Being raised by a narcissist father means your father hasn’t fully matured emotionally. His main focus is: his own needs, the way he’s perceived by others, and being ‘respected’ by his family. He tends to confuse respect with obedience. He doesn’t want connection, vulnerability, or emotional closeness—he wants control. He expects to be admired and followed without question, even if his actions are hurtful or unfair. Expressing your feelings or setting boundaries is seen as disrespect. In his world, love is conditional. If you agree with him, you are praised. If you challenge him, you are punished—emotionally, mentally, or even through cold silence.
Growing up like this teaches you to suppress your voice. You walk on eggshells, constantly calculating your words and actions to avoid triggering his ego. You learn to doubt yourself, to prioritize his moods over your own peace, and to shrink yourself so you don’t outshine him. Your achievements may be ignored or claimed as his own, while your mistakes are magnified and used against you.
A narcissistic father doesn’t guide or nurture; he dominates and invalidates. He’s more concerned with how the family appears in public than how they feel in private. Your emotional needs are dismissed as weakness, and empathy is rarely shown. Over time, this creates deep wounds—feelings of unworthiness, people-pleasing tendencies, and a longing for a father who truly sees and supports you. Healing begins when you recognize that his behavior was not your fault, and you start reclaiming your identity, one truth at a time.
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