Deprograming the Alienated Child

It is extremely difficult for the alienated child to accept that the trusted, favoured, ‘good’ and aligned parent, the one they chose over the ‘bad’ parent, the one they believed, the one they might have even lied for, and done everything they could to please, actually, in truth, had nothing but their own interests, (and vengeance) in mind. The betrayal and shock of this is so awful that it is easier for that child not to believe it. Not only that but it makes them feel so manipulated and gullible. In reality, coercive control is incredibly hard to combat and children believe their parent would never do anything to harm them. Parental alienation is harmful. It is abuse. So it is extremely hard for the child to believe this has been inflicted on them. But the acceptance is the first step in their healing, and de-programming. Undoing what might be years of lies and controlling behaviour. As a target parent, it is a minefield because mentioning parental alienation can insult and upset the child. So we have to tread carefully and be so conscious of their suffering (just as we have suffered too).

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser .. View all posts by GreatCosmicMothersUnited