Detractors – Charlie Mc Cready

Many detractors hate us being happy, none more so than an alienating parent. They’ve made it their mission to make us miserable by harming the love and relationship we have with our children because they know that will hurt us the most. What kind of person does this? Not a mentally sound or particularly happy one is the answer. Sometimes, this isn’t the case; they didn’t have a miserable childhood or unresolved issues; they’re ‘just’ vengeful, disordered, dark personalities. They will typically often have narcissistic traits and be manipulative, being comfortable lying and creating false narratives, and particularly good at provoking a reaction that then becomes all the focus. ⁠

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What we need to focus on is NOT them and their behaviours. That brings us down and makes us angry and upset. It’s not easy, but it is helpful to focus on what you envisage as an amazing outcome, a future you want to create. When we’re focused on problems, we magnify them, and they can dominate our thoughts and actions. It can drive us crazy. Instead, we are better off doing things and being with people who make us happy. It lifts our vibration/mood. That brings us more of the same. Like attracts like. Like gardening, if we water our plants, they grow. But also, if we water the weeds, they grow too. When we see a weed, we can pull it out at the root, and keep going back and weeding some more, if they grow back. The weeds don’t allow the flowers to bloom as they should. We have to grow and rise above the ‘weeds’ in our lives (and you know who I am referring to, I’m sure). Whatever you love will grow. Believe you are stronger than your problems. You are beyond them already. Focus on that. Love what you can, here and now. ⁠

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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