Tag: abuse narcissistic behavior

There is no love in highly dysfunctional family systems. The word love is thrown around quite a bit, but more as a manipulation than a genuine expression of emotion. If love were genuine, it could not be given and then abruptly taken away any time you disagree on something.

Love in a manipulative family is given when they have a need of their own they want you to meet. It is given to get something in return. As soon as they get what they want, they stop showing you their love until they need something again.

Their love is quickly replaced with ignoring you, punishing you, raging at you, or ostracizing you. This type of inconsistency is grueling to be on the other side of. The teaching to take is to not expect love from people who simply do not value it.