most heartbreaking losses of friendship and love can make room for the most wonderful people.

I’ve learned that what seems like a curse in the moment can actually be a blessing and that what seems like the end of the road is actually just the discovery that we are meant to travel down a different path.

I’ve learned that no matter how difficult things seem, there is always hope.

I’ve learned that no matter how powerless we feel or how horrible things seem, we can’t give up.

We have to keep going.

Even when it’s scary, even when all of our strength seems gone, we have to keep picking ourselves back up and moving forward, because whatever we’re battling in the moment, it will pass, and we will make it through.

We’ve made it this far.

We can make it through whatever comes next.

~Daniell Koepke

Artist: Saatchi Art

Sacred Divine Masculine

https://EmpowerWholeness.com

The meaning of true love from a man

The meaning of true love from a man.

I hate to say this but most women will go their entire lifetime and never experience the meaning of actual true love.

It’s even slightly depressing to think that most people will never understand how powerful this picture actually is.

This gentleman is a prime example of how men should be treating their partner with everyday that passes.

We unfortunately live in a generation with men who have no idea what it takes to be a real man.

Let me give you a couple examples of a real man ……

A real man asks about your day and genuinely cares about the answer.

A real man respects your boundaries and never forces you to anything you’re not ready to do.

He makes time for you, and takes that time to learn and understand who you are as a person.

A real man consistently shows you the definition of effort with every day that passes.

He will call you randomly throughout the day just to check on you and your mental health.

A real man is undeniably committed to you and looks for new ways to fall in love with you with every day that passes.

He makes protecting your heart a number one priority.

A real man never makes permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.

He never confuses you on where you stand in his life.

A real man apologizes when he is wrong and stays true to his character.

He doesn’t mind hurting other people’s feeling to protect yours.

A real man gives you affection without sexual expectation.

A real man refuses to entertain any women that isn’t you.

He has genuine intentions with you from day one and shows you how it truly feels to be a priority rather an option.

A real man will help you heal from the trauma that nobody apologized for.

A real man values you and would never put themselves in a position to lose you.

Take my advice and wait for the man that never let’s you fall asleep at night questioning your own self worth.

Masculine – Freedom & the Feminine

The masculine has three choices when it comes to freedom and the feminine…

The masculine in all of us seeks freedom.

The freedom to be the master of one’s own destiny.

The freedom to explore power and love on his own terms.

But there is no guarantee that the masculine will ever actually experience freedom.

Because he must grapple with the feminine

And that adds a whole layer of complexity.

Can you imagine a world with no women?

What do you imagine men would be doing?

Yet we do not live in such a world

We never will.

And so inherent to men and the masculine

Is a desire to meet the feminine

To experience intimacy with woman.

For most men, this is a perennial desire

And struggle.

He wants freedom

And he wants her.

How to resolve the two?

There are only really three options…

1. Freedom FROM the feminine

This is the realm of the f*&k boi, the man going his own way, and the tyrant.

“Woman cannot control me!” is his slogan.

He refuses to allow the impulse to merge with the feminine have any say in the matter, and so he keeps her at bay.

For the f*&k boi and player, oh he will explore intimacy… the most superficial kind… but the moment she gets close enough to have any influence over his internal world, his freedom… he is gone.

Onto the next one in an endless parade of novelty seeking.

The man going his own way simply gives up, and off into the wilderness of freedom he goes… no need for her, I’ll be fine. A dog, beans out of a tin and a caravan (or perhaps something nicer too).

And the tyrant… well he may be in a relationship, yet his intense need to be uncontrolled makes him controlling. Think of Scarface, the Wolf of Wall Street, Casino… he gets the girl, but she never ever ever gets him, not really and he will fight her until the abusive end to ensure it stays that way.

To be free from the feminine is to give up any real chance of experiencing intimacy with her.

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2. Abdicating freedom TO the feminine

Sadly many men will simply roll over and hand the keys to their wild masculine essence to her.

“You are the boss” he will simper, as he spends the next years trying, and failing, to make her happy.

Even more sad is how many women will coerce a man into this scenario believing it will provide her the safety and security she is craving, as the forces the submission of his power that she is also craving.

Women will utterly break men this way.

And weak men will allow themselves to be broken.

This is the saddest choice of all… and the only outcome is a gnawing core of bitterness.

Nothing worthwhile can grow from this scenario.

Let us grieve for how many relationships in the world are, right now, festering in this pit of patheticness.

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3. Freedom WITH the feminine

The last choice left to a man is to reconcile his desire for intimacy with her, with his own wild inner freedom.

This is a man who recognises that true freedom comes from within.

The feminine can never take it from him, and so he never has to fight her for it.

Freedom is not the ability to do whatever, whenever he wants… that is the freedom of a teenager exploring his first taste of independence… rather it is an internal experience that he uses to shine, to unleash his power in the most benevolent of ways.

This is a man who is the master of his own domain, the keeper of his kingdom.

And like any good King, he has a Queen next to him.

He is not beholden to her, he co-creates with her.

Reciprocal complementary polarity.

His unique gifts meets hers and together they create more than they could ever possibly do alone.

Freedom is not some set of circumstances that needs to be rigidly controlled to be felt… it is a place within.

Freedom is his

It always was

And it always will be

Nothing can ever take it away.

When a man embodies this… he soars.

And he is finally capable of the true depths of intimacy that are possible with a worthy mate.

✍️ Damien Bohler