A child’s view of parental alienation

From a child’s perspective:⁠

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Mom/Dad tells me I can’t see my other parent because they’re bad and they’ve done all these bad things, but I don’t understand why they’d do that. I always felt happy to be with them and I miss them. It hurts when I’m not allowed to see them. Why can’t I have both my parents like before? Why can’t I see both my parents like my mom/dad does? They’re angry with my mom/dad, but I’m not … although the things I hear are really upsetting. ⁠

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I remember when we did things together – like picnics and playing games. Now it’s just me and Mom/Dad. They say the other parent doesn’t care about me, but I can’t believe that’s true. Surely that’s not right! They used to laugh with me and hug me. It’s confusing because the stories I hear are so different from what I remember. It’s like my Mom/Dad I miss so much has always been a monster, and I didn’t know it. All the time, I had no idea how bad they really were, and I can’t get my head around it. I’ve kind of lost all the good memories too because I didn’t know the truth of what they have been all this time. It’s so sad. ⁠

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I try to understand it all, but it’s hard. I want to ask questions, but I’m scared it’ll make Mom/Dad angry or sad. Sometimes I hear them talking about court or lawyers, and I don’t know why. I wish I could tell them that I love both of them and want to see Mom/Dad too. It feels like a secret I’m not supposed to say out loud.⁠

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I don’t know why everything changed. I don’t want to think that one of my parents is bad. It’s like my heart is split in two, and I want things to go back to how they used to be. I wish I could understand why this is happening. I don’t think I can cope with thinking about it anymore. I’m just going to have to cut off because it’s too hard and upsetting. I do believe what my Mom/Dad says. Why would they lie to me? They are doing all they can to protect me from all this.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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