Parental Alienators hide their abuse in shadows/Charlie McCready

Alienating parents and their cohorts work in the shadows. Their abuse is often hidden from sight to all but the target parent. This makes it 100 times worse as the target parent feels nobody hears them or sees what’s happening, not even the therapists and family courts. It makes it incredibly challenging for the target parent to seek help or gain support. It can also be covert and confusing to its victims because there are days when the alienating parent can be affectionate, kind, and caring. This is often why the abused child (and target parent) sticks around, hoping for more good days. But the moments of no-drama can give false hope. ⁠

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A few Quentin Tarantino characters come to mind. He writes his villains so well because he shows us the side they show to people they’re not abusing. In Django Unchained, Calvin Candie, played by Leonardo DiCaprio, is a charismatic and charming plantation owner. In one scene, Calvin talks about the French delicacy, “Croque Monsieur.,” amusing and entertaining his guests over a sumptuous dinner. But Calvin is also a cruel and sadistic slave owner who subjects his slaves to brutal treatment. The contrast between his charming demeanour and abusive behaviour highlights his character’s complexity and how he manipulates those around him. ⁠

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Just as characters in Tarantino’s films can appear charming while perpetrating cruelty, the alienating parent employs a similar tactic of alternating between kindness and manipulation. This intricate interplay between light and darkness serves to ensnare the child in an emotionally fraught situation. Unfortunately, many Family Court Judges don’t see through the charm, lies, trauma bonds, and indoctrination. They consistently ignore the abusive parent’s coercive control, psychological abuse and dishonesty, often giving that parent placement of the children. The system is broken and failing target parents and alienated children all over the world. We need to do all we can to bring this abuse to light.⁠

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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