The Alienator -Charlie McCready

Your child’s true nature is loving. So is yours. Believe it or not, it is the same for the alienating parent, the narcissistic abuser – love. They just lost their way. The alienating parent’s unloving, controlling, destructive, vengeful disordered pathological nature has come about through fear, through experiences in their past that remain unresolved and unhealed. And they are incredibly jealous of your love. They dread it because it’s powerful. What you need to do is remember your incredible loving nature and don’t let them dim your light with their dark, controlling ways and fear.

Fear has a way of distorting perceptions and causing people to react in ways that may not align with an innate loving nature. The experience of fear can lead to a desire to control others or situations to protect themselves. This control can manifest in various forms, such as manipulation, dominance, or jealousy.

Jealousy often arises when they perceive you still possess a capacity for love or experience fulfilling relationships. Despite their best endeavours to break you. They feel a sense of lack, a void, a disconnect from love. Instead of recognising and addressing their fears and insecurities, they project their envy onto you, onto anyone who seems to be confronting, challenging, or ego-wounding them.

Love and fear are opposing forces. Love encourages openness, empathy, and understanding, while fear often leads to closed-mindedness, defensiveness, and a need to control. Recognising and understanding the role of fear in unloving behaviours can be a starting point for personal growth and transformation. If the narcissistic abuser or alienating parent could address their fears and insecurities, and their pathological parenting, if they could take responsibility rather than blaming others, they too could reconnect with their ability to love. They would remember their child’s sovereignty and everyone’s sovereignty.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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