“People have forgotten completely that
sex is nothing compared to the merger that
happens when you are simply lying together
in deep love, in deep reverence, in prayer.
When physical energy is not sexually involved,
it rises to higher altitudes.
It can reach to the very ultimate,
to samadhi, awakening.
But people have forgotten completely.
They think that sex is the end.
But sex is only the beginning.
Whenever you love someone,
make it a point to first lie together in deep love,
and you will reach to subtler and
That’s how, by and by,
real celibacy arises.
What we call in India brahmacbarya,
real celibacy, is not against sex:
It is higher than sex,
it is deeper than sex:
It is more than sex.
Whatever sex can give,
but it gives more also.
So when you know how to
use your energy on such a high level,
who bothers about the lower spaces?
I’m not saying to drop sex.
I am saying sometimes to allow yourself pure,
loving spaces where sex is not a concern.
Otherwise you are pulled back to earth,
and you can never fly into the sky.”