As our relationships with our toxic family deepens so does their ability to abuse us. When we are in highly dysfunctional families and manipulation and coercion substitute for love, we have no other experience to draw from when it comes to knowing what love is. When we believe that those who love us also abuse us, we are not set up for success in love.
A toxic family has to abuse and keep all members dependent. This is the only way to keep the system too confusing to leave. Further, no one can leave. Any family member who escapes exposes the toxic secrets inside the family system.
It can feel impossible to get out from under a family like this, but it is possible. It takes trusting the truth of your reality. Once you trust yourself you are on your way to getting to the point where enough is enough and you activate on that truth to set yourself free.